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Many of the Benefits of Living Alone

Updated on January 2, 2017
When you live alone, you have sole control of the remote
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All By Myself

I haven't lived by myself in years, but now that I am in the position of moving, I am reflecting on some of the benefits of living alone.

I have also provided a few of the cons of living alone, and a few videos and links that I hope you find helpful.

Feel free to participate in the polls, comment, and provide feedback. I enjoy input and interaction from my readers.

The Cons of Living Alone

Since there are always both pros and cons, here are some of the possible disadvantages of living alone, as well as some ways to rectify them:

  • It's your responsibility to keep the place as clean and organized as you would like it to be. But since it's just you, it's not so bad
  • Sometimes making meals for just one person can be a drag. But once you get used to making smaller meals, and maybe saving leftovers to eat later, it may not be so bad
  • If you're not careful, your perishable food may go bad. So be careful not to buy more than you can eat,or else have friends over to help you eat it
  • It may seem a little lonely at times, especially if you are used to having others around. That problem can often be solved by getting out to see others, talking to someone on the phone, or socializing online
  • I would imagine the biggest disadvantage of living alone is that you're responsible for the costs- rent, utilities, food, transportation. That can feel rough, especially if you've never lived alone, or are used to living with others. It is important to make a realistic budget, and try to stick to it as much as possible. It's also good to save money for the unexpected emergencies in life, and to have a cushion in your account or wallet

When you're alone, you can listen to music, sing loud, and dance crazy if you want ~ No one is there to object, or to think you're strange ;)
When you're alone, you can listen to music, sing loud, and dance crazy if you want ~ No one is there to object, or to think you're strange ;) | Source

It's All You

When you live alone, everything is your responsibility. That can be a little overwhelming if you aren't used to it. But it can also be liberating. When you live alone:

  • You call all of the shots, and make all of the rules in your home
  • You are not accountable to anyone, and can be as spontaneous as you want (at least to an extent)
  • You can have any schedule you want, without worrying about bothering someone
  • You can decorate the place the way you want
  • You don't have to clean up after anyone else
  • On the same note, there's usually not as much to clean, and sometimes not as much incentive to get too crazy with the cleanliness (although that could also be a bad thing...)
  • There's no one else to complain about or judge you
  • You don't need to compromise
  • You have the kind of privacy that is not even possible when you live with someone
  • You can wear, or not wear, whatever you want!
  • You can do whatever you want, without any disruptions or interruptions
  • You can listen to music, and sing and dance your heart out
  • When it comes to lighting and climate control, you have complete control. You don't have to worry about anyone else's comfort level!
  • Sometimes housemates make noise, whether they mean to or not. You no longer have to deal with loud snoring, unless your own is loud enough to wake you up


Living Alone

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You won't have to share any of these if you live alone
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No Sharing

  • When you cook, or prepare meals, you don't have to share- it's all yours!
  • With no one else to consider, you can buy whatever groceries your little heart desires (as long as you have the money)
  • You have the bathroom all to yourself. You can go in there whenever you want, take long bubble baths, and spend hours on your hair and makeup, if you really want to
  • If you have a tv, you no longer have to share the remote control! You can watch whatever you want, whenever. You can watch a complete season of your favorite show without anyone becoming antsy over your control of the television. You can watch things that your former roommate, relative, or relationship didn't like- even ones that they may have picked on you for watching!
  • No one ever messes with your stuff (unless you have visitors)
  • If you want, you can drink from a milk jug, or directly from an ice cream carton

Companionship

Even when you live alone, there are ways you can keep from becoming lonely.

  • Pets are great companions, although you should consider this with care. They can be high-maintenance, and add many additional expenses.
  • Fish are a little less maintenance, although keep in mind they can't be taken out to pet or play with
  • Plants add an element of life to a home, and can satisfy an urge to care for something
  • You can invite friends over for a fun time, or get out to socialize
  • The phone is another great tool to help avoid loneliness, although you should be considerate about the timing. Not many people want to be called in the middle of the night!
  • The internet is another great way to socialize. Instant messaging, social sites, and even writing sites such as HubPages are great for satisfying the urge to interact with other human beings

Important Thing to Remember

These are general advantages, and may not apply to everyone. Even when you live alone, you may be in close proximity to another house or apartment unit, and it is common courtesy to avoid being too loud or disruptive.

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Alone or En Masse

I have been weighing the pros and cons about living by myself, and I am still trying to determine whether I want to live alone, or find a roommate (or roommates) to live with. Cost is a big part of the equation.

Whether or not you live alone, make the most out of your life. There are benefits to both lifestyles, so it is good to figure out what is best for you at different points of your life, find ways to make it work for you, and enjoy yourself in whichever situation you are in.

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      Linda Crist 3 years ago from Central Virginia

      I'm a bit late here but I thoroughly enjoyed this piece. I've lived alone for a while now and thrive on it. Your polls I found particularly interesting. It seems there are many of us who are quite happy living alone. Great job! Voted up and sharing.

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

      Well I absolutely loved living by myself. Did not get married until I was 35 so I lived alone a long time. Even now after 13 years there are times when I miss that time. Especially that no one messes with my stuff. That was always my big pet peeve with a couple of college roommates.

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Europewalker,

      I'm glad that you have experienced time on your own, and that you got to know yourself before you met your second husband. That's great!

      I was alone briefly after I split up with my (ex) husband. But I have lived with different people over the years, and I will be semi-on my own soon. I am renting a room in a house, so I will have roommates. I will have my own space, but also have people around me at times, so I think it'll be good for me. But one thing I have learned from past experiences is that I need to become independent, and stay that way when I get into another relationship.

      Thanks for sharing your own experience, and for taking the time to read this.

      Have a wonderful weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Prasetio,

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment.

      Yes, we are social beings. I am happy to say that I am renting a room in someone's house, with free reign of the house, so I have some of the best of both worlds. I won't be spending as much money, I will be around other people at times, but I also will have my own space.

      Have a wonderful weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      MsDora,

      I completely agree with you! I always look at the pros and cons. Even if I am not in an "ideal" situation, I try to appreciate what I do have, and work on what needs to be changed.

      I think there are benefits to both sides. As of right now, I am going to live in a roommate situation. It costs less than living completely alone, and it will be good for me.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and have a wonderful weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Neil,

      That is a very interesting perspective on living alone! I think it is good to be satisfied with being alone, if that is the lifestyle you prefer. We have the choice of living the way we want, without any worry of anyone else's expectations.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and have a wonderful weekend.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Janet,

      You're welcome.

      I have only lived on my own once so far. I prefer companionship, for sure. But right now I will focus on becoming independent, and if I move in with a man again, I want to be able to maintain a level of independence, just in case.

      I am actually renting a big room in someone's house. The lady is really nice, as long as other roommates. It's in a great neighborhood, and it is still inexpensive. So I won't be too lonely, I'll be safe, and I will still have some of my own space.

      Thanks, I appreciate it. Have a great weekend, and thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I enjoy hearing from you.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Eddy, thank you very much! I need to get over to your page, and read more of your beautiful posts. I always enjoy them!

      Have a great weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      MG Singh,

      Yes, I would imagine that's true. I don't have any desire to be alone when I'm older! In fact, I prefer not to be alone now, but at least it is bearable at my age!

      Thanks for reading and commenting, and have a wonderful day.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Truthfornow,

      Due to the money part, I decided to rent a room in the house of a nice woman. So not only will I not be alone, but the rent is low, the lady has a cat :)

      and I still have my own room to be by myself in when I want to.

      Having a cat would definitely make living alone easier! The few months I lived alone a few years ago, I had a cat. He was such good company, and I miss him. I had to give him away when I moved out-of-state later on.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and have a great weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Randi,

      I enjoy looking at the pros and cons. I finally decided on living in someone's house (a nice lady) and paying for one room. I will save a lot of money that way, and be around some pretty cool people while I am getting back up on my feet.

      It does seem like the grass is greener on the other side! I try to be content with whatever situation I am in, though.

      Thanks, I'm glad you liked it!

      Have a great weekend.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Rebecca,

      Thanks, I put a lot of work into thinking about the benefits. I always like to look at the pros and cons when I make decisions. I decided to move into a room in someone's house, so I will have my own room, free reign of the living areas, and utilities are included in the low rent. Having a set budget every month will be helpful, since I'm not sure how many hours I will get at my new part-time job/s.

      Have a wonderful weekend, and thanks for reading and commenting.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Nell,

      I found a good solution to the loneliness. I decided to live in a house with other people, and rent a room! I was hesitant at the idea, at first, but when I met this one lady named Laura, I immediately liked her. I got lost on my way to the house, so she drove across town to pick me up, showed me around the neighborhood (gorgeous, right near a reservoir). When she showed me the house, I fell in love. It's an old house, full of character. And the housemates I met seem so nice. They even have a cat!

      I will still have a room to myself. A bigger one than I expected to get, too. I am excited at the idea of setting everything up, and decorating it exactly as I like it.

      All utilities are included in the rent, including cable and internet. And there's a cable hookup in my room, so I can get my own tv to use, if I don't feel like using the one in the living room.

      Thanks for reading and commenting, and have a wonderful weekend! I have one more week until I move, so I'll be busy, but I hope to be back to writing more often on H.P. soon.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Jainismus,

      Thanks for reading, commenting, sharing and bookmarking.

      Being your own boss is great! I haven't been alone very much in my life, so this should be interesting.

      Have a great weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Suzettenaples,

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment. I know I'm late at responding, but I want to do it now. I'm moving one week from tomorrow!

      I have decided on living with roommates, so I won't be fully alone, but there are still some benefits to just having my own room. Soon I will make an article on the pros and cons of roommates. That should be fun. I will be saving money over living alone, for sure! And I won't be lonely.

      I prefer being in a relationship, too. My last one was for 4 years, so it will be hard to get used to the single life. But I will be okay, and I'll adjust.

      Thanks for the compliment! I would love to write an article like this for a magazine. Maybe someday I will!

      I hope you have a wonderful weekend.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Many of the Benefits of Living Alone certainly there the ups and downs of living alone but once you set your mind to your own space you eventually come around to thinking of having that companionship remember if you choose to be alone it is different but if it is not by choice then things can be different. You have created a useful hub and mentioned valuable points

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      A really useful hub; great pointers to the pros & cons. I don't live alone but I do like my own space now and then and I wouldn't be worried about living alone. Doing what you want when you want has its distinct advantages! If you have many friends, it's probably good to get home to have your own space! Well done with this great read; everything set out clearly and effectively.

      All the best. Ann

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      Martie Coetser 3 years ago from South Africa

      I so-so-so agree with you, Kathryn!

      I was married for almost 20 years, and now single (but with companionship NOT sharing my home) for 22 years. The latter is heaven on earth!

      You have said it all!

      Bravo!

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Livingsta,

      I'm glad you like living alone, for the most part.

      I always like to think of the benefits of any given situation, so this was an interesting article to put together.

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and have a fantastic weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Thelma,

      It's nice that you got a little alone time.

      I do love cooking, although it'll be a big adjustment cooking for myself.

      Thanks for gracing my page with your presence. I enjoy your comments.

      Have a great weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Elizabeth,

      That's a great story! I am actually moving into a big room inside a nice lady's house, and I think I will like it there. I won't be alone, after all, although I still won't be in a relationship. That is a different kind of "alone", but I'll be okay. It will be a huge step stone to my own independence, too.

      Thanks for reading and commenting. It's always nice to see you.

      Have a great weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      ChitrangadaSharan

      Thanks, I'm glad you find it interesting.

      No matter what situation I'm in, I like to have some time to myself. Although I do like company, as well.

      Have a great weekend, and thanks for reading and commenting. It's nice to see you.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Fivesenses,

      That does sound like a problem. I guess there's pros and cons to everything!

      Thanks for reading, commenting, and for the votes and share. Have a great weekend.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Eric,

      You almost fooled me (head of the household), haha.

      Your time alone sounds interesting. A boat?

      I didn't think of making "all of the above" as a choice.

      Thanks for reading and commenting, and have a great day!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Vicki,

      Thanks, I'm glad you like it.

      It's cool that you are so independent. The freedom does sound pretty nice. It's nice to be able to see a boyfriend once in a while, and still have time for yourself.

      The expense is what is causing me to go in a roommate situation for now. I think it will work out well, and that is another idea for a hub :)

      Thanks for reading and commenting, and have a fantastic weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      FlourishAnyway,

      Thanks. I'm actually living in a roommate situation, so I won't be alone, after all. But I will still be single, and I can enjoy that.

      ... And the owner of the hose I am renting a room in has a cat! A friendly one. That makes me happy!

      Have a great day.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      WND,

      You're welcome. When I saw that review, I really wanted to post it! I like tying in things that are useful to my topic.

      Thanks for the support and belief in me! LOL, SuperKathryn!

      I absolutely will keep everyone updated, and I appreciate it.

      Well, I was doing good. It's too bad I have to put the challenge on hold, but I will be back to it as soon as I am moved and settled. I'm hoping it happens on the 26th of this month.

      Have a great weekend, and thanks for reading and commenting :) Seeing you cheers me up.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Deb Welch,

      I just read the article you mentioned, and it's interesting to hear your own view! Thanks for sharing that.

      I have mixed feelings about the idea, but I like to make the most out of every situation I'm in, and look at the positive side. It turns out I am actually moving into a room in someone's house, so I won't be entirely alone. At first I was hesitant to deal with a roommate situation, but it is so much cheaper. The people are also wonderful!

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and have a great weekend!

      ~ Kathryn

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      europewalker 3 years ago

      I lived alone for a few years after a divorce and I liked it. I really got to know myself. I met my second husband when I least expected it and was hesitant to live with someone again but it has worked out.

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      prasetio30 3 years ago from malang-indonesia

      For some reasons, I think we still need others people as social beings. But sometimes we need alone. Thanks for sharing this topic with us. Good job.

      Prasetio

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      I've lived alone and not alone. Based on your attitude to life, your present situation is always the better one, because both have pros and cons; and if you're smart, you'll always focus on the pros.

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      Neil Sperling 3 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      I've been on my own the majority of my life.... freedom to be - do - or not do all contribute to the lifestyle favorably. The most important aspect of living alone is being able to work on oneself. To connect with your ethereal awareness uninterrupted.

      Am I willing to change and live with someone....?

      No answer. LOL

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      Janet Giessl 3 years ago from Georgia country

      Thank you for sharing this interesting hub though I must admit that I have never lived alone so far. I'm a person that needs companion. I don't feel well when I'm alone. I think I wouldn't voluntarily live alone only if I had no other choice but I agree that it also has its pros. Good luck with your new beginning!

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      Eiddwen 3 years ago from Wales

      So very interesting Kathryn and voted up for sure.

      Eddy.

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      MG Singh 3 years ago from Singapore

      Its all very fine when you are young or middle aged. The problem will come when you are old and infirm, then staying alone would be a torture.

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      truthfornow 3 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      I agree that the money part is the biggest downside to living alone. Other than that, it is pretty okay. I share my home with a cat so I am never really alone.

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      Randi Benlulu 3 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      It does have its pros and cons. Having been back and forth, with a full house (VERY full!) I can say, without, almost, any question of a doubt, that "the grass is always greener on the other side!" Great article! You hit all the important points! Up+

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      Rebecca Mealey 3 years ago from Northeastern Georgia, USA

      Awesome! This is a great Hub for people that live alone to relate to. You have covered everything. I would agree that the responsibility of all the bills is definitely the biggest con. Lots of good pros, too!

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi kathryn, I have lived alone before, but it does get lonely at times. Saying that, I totally agree about the tv remote! lol! it's a funny feeling when you have been living with someone and then you shut the door and its all about you. It does have its perks as you said above, I do live with someone now but they are so laid back I get away with anything! lol!

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      Mahaveer Sanglikar 3 years ago from Pune, India

      Great Hub. I live alone so I am my own boss.

      I have bookmarked this page.

      Shared with my Hub followers.

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      Suzette Walker 3 years ago from Taos, NM

      Nice article Kathryn. I bet a magazine would love to have this article. I think you will enjoy living alone in an apartment. I have lived alone before being married and after my divorce, and it does have its advantages. I prefer being married or in a relationship,but since that is not happening at the moment, I love my alone time at home. It is wonderful to be able to do whatever you want when you want to. You really get to know yourself. LOL

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      livingsta 3 years ago from United Kingdom

      This is a very interesting discussion Kathryn. I have been living alone for a few years now, and I love it as I do not socialise much and like my own freedom and privacy. Sometimes it can be a very lonely feeling, but otherwise, I enjoy being alone in my own little world.

      Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us.

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      Thelma Alberts 3 years ago from Germany

      It´s great to be alone Kathryn! Although I have not experienced really very alone for a long time, but I was alone for 3 weeks living in Ireland when my hubby had to go home to Germany. Well, I had Angus with me. You know, our dog.

      There are lots of positive things you can or can not do. You will lose weight as it´s not nice to cook for yourself unless you love cooking. Well, you have mentioned everything I think in this hub. Good luck! Thanks for sharing. Voted up and shared.

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      When I was younger I had an apartment by myself which was an attachment to a residence. The homeowners were awesome and almost became like family - always making sure I was okay and safe. I loved it there. This was before I was married, but I loved having the freedom and the independence. It took a while to get used to, but it was a confidence booster and set the stage for independence. I wish you the very best of luck!

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      Chitrangada Sharan 3 years ago from New Delhi, India

      This is a very interesting hub!

      While most of us want to have company of someone, this is also true that there should be some ME time. You have brought out some interesting points or benefits of living alone.

      Nice hub and enjoyed it. Voted up!

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      Leena 3 years ago from new delhi

      I have lived alone most of my life and I love it.

      The only problem according to me is that as you grow older,you get set in your ways and subconsciously push people away.

      voted and shared.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      You did not have a box "all of the above". I have only lived alone a little bit but loved it -- on a boat and up in a cabin the woods. Here is a fun one -- I am the dad and the head of the household so I can do all that if I want to --- hihihihi daughters, sons and wives are my bosses.

      Great hub.

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      Victoria Lynn 3 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      Wonderful hub, very thorough! I have lived alone most of my life; I can't even understand how people don't like it! I have a boyfriend of ten years who lives about 1 1/2 miles up the road. We don't see each other much during the week--only the weekends, really. Talk about perfect! I don't have to worry about being too neat (he is neat, and I'm a clutterbug), what I cook or don't cook, that I have a lot of pets to take care of, etc . . . The biggest thing is the expense of living alone without anyone to help. But it's all worth the freedom. I don't expect to ever move in with someone. Why mess up a good thing? I love living alone!

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      When I lived alone I thoroughly enjoyed it. I found that the companionship of a pet was usually plenty, and if I wanted company I could always go out or call a friend up. Best of luck to you.

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      wetnosedogs 3 years ago from Alabama

      Thanks for putting my link to your hub. That is quite a compliment for me.

      I wish you well and strength in this new adventure of yours. You are SuperKathryn. You can do anything you need to or want to. LOL.

      Take care of yourself. And keep us updated. We are here for you.

      Great job on your challenge.

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      Deb Welch 3 years ago

      Kathryn - I wrote a Hub by the Title of Happily Living Alone and I touched on other areas. This Artitcle is excellent and very interesting. I have lived alone in all total about 27 yrs with pets, plants, and neighbors close-by. I have mixed feelings. Thanks for your slant on singlehood.

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Suzie,

      Thanks for sharing your story. Those sound like some great times!

      The only time I have lived alone was when I split up with my ex husband back in 2007. I rented a small one bedroom apartment that I adored. It was in a cute little community with a pool, even though it was an inexpensive building. I enjoyed the freedom, andwhen I got lonely I would go online, or distract myself with fn projects. I also had an adorably sweet cat at the time, and he was such great company.

      I think this time around I will do even better than before, because I have grown up a lot since then. Actually, being with Andy for those 4 years has been a tremendous help in my growth. I have been led out of my comfort zone a lot, and have had so many fun experiences, met some wonderful people, and gained skills I don't think I would have without him. I'm thankful for it, even though that relationship has ended- at least the way it was. We are still friends.

      Thanks for your encouragement, Suzie! I'm glad you see my improvement, and I hope to get better the more I write! I am so thankful I discovered this site when I did, because it has been tremendously positive!

      Have a great night, my friend.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Jan,

      There are always pros and cons to every situation. Sometimes it takes a lot of thinking to decide what is right to do. Once I decide on a course of action, I like to focus on the benefits, and not let the disadvantages bother me.

      I would imagine it must have been an adjustment, going from living alone to being married. I have been married before, but I went straight from living with family to getting married, and didn't live on my own at all until I split up with my ex, back in 2007. It was lonely at times, but I usually found things to preoccupy myself. I have good memories of my first taste of freedom. Actually, I probably should have written a short section on my own experience. But it probably is plenty long enough!

      Thanks for taking the time to read and comment, and I hope you have a great night!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Crystal,

      That is a great thought! If I end up living on my own, I will have to focus on the positives, not the negatives.

      Thank you for reading, and for taking the time to read this. Have a great night!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      Joe,

      I like to find all of the positives in any given situation, and whatever happens to me soon, I hope to adjust to and grow within. I may end up renting a room in someone's house to save some money, so I may have another topic to write about soon! Although I have so many topic ideas and inspirations right now, it is crazy!

      Thank you very much telling me of your own story, and encouraging me.

      Have a great night!

      ~ Kathryn

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 3 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Kathryn,

      What a terrific hub! I bought my own apartment 7 years ago when our economy was thriving and loved it. While MJ was very much in my life he lived 50 miles away and was working 12 hour shifts so I spent quite a good amount of time on my own and loved it! Doing what I wanted, when I wanted, walking around naked if I desired or being a couch potato on days off if I wanted! Watched what I wanted on TV, ate my kinda food, shopped when I wanted . . . . oh the freedom! LOL

      My father actually was worried more about my epilepsy and the fact I would be alone and what if . . he thought having a flatmate a good idea but I was not. i felt at my age I was not ready to share my new independence with another. I also could not afford a two bedroom apartment in Dublin at that time. I did not drive either then so was confined to bus routes or walking. It is all doable Kathryn and you will embrace it like I did, I know you will and you will thrive!

      Up, useful, interesting ,shared. Another awesome write from you, you are really growing leaps and bounds my friend, a real pleasure to read your work.

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      Janis Leslie Evans 3 years ago from Washington, DC

      Kathryn, this is a hub that many people can relate to as they live alone or miss living alone. I remember the freedom of living alone long ago. It was an adjustment after marriage but the pros certainly outweighed the cons. Voted up, useful, and interesting.

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      Crystal Tatum 3 years ago from Georgia

      I agree with you - there are a lot of pros to living alone and it's good to remember those when some of the cons are getting you down!

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Hi, Kathryn!

      I admire how you're finding strength in confronting the reality of a situation and sharing your perspective as well as inviting other to share theirs.

      There was a season in my life when I had to live alone for socioeconomic reasons. Truthfully, I preferred not to...but what I did enjoy and grow stronger in was the fact that I was accountable for all my thoughts, feelings, and actions. In a way that I don't quite have the words to fully express, the experience made me a stronger person and a better writer.

      I continue to wish you the very best. Aloha!

      ~Joe