- Mental Health
9 Ways to Be Happy
You want to be happy, I want to be happy, and they want to be happy. Why then do people desire happiness in life? It is simply because happiness is believed to be the ultimate currency in life, meaning that it is even more important than money itself.
It has also been said that goodness is goodness because it brings about happiness in life, and evil is evil just because it brings about unhappiness.
The debate in favor of happiness can go on and on, but on the final analysis I wish to say that we all desire and deserve happiness in our lives because it is the very pillar which supports a healthier and a more meaningful life for all of us.
This inevitably leads us to another question: Why then do we observe so much unhappiness around us?
The answer is that happiness and unhappiness are all attitudinal. They both emanate from the kind of conditioning we keep receiving in our lives over the years, the kind of thoughts we entertain, and to a large extent the kind of interpretations and meanings we give to events, situations, and happenings in our lives.
With the necessary knowledge and training, it is easy to see that happiness is a choice and unhappiness is also a choice. If this is true, how then can one decide to be happy at all times. There are so many ways, but below are about 9 tips to begin with:
Let Go of the Past:
This is the first advice, and it is especially true if the past holds nothing but bad memories. One of the best approaches to letting go of the past is starting out by forgiving yourself for your past mistakes and then forgiving every person that has ever wronged you in one way or the other. By forgiving yourself, you are simply accepting your infallibility and agreeing that in the seemingly bad memories of your past failures and mistakes there may be vital lessons and blessings in disguise that you may profit from if you reflect, and hence the opportunity to bounce back stronger. By forgiving others, you’re also freeing your mind and soul from the negative energy associated with hatred, revenge, and other negative tendencies. This then gives you the time and positive energy to focus on building a newer you and a newer life.
Optimism is an aspect of positive attitude. It can be best exemplified in the argument of whether a glass is “half-full” or “half-empty”. An optimist will always see the glass as half-full while a pessimist will always prefer to see the glass as half-empty. As the Law of Attraction says, “What you focus on, expands.” So, always try looking on the bright side of things. If you persist, it will only be a matter of time before the silver lining behind the proverbial dark cloud of life appears.
Be Close to Your Family:
Try to always maintain a close relationship with your family and friends. Our relationships with them have a greater impact on our happiness than anything else. Man is said to be a social creature. So appreciate the existing relationships that you have. It is an aspect of gratitude. If you want more in life, then imbibe the practice of being grateful for what you have presently. Little by little, you’ll begin to notice increases in all the areas of your life where you’re being grateful. You’ll begin to be happier, healthier, wiser, richer, and you name it.
Find Your Purpose of Life:
This is one of the elixirs of happiness in life. I’m telling you this without fear of contradiction that unless and until you make a conscious effort to find your purpose of life (what others call passion), then you’ll never be truly happy in your life. Your purpose of life is what you do to escape it all, and it also forms your tiny (as seen by yourself) but huge (as seen by others) contribution to the world. Job satisfaction plays an important part in your happiness and no job will give you that satisfaction and happiness as a job that is truly aligned to your purpose of life. If you’re not truly happy in your current job, don’t make the mistake of assuming that a career change from one job to another will solve your challenges. Your best bet is to find your purpose of life. In other words, what you’re truly passionate about and pursue it with vigor.
You need to make friends for various reasons in your life. However, for the sake of your happiness and well-being, try making friends with people who share a common interest with you. Part of the benefits of having friends is that you’ll never be lonely in your life. Besides, you’ll always get the necessary advice, support, recommendation, and understanding you need in life from your circle of friends. So, treat them as you’ll treat your family and you’ll always have reasons to be happy in your life. Seek membership of organizations and clubs that deal in things that you’re passionate about. In such places you could meet people who have the same interest and passion as you, and who could be the great friends you need to succeed in your life.
Regular exercising can go a long way in increasing and maintaining the overall level of your happiness in life. It is necessary for your physical and mental well-being. Physically, it makes your muscles leaner and stronger, and your organs to function more efficiently. Mentally, it can eliminate depression, anxiety, and worry that contribute to a lot of avoidable ailments in our lives. From today, make it a duty to exercise regularly. There are a variety of exercises you can begin to practice: jogging, yoga, swimming, weight lifting, golfing, running, or you can simply enroll with a gym and get the treat of your life.
If you have not yet started doing anything about developing yourself, then this is the time to start doing something about it. Self-help, self-development, or self-improvement all mean the same thing. There are a lot of books, courses, and coaches out there that can help understand the subject and consequently put you on the right track to enhancing the quality of your life and those around you. For instance, by developing yourself you’ll be able to find the purpose of your life, you’ll learn how to set and achieve seemingly impossible goals in life, you’ll know and understand yourself, and many other interesting discoveries that are vital to success in life.
Accept Challenges in Life:
It may surprise you to know that the world is perfect as it is, despite the fact that it will always be a mixture of ups and downs. The most important thing is the attitude you bring to dealing with either of the two sides of the coin of life. In other words the attitude you bring in reaction to a given situation is more important than the situation itself. Often, the challenges you encounter in life are nothing but detour signs or signals that are meant to lead you to a more beneficial cause. Not only that, they always come pregnant with enormous blessings for you in disguise. Whenever you’re confronted with a challenge in life, do not panic just accept it as it comes and insist on discovering its intended meaning and unraveling the enormous blessings it’s hiding from your view. A happy life is guaranteed for people who learn to accept and find ways of dealing with challenges in life.
Stop Looking for Other People’s Approval:
Stop trying to measure up to other people’s expectations in all you do. If you do that then you’ll never be happy in your life. We have been created differently with different whims and caprices. The thing that tickles your fancy may be the same thing that makes another person puke. You are your own person. So start living it for yourself and do not complicate it by seeking for other people’s approval. You may not get the approval even for things that are vital to your survival. However, whatever you decide to do, do it within the realms of the law.
The above tips have always worked for me, and I hope you too will share what you have tested and found to be working for you with our self-help community.