- Aging & Longevity
Age Difference Between Spouses
The majority of couples you see are within a few years in age, or at least in the same decade. Occasionally you meet a couple that seems more like a parent and child relationship. The man may be the age of the girl's father, or a girl may be with someone that seems more like her grandfather.
We often judge that the male probably had a midlife crisis or that he wanted someone that could keep up with his sexual appetite.
I am more familiar with men who have married older women. They seem to missed out on an abundance of nurturing when they were young. Never mind that she will probably age faster than him. As long as she cooks like his mother and is more mature than the girls his age, he is willing to put up with a bit of sagging here and there.
Since it is known that girls mature faster than boys, it may be best that there are a few years difference in a couple’s ages. Whether it is older or younger, that is up to the individual. An immature person will look for someone more mature that they can rely on. A mature person will want someone compatible with his wants and needs.
My Dad is 88 years old and enjoys companionship with a lady the age of one of his daughters. They usually go out to dinner and to a movie, and enjoy each other’s differences. He does not expect much from her and she feels protected and happy just to have a social outlet. When they go out, they get some pretty strange looks, but neither pay much attention to it.
It will be different for each person. If our expectations and wishes are met by another person, it really does not matter their age. You see couples of all shapes, sizes, ages, cultures and religions. The thing that is most important is that they can communicate well with one another. If one person is being domineering over the other, then there can be problems between couples. That is also true of couples that are around the same age.
The social structure of a country determines the age difference in a couple more than any other factor. Certain cultures force their young girls to marry older men.
Often the half your age plus seven rule is used to judge if a couple should marry.
What do you think is the best age gap in couples
Do you find yourself judging couples who have a large gap?
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