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Addiction and Love

Updated on August 23, 2013



Judge not lest you be judged

All addiction comes down to every human beings desire to love and be loved. There is only one real truth in the world and that is love. Without love human beings look for the next best thing...pleasure. The problem with pleasure is that it ends and hence the cycle is set up.

A man addicted to sex may have been abandoned as a child, and a woman addicted to shopping may have been neglected as a child. We are designed to survive and without the basic resources that come from being brought up in a stable loving environment the subconscious makes decisions to ensure we survive. Sometimes the decisions mean taking alcohol to numb the pain. If you saw a soldier on the battlefield with his guts hanging out would he tell him it was wrong to take morphine and that he should face his pain like a man? Just because we cannot see emotional pain it does not mean it is any less than physical pain. Emotional pain is in some ways worse than physical pain and because nobody can see the suffering, the person in pain suffers alone. Is it no wonder things like drugs and alcohol are in such huge demand on our planet.

It is not just to drugs and alcohol that people become addicted to, people use everything and anything to numb the pain and distract their suffering minds from what they perceive as too painful to face. I deal with peoples' pain and suffering on a daily basis as a Hypno-Psychotherapist and I whisper to their souls to listen to that inner voice of wisdom that lies within each of us.

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    • Mr. Happy profile image

      Mr. Happy 

      10 years ago from Toronto, Canada

      I still think everyone judges and neither you Mr. Spirit Whisperer or Mr. Arvind or anyone else has been able to fully do away with "wants" or "judging".

      I am not saying this because I care to be right or wrong or whatever. I use logic (for the most part) and logic does not allow me to just swallow explanations. Logic forces me to ask a billion questions.

      Thus, if I want to quit something - that's a "want". If I am told not to judge then, the person telling me not to judge - judged that I should not judge.

      You see? So, as I said to Mr. Arvind in a last comment, even searching for knowledge, or wanting to learn more - those are wants. To love is a want, etc.

      There's a glitch in logic here. I agree for the most part with what you say but ya ... we all judge and we all want things (in my opinion).


    • Spirit Whisperer profile imageAUTHOR

      Xavier Nathan 

      10 years ago from Isle of Man

      Thank you Mr Shinn for visiting and taking the time to comment. I am very glad that you like what I write and I will pass your compliment on to my wife.

    • W.R. Shinn profile image

      W.R. Shinn 

      10 years ago

      Mr. and Mrs. Spirit Whisperer, High regards to the both of you for breaking through and becoming one of the first to be recognized in your field. Congratulations! Thanks for the great hub. I'll be back for more insight and common sense, hopefully before I take off my coat. May God continue to bless the both of you. Thanks again.



    • Spirit Whisperer profile imageAUTHOR

      Xavier Nathan 

      10 years ago from Isle of Man

      Thank you Ashantina I really appreciate your support and heartfelt comment.

    • Ashantina profile image


      10 years ago

      There are so many external stimulants which ultimately distract us... from our Selves. The link between addiction is so definitive as you've clearly explained.. I've seen it so often esp with alcohol addiction and abandonment.

      The work you do here on planet Earth SW is truly purposeful and much needed :) Stay Blessed.


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