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A Reality Check About Life: A Moment With Bill Reflection

Updated on June 20, 2013

DISCLAIMER

I have always wanted to start an article with a disclaimer, and this is my chance. Let me begin by saying that my intention in writing this article is not to anger anyone, nor is it to make anyone feel bad about their behavior. I do not believe in guilt trips, and I do not believe in pointing the finger of blame.

I am simply trying to declare, for your review, some truths about life, and raise some points that are easily overlooked during the frantic moments of a normal day. I am willing to bet that you all know these things, and I’m also willing to bet a Daily Double that you agree with them…..still…..it is pretty darn easy to forget them from time to time, and that’s what I’m here for today. Mr. Reminder, a living, breathing Post It note for those in need.

Shall we begin?

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A Moment With Bill

GET OVER IT

When you forgive, you in no way change the past - but you sure do change the future.

Bernard Meltzer

How old are you? Twenty? Forty? Sixty? How much regret have you accumulated during that time, like some moss-gathering stone defying the laws of physics? How much fear insanely based on the irrational? How much guilt and anger, resentment and self-flagellating belittlement?

In other words, what albatross is firmly attached to your ego and id, preventing you from spreading your wings and flying towards your potential?

I have three words for you.

Get over it!

I know, I know, it’s just not that simple. I heard an AA member once share in a meeting that if we all had his problems we would have gotten drunk too. I still laugh when I think about the insanity of that statement.

Life is ripe with excuse opportunities. One need not look far to find a reason to be miserable. One need not buy a road map to find the corner of Unhappiness and Discontent.

Let me put it another way. It takes very little effort to find something to blame our troubles on, but it takes one hell of a lot of effort to live a life free of misery.

In matters of personal character, that which costs the most gives us the most. Go figure!

I used to tell my son and my students the same thing. They would be whining about such and such, and telling me how rotten their lives were because of such and such, and I would simply say “get over it.” And yes, it is that simple if you are willing.

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THERE ARE NO FREE RIDES

Unless your name is Kim Kardashian of course!

There is a price tag attached to everything in life, so pay up and move on.

Whether it be an actual monetary value, or an intrinsic price labeled to self-esteem, there is a cost for everything in life.

Do you want to succeed in business? Pay the price! Do you want to succeed as a writer, or become a better person, or earn respect? Pay the price! Quit looking for the easy way out and the discounted value. Often times you get what you pay for, so why not pay for the best and then make it happen? There is no substitute for blood, sweat and tears, and the rewards gained from an honest effort are rewards that will multiply over the years.

Pay the price!

But it’s not fair! Why should I have to work so hard just to keep my head above water when some lucky bastards have it all and never have to work for it?

My uncle had to leave his family every summer and travel to Alaska where his job led him. I was talking to him one day and I said it didn’t seem fair that he had to leave everyone that he loved just to earn a living. He simply said that life is not fair nor is it unfair…it just is. Life does not make some random judgment concerning the justice of it all. It just doles out circumstances and how we react to those circumstances determines our character.

I have never forgotten those words.

Pay the price!

Shoulda Coulda Woulda

YOU ARE THE ROADBLOCK THAT YOU FEAR MOST

I have been called a Pollyanna, and I can live with that. What I know to be true is that every one of us is capable of so much more. I don’t have percentages. I doubt there are statistics to prove my point, but I know it in my gut. If we just learn to get out of our own way, we can fly with the eagles rather than crawl with the bottom-feeders.

What is holding you back? A serious question deserves a serious answer, and only you can answer it.

Is it your past? Is it a physical ailment? Is it some manufactured nonsense that sounds good but in reality has no substance? Is it the lack of support from loved ones or is it the lack of self-love?

Find the key to that puzzle and you will unlock a world of unlimited possibilities.

Sit with me awhile

SIMPLE IS ALWAYS BETTER

In a previous life, I was told once that I could make a typhoon out of a glass of water. True words!

Today I make a gentle flowing stream out of that same glass, and my life is infinitely better.

I had to learn to stop complicating life.

We are taught in math class that the shortest distance between two points is a straight line. We know this to be true but how many of us follow that wisdom during our daily lives? I would go from Point A to Point D, then turn left and head for Point Z, and during the trip bypass Point B several times, when in fact that had always been my destination.

Can you say exhausting?

Business Ethics 101: If you lie about your product and misrepresent it through your advertising then yes, you may see a sales increase, but it is wrong to do so.

Parenting 101: If you do not spend quality time with your children, and you model behavior that you do not want them exhibiting, there is nobody to blame but yourself when your kids stray from the path of the righteous.

Life 101: Stop making excuses and just do it!

Economics 101: If you spend more than you earn you will find debt, and where there is debt there is anxiety and fear, and where there is anxiety and fear there is unhappiness….sooooo….live simply!

Today I need a dictionary to spell typhoon. True words!

LOVE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT THING IN LIFE

Don’t waste my time talking to me about possessions, or social status, or climbing the ladder of success or any other nonsense that has a Madison Avenue image and a dime store value. Talk to me about love, baby, and nothing else.

On a related note, don’t talk to me about grab-ass, back of the Chevy physical attraction, but rather talk to me about forming a bond with fellow human beings, and reflecting love in every act that you do. If you can look me in the eye and tell me that you try to live that kind of love then I am your brother for life.

We come into this world the result of the supreme act of love. It is in our DNA, as natural as breathing, and yet day in and day out we do something or say something that does not reflect love in any way, shape or form.

Do you remember what it felt like when someone harmed you? Do you remember the pain, the anguish and the feeling of victimization? Then why would you choose to do that to someone else? Why would you choose to ignore the suffering of others when you have experienced suffering? Why would you choose to not care about others when you know that apathy steals your very humanity?

Logic 101: Love begets more love. Hate begets more hate.

With love there is hope. Without love there is a bleakness the likes of which we, as a society, cannot survive.

Yes my friends, love is the most important thing in life, and we need to start giving away tickets to the Love Train or we will all derail.

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SO HOW IS YOUR REALITY?

As though I were an extra in the movie “The Sixth Sense,” I see dead people all around me, and it saddens me greatly. The life has escaped from their eyes, and laughter lines have been replaced by gloom and doom lines. I understand it because I have been there. I also understand there is a different way to live because I am there.

Some people stop breathing and die. Others continue breathing and are just as dead.

Today I choose to live. Say those words with me. I choose to live! Now embrace it, and incorporate it into your every action. The suffering and pain is a thing of the past. The self-doubts and self-flagellation are things of the past. You have been stuck in neutral for far too long. Your torque converter is now functioning properly and you can run through the entire range of gears, so head out on your personal highway and let that transmission work the way it was designed to work.

Today I choose to live!

Are you ready?

2013 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

“Helping writers to spread their wings and fly.”

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      I love it! "Get over it" is such a simple statement, but sometimes it is all that is needed.

      I really like your uncle's view of life. That is the kind of quote that would be worth framing, and placing on a wall.

      I enjoyed your reality check about life, as well as your disclaimer at the top.

      Have a wonderful day, my friend!

      Voted up and shared.

      ~ Kathryn

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Kathryn! This must be your day off since it is after ten there. If so, enjoy it. If not, enjoy it. :)

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      Janine Huldie 3 years ago from New York, New York

      Great words of inspiration and I am so with you on choosing to live and do whatever I need to do to attain my goals. Thank you as always for sharing your wisdom with us and hoping you are having another wonderful day today!!

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      Kathryn 3 years ago from Manchester, Connecticut

      It is my day off, and thank you very much.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Very cool, Kathryn....again, enjoy it and do something nice for yourself.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Janine, you are the living, breathing personification of this hub. Just one reason why I like you. :) Thank you my friend.

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      Sheri Dusseault 3 years ago from Chemainus. BC, Canada

      Words of wisdom! We should start a Polly Anna facebook page....I have been called one too (often scathingly...the unsaid being that those of us who choose to look on the bright side and remain opptimistic are niave at best and stupid at worse)...still it is a handle I wear proudly. Thanks for the nice start to my day Bill.

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      carol stanley 3 years ago from Arizona

      Get over it...good advice.. and many of us cling to useless bad feelings about things that have happened way in the past. However, continued bad behavior is to be looked at and make a decision about a continued relationship. Blame is a daily word for many people. It is so easy to blame all bad behavior on incidents..We all have had issues and trouble in our lives..but constant blaming...I grew up with that behavior around me. So I guess "get over it " is pretty good advice

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      Hawaiian Odysseus 3 years ago from Southeast Washington state

      Bill, I am certainly tired of the rat race. One of the main reasons I like, love, and respect about you (and at times, when I say "you," I'm referring to the collective "you" that includes Bev, just as I'm doing now) is that you're a proponent of a return to the simple life. I enjoyed both videos, but the second one (first time I've seen it) was especially significant and meaningful to me. It moves me to have a heart to heart with my son and daughter about the importance of finding a "fall back position"--that is, working for themselves. Your credibility in these hubs and videos underscores the real wealth you and Bev possess. Thank you for not hoarding that kind of wealth but, instead, willingly giving that treasure away to others. THAT'S the kind of ministry that has no denomination...rather, it's a truly H.O.W. kind of thing!

      Aloha, Bill, and have a wonderful day!

      Joe

      PS By the way, thank you so very much for the beautiful words you wrote in your comments for Liz's latest hub. Very encouraging, my friend! Ciao!

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      Faith Reaper 3 years ago from southern USA

      Awesome Dearest Bill!

      Yes, forgiveness is of the utmost importance in our lives, if we are to ever move forward. It is hard at times, especially if there is one who continues to harm us, but we can set up boundaries, but still forgive that person. A lot seem to believe that just because we have forgiven them, that we can trust them once again. This is not true. We are called to love all others, so in order to do such, we must forgive. When we do not forgive, it only harms us, and can actually cause physical illness and disease to our bodies.

      If we have been alive in this world, even for a short time, we all have experienced betrayal or harm from another, so forgiveness is key in guarding our own hearts so that we do not go through this life living in a negative state and, thereby, wasting our most precious gift, life! Yes, live it!

      Blessings, Faith Reaper

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 3 years ago from United Kingdom

      Very insightful and it comes at a good time. :)

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      Suzanne Ridgeway 3 years ago from Dublin, Ireland

      Hi Bill,

      "Get over it" how 3 little words pack a punch of reality, well said! Like our good friend Joe I am sick of the rat race that so often consumed my daily life and thank god I have taken steps to change. Working to live and living to work are both ways I have felt at different times. Now I feel new dawns are rising with our new move to the Med, my writing and the love of my life by my side with new challenges, perspectives and outlooks. Your writings are always so on the money and tap into so many hearts with a dose of reality check time! Thank you dear friend for another lesson in what is important in life.

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      Elizabeth Parker 3 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

      Great words to live by and I think we all need that gentle reminder from time-to-time. I agree that there are no free rides. There is nothing like hard work and eventually, it has to pay off. I think it's important that if someone is going to complain, then hopefully they have done everything in their power to change the position they are in before complaining. We all have to start by helping ourselves. Great hub - voted up!

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      Vickiw 3 years ago

      Hi Bill, enjoyed this, and endorse your points of view and your beliefs. It is great to see them written for all. Hope your garden is growing well!

      Thank you, my friend.

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      Nell Rose 3 years ago from England

      Hi bill, I will have to show this to my brother! lol! honestly, moan moan moan! If he can't find something to moan about then he moans about that! seriously wise words, we all have to do our bit for ourselves, and keep on doing it, okay we can mutter under our breath, but hey thats human! lol! have a great day! nell

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sheri, I have heard those words before too, and that's fine with me. I prefer to see the positives and if that makes me abnormal then I can live with that title. :) Have a great day and thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Carol, I see it daily and hear it daily and I refuse to let it infect me. I will continue to live with a smile on my face and grab hold of the present as the gift that it is. If others want to wallow in the past that's fine; just don't bring it around my door.

      Thank you my friend and I hope you have a PIPO day.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Joe, your comments are often times more eloquent than my hubs. I should feel jealous but instead I feel gratitude. It is so nice to find a brother who loves life as much as I do, and who has paid his dues and speaks from experience. Thank you my friend, and I'm very happy that you enjoyed the videos.

      Aloha

      bill

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      Pamela Oglesby 3 years ago from United States

      I agree - just as you predicted many of us would. I enjoyed the hub and get over it is just as good a way of saying it as anything I can think of right now. Live each day to the fullest is my motto, and I am happy. Have a great rest of the day!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Faith, what a beautiful comment and I agree with every word of it. I have forgiven others many times but not allowed them to infect me again. Boundaries are necessary, especially for those of us who choose to see the positives in life rather than a constant harangue of negatives.

      Sending you a PIPO day my friend.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Phoenix, that's the best type of message, that comes at just the right time. I'm glad it did, and thank you!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Suzie, I do love your attitude. Grab hold of this new day and enjoy the hell out of it. We only get one shot at this thing called life, so let's enjoy it to the max.

      Thank you for your friendship. One day you are going to find Bev and I on your doorstep and then let the fun begin.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Liz, I obviously agree. I don't mind complaining if it is backed up with an effort to change circumstances. There is always a way, but sitting back and waiting for change, and complaining when it doesn't come, is a fool's errand.

      Thank you for the visit. You are appreciated.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Vicki, you and I come from a different era, and it is one we could all learn by. I believe in the value of hard work, and I believe in the credo that you do not give up. We plow forward and make a good life for ourselves, and wallowing in self-pity is a complete waste of time.

      Thank you dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Nell, I have close family members who are champion moaners, but they know better than to bring it around me. That is a mistake they only make once. LOL

      Thank you Nell and enjoy your Thursday.

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      Eric Dierker 3 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sometimes truth sets us free. Your truths here are an emancipation. My life has just been made better by how you lead your life. Carpe Diem

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      Liz Davis 3 years ago from Hudson, FL

      True words, Billy! I especially love that paragraph on your uncle's philosophy. It's all in your perception. Your mind has the power to make you either happy or sad, no matter what your circumstances. Thanks for sharing this awesome message today!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pamela, I love your motto. I don't have that much time left and I really think I need to appreciate the time I have left rather than wallow in the past or worry about the future....the future is now my friend. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, emancipation is one of those words that is not used nearly enough, and when it refers to the human spirit it is a beautiful word. :) Thanks my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lizzy, you live your words and that's just one reason why I love you.

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      Connie Smith 3 years ago from Southern Tier New York State

      Billy, I find the past can often pop into my head at the oddest times. I hate that instant replay, and repeatedly tell myself to close that door, lock it, and move on. I am totally with you on this one--'now' is what matters the most, as you so eloquently pointed out. Excellent my friend, and thanks for the reminder ;) Pearl

      Voted UP++

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      DJ Anderson 3 years ago

      You have told me, in the past, that I have done things and written about them, and they made you cry.

      I guess turn about is fair play.

      Bill, do you realize that there are men and women walking around that have not been told, in decades, that they are

      special.

      What an amazingly powerful piece of work you have given us,

      today!

      Bill you have over 1500 followers.

      What preacher or speaker who not aspire to have that many people hanging on to their every word? Twice I listened to your recording.

      The power of your words are making positive changes in people's lives. Know that you are appreciated.

      Thank you,

      DJ.

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, you've offered another collective kick in the ass for all to heed. The past is the past. Sure, it helps form who we are and will become, but they should be stepping stones, not gravestones. We hold our destiny in our hands. Do we build it or act as though we've run out of the resources needed to build the creation of our dreams?

      People can piss and moan all they want. The only thing it changes is a smaller group of those who are willing to offer their help and support and a stagnation of self. That is a crying shame.

      I know which path I choose!

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      Sharilee Swaity 3 years ago from Canada

      Bill, great piece of writing here. For me, the part that resonated the most was the "keep it simple." I love your analogy of the line between A and B. I am notorious for making things too complicated, and you gave me a gentle reminder to not do that. And I give you a huge high five for the part about not talking to me about status and STUFF -- agreed! Waste of time. If we have stuff, that's nice, but it's not worth anything in the long run. LOVE this. Have a wonderful day, my friend!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awww, Pearl, thank you! I love to write pieces like this that lift people up and give them hope. It's what I was born to do. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, I'll tell you a little secret. When I wrote this I asked Bev if she wanted to hear it. I told her that I didn't think it was anything special, and then I read it and she was crying. I thought it sounded like a parody of my earlier writings and she thought it was simply beautiful.

      Go figure! LOL

      That's a long way of saying thank you. There are days I have no idea what impact my writing has on others. Thank you for sharing with me your beautiful perspective. I greatly appreciate it.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, stepping stones and not gravestones. Now there is a great line that only a writer could think of. I love that message my friend.

      Thank you so much. I hope you are well and happy.

      love,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Sharilee and it's nice to see you. I hope you are enjoying your summer vacation and finding time to rest up after a long school year.

      I appreciate your words and it's nice to know someone else follows the A to D to Z to B path. LOL

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      Shauna L Bowling 3 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, feel free to use it anytime. I'll smile everytime I read the words. I'm having computer problems. Sound is going out - can't hear videos. Have worked with techs all morning for other issues but still have the sound problem. Drivers are good. I have a spare pair of speakers I need to try to see if the problem is in the speakers themselves. Sheesh, if it's not one thing it's another. But they are all just stepping stones, right?

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, when something goes wrong with my computer I just scream for Bev. LOL I know nothing, but it does sound to me like it might just be the speakers or the connection. Good luck and yes, all just stepping stones.

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      MizBejabbers 3 years ago

      Bill, I love your three words because there's a life less on there. My boss has a five-word version that I really like, “Eat something and get over it!” There were seven kids in his family, including him, and he said that’s what his mother used to tell them when she broke up an argument. I’ll never forget the day I was fussing about something that didn’t go right and he said that to me. The rest of the day went better after I had a good laugh with him. He’s said it to me many times since then, and I always feel better.

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      livingsta 3 years ago from United Kingdom

      I have no words for this beautiful hub Bill. Awesome. Thank you for sharing with us.

      Smiling.....

      Sending you blessings and warm wishes!

      Have a great day my friend :-)

      Sharing!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      MizB, I love it....just shut up and go eat. LOL I swear, today's society has become so PC....always have to make sure that nobody has their feelings hurt.....oh just shut up and get something to eat and get over it! No worry about feelings in that saying now is there?

      Thanks for the laugh and the visit.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dahlia, thank you! It's funny but I wasn't too happy with this one when I finished it. Seems I was wrong because the message was received by many.

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      Jackie Lynnley 3 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I learned forgiveness early in live and am so glad I did. It was about the same time I stopped thinking I was so hot. lol Seriously though I had a family member up into his eighties claiming he forgave this one and that one but they were on his mind every day of how he did that. I think to really forgive we have to let go. No we shouldn't be a fool and try to avoid people who hurt us but forgiveness does not eat at ones soul. Always food for thought.

      Another great one. ^

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 3 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Forgetting past mistakes is the first step to finding happiness. Whining about the past is such a bore, get over it and move on. Thank's for another great reality check...

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      Martin Kloess 3 years ago from San Francisco

      Thank you for this. We can still be good friends. Reality has little to do with the life I lived. You ever heard,"don't dream it, be it"?

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      Patricia Scott 3 years ago from sunny Florida

      Voted up above and beyond Billy

      I stand before you guilty as charged. However time has enabled me to learn and pull up my big girl panties and move on...I have written about moving on and some of the other topics you have alluded to herein...and I do believe that is what keeps me coming back. For sure you are a kindred spirit. A reminder of what we need to do to make our lives better is always a good thing. So many things have happened in my life time in this decade that I am not the person filled with regret of previous decades....and for that I am so thankful. You say it well ...and I am blessed to know you here on HP.

      Blessings and an abundance of Angels are on the way ps :)

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      I could think of many people who should read this, but they include me. Thanks for this forthright approach to the prerequisites for a life worth living. We bless others when we share love, forgiveness and all the other godly virtues.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jackie! I found freedom the day I let go and gave up my madness. Everything else fell into place that day.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I love that....it is such a bore. Yes it is my friend and I'm not into boredom. :) Thank you Ruby and have a wonderful weekend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Martin, I am very careful about what I wish for.....it often times is not what I need. :)

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, the blessings are all mine. I have met several people who have become dear friends on HP....you are one of them. You have crawled inside my skin and my heart, and I will always be thankful for you.

      blessings and a hug coming your way

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Dora, I love your last sentence. We do, indeed, bless others when we share love. It is the greatest blessing of them all. Thank you for that.

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      Mary Craig 3 years ago from New York

      Live is neither fair nor unfair....how true, it is what we make it. Loving everyone and everything makes it all look so much better. Is it easy? Not all the time, but it works.

      Mortality has a way of making us face our lives and those around us. Life is to short to hold grudges or run around moaning. Live and love...you know that's my motto and I wish it for everyone. Thanks Bill for this uplifting hub...okay, its more of a shove hub but, thanks.

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, a gentle shove. :)

      Life is to short....true words and I wish more people would realize it and get on with the business of living. I think they might enjoy it. :)

      Thank you Mary and again, have a great weekend.

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      Bala 3 years ago from India

      This morning I was worried about my health. Felt gloomy. So, I had decided to read a hub on health before I called it a day and went to bed. Here I am, With the hub!!! Healthy Attitude is also an important factor in one's life. Agreed!

      Thanks Billy!

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      yougottheguy, I think a positive frame of mind is crucial for improved health. Best of luck to you, whatever your health problems may be, and thank you for the visit.

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      Victor W. Kwok 3 years ago from Hawaii

      My life's going okay. You are so right about life, and I've seen and heard a lot of stories that support what you are saying.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm glad to hear you are doing well, vkwok! Take care my friend and have a great weekend in Hawaii. Aloha!

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      drbj and sherry 3 years ago from south Florida

      Your positive perspective, Bill, and my perspective are exactly the same. The only difference? You say Get over it. And I say Fuhgeddaboudit!

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      Deonne Anderson 3 years ago from Florence, SC

      Very good and sound advice as usual.The two words that stand out for me are "forgiveness" and "love." Once I was able to love everybody as I love myself, and to forgive those who had harmed and hurt me, my whole life changed. I was born anew. Thanks for the reminder.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      drbj, basically the same thing....just a different language. LOL Have a great weekend my friend.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lady, you said it all. That, too, is when I found freedom. :) Thank you for stating it so eloquently.

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      Cat 3 years ago from New York

      Well, Billy, you are the epitome of life's pep talk! I've always thought that I shouldn't need a disclaimer for a piece of writing... until after the comments start rolling in! Ha ha! No, seriously though, there were very many parts of this that really resonated with me and I so adore how you want to pick people up and have them walk with you rather than stepping over them. It's very admirable and I'm certain you make a difference!

      Have a wonderful night Billy,

      Cat

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Awww, thanks Cat! All I can do is try. I want everyone to feel the same joy for life that I feel. Not realistic of course but that's always my hope.

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      Deb Hirt 3 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      Unless you're born with a silver spoon in your mouth, and your parents are willing to give you everything, there is no need to do anything. BUT the rest of us need to make our way in life. It is a fact of life, and we can do it, just like our parents did.

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      Michael-Milec 3 years ago

      Good evening Bill.

      Supreme! Congratulations on the best written " sermon " with the absence of theological annotation I've ever read. Better to say a lesson from which useful knowledge, principles and life-long productivity appear on the surface of every area livelihood.

      Most of I like to add would be ditto to all wonderfull comments along with a remark to " in a previous life..." ( I had one, what's allabout or related to [ha] ).

      Looking forward in this life though to look into your eye something very important need to tell you, which won't be revelant when we see each other on the " other side ".

      Voted up nd awesome.

      May the Heavenly Father bless you richly , my brother for life.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Deb, it's time more people realize that there are no free rides. I want to see the pride put back in America.....I'm not sure what it will take for that to happen, but I'm going to keep sending out the message and keep hoping.

      Thank you my friend and I'll see you at the lake soon.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael, we will indeed meet one day. Until then, keep walking the path of truth and love. One can never go wrong on that path.

      Blessings always my friend

      bill

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 3 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Bill, thanks for this fine message. To get ahead we need to get over it, to choose life and not be the living dead.

      Masterful piece as always, my friend.

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      Ann Carr 3 years ago from SW England

      You are so right, as always! I've had a few grudges in my life; now I ignore what I can do nothing about and concentrate on the people I love and the things which I love. It IS as simple as that, as you say. It's not always easy to do it but as I get older it becomes easier - is that experience or is it that we realise life is too short? I don't know; but I do know that I love life, I enjoy it and I do my best to make sure my family and friends can enjoy it too, especially when they're with me. Back to Britain next week (and to a daughter's wedding which will be filled with even more love!) so I'm hoping to post more hubs. Ann

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Rajan! We will have much time to join the dead when our time comes. For now, let's live life to the fullest.

      Blessings my friend and have a great week

      bill

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, I hope you are able to write more next week. I know I always enjoy your writing. Have a wonderful time at your daughter's wedding and thank you as always for visiting me.

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      Lurana Brown 3 years ago from Chicagoland, Illinois

      "He simply said that life is not fair nor is it unfair…it just is. Life does not make some random judgment concerning the justice of it all. It just doles out circumstances and how we react to those circumstances determines our character."...so true! And how much unhappiness we can save ourselves if we just get over it. Thank you for all the wise words. :-) ~Lurana

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Lurana, it is so nice to see you again. I hope you are well my friend and yes, this is a philosophy that would serve quite a few people well. :)

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      Glimmer Twin Fan 3 years ago

      Love this. My dad always used to say life isn't always fair, get over it. Easier said than done sometimes. Try telling that to a 10 year old, especially an only child! I have found that I am much happier if I get over it.

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      Bill Holland 3 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Glimmer, I was basically that ten year old and it is hard, and all the wisdom in the world doesn't help when the walls are pressing in and you can't seem to breathe.....

      Thank you my friend.

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