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Alcoholism Will Ruin A Family

Updated on February 5, 2012
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Do you think you have that perfect family? Many of us do, but many families have alcoholism in their family and I am here to say that alcoholism will ruin a family if it is not faced head on.

Many families that have someone that has an addiction to alcohol living with them, such as a spouse, a father or mother effects the family in a negative way. The alcoholic doesn't realize that the actions they take and the addiction they have is ruining their family ever so slowly. These alcoholics can't see beyond their own addiction and don't realize they are not only harming them self, but everyone in their family as well.

The family loves the person that has this addiction to alcohol, but really doesn't know just how to handle his/her addiction that is ruining their family. Many families are afraid to stir the soup and cause waves by harassing the alcoholic and threatening them to stop drinking alcohol.

So, by not standing up to the alcoholic and stop making excuses for them, they are trapped in this addiction to alcohol as well as the alcoholic them self. It is a hell of a way for any family to live surrounded by this horrible addiction and to expose their children to something that will in turn ruin their family and give a poor example to the young children that see this each and everyday of their young lives.

DON'T ENABLE THE ALCOHOLIC

Don't do things to make the alcoholic think that they have your permission to drink alcohol. Don't enable the alcoholic by giving them money to support their addiction, or drive them to a liquor store so that they can restock their alcohol. Don't give them the feeling that it is okay to drink.

Be supportive to the alcoholic in any way you can, regarding talking to them and trying to make them realize and understand that this addiction they have is ruining their life and ruining their families life as well. Make them understand that you are willing to do anything you can to help them get and stay sober, but make them realize they have to take the first step and want sobriety back into their life before any other help will be given. The alcoholic needs to want to stop drinking and get clean and sober. That is the first and most important thing. Without them wanting sobriety back into their life you will have a tough time changing their life in a positive way.

Offer any support, such as getting them into an Alcohol Rehabilitation Center that has trained Professionals to help them detox in a safe and healthy way.

So what I am trying to tell you from my own experience with drinking alcohol and how alcoholism can ruin a family is, be very careful and be responsible with your actions and how you drink and abuse your alcohol intake, because you may just get addicted and start losing your family due to putting your addiction first in your life, and that's not what life is about. Life is about enjoying your life and those around you and believe me alcoholism in a family will indeed ruin everything in your life if not taken serious.

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    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ Bob, I am sorry for what you are going through with your wife. After all those years and still hasn't changed or even want to change is not a good sign in my opinion. I was lucky my wife hung in there for me and after many years of drinking I finally saw the light and quit cold turkey over two years ago, I do believe if I hadn't done that then she would of left me for good. Good luck to you as well and you are so right you need to save yourself. Life is so short so enjoy it while we are here.

      God Bless

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      Bob 

      6 years ago

      I am divorcing my alcoholic wife. 10 years of carnage and destruction. Every case is different, but when realizing my time on the planet is limited, I could never again believe that her sobriety would "hold". How could I build a life with someone who could destroy it ion a heartbeat? If you have the strength, my advice is leave and save yourself. The sickness is pervasive.

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      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      teaches12345, Thanks so much. I am so glad to hear that you dad is doing well and has surrendered to this horrible thing we call addiction. It took me many years to realize I was doing so wrong not only to myself, but everyone that loved and cared for me so much. I want to help other realize how bad alcoholism can be before they get too far into it and especially the young teens. I hope they can read these hubs and my blog and other sites I write on.

      God Bless and thanks again !

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      I admire your courage and strength in posting this hub from your experience. It is one that should be shared with those who have family members suffering from alcoholism. My father was an alcoholic in his early days (before he became a pastor) and the havoc caused in the family took years to mend. Your advice is right on!

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Michelle, so nice to hear from you and thanks so much for commenting. Hope all is well with your journey. That is so sad about your mom. My wife is somewhat like your dad, staying by my side through thick and thin. I guess that's what you call unconditional love right? It is great that she is cut off from alcohol and maybe with out it long enough she will start to feel a bit better and hopefully heal herself and be able to enjoy life a little more than before.

      God Bless you Michelle and stay strong and positive !! :)

      Mark

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      blogging my way to Sobriety 

      6 years ago

      My mother drank until she almost died after having am alcohol related seizer. She has lost everything that made her life normal. Her body is broken down and much of her dexterity is gone. We tried for years to talk to her and push my dad to help but she didn't see the problem and couldn't stop. To this day she still doesn't really own up to what happened but luckily her access as been cut off. My Dad is amazing for staying by her side. As for the kids we all struggle ourselves but know first hand the wrath that alcohol can bring.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      ruthclark3, Thanks for you kind words and your comment. I sure hope someone will read this and all of my hubs and help them realize there is life after an addiction. Thank you so much for the Vote Up and I wish you all the best in your life as well.

      God Bless

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      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      yui lockhart, Thank you and you are right, my family forgives me, now it is my turn to put those years in the past and forgive myself and start nice and fresh.

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      Ruth Clark 

      6 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      You said it. My past is my greatest asset, as yours is to you. By having the courage to share, you help others, which is our purpose, or should be. Thanks for a great hub. Voted up for beautiful (a beautiful, sober life) and useful, as well as interesting. Someone is reading this who needs to know where to go for help.

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      yui lockhart 

      6 years ago from Philippines

      We should all move on, thinking that if you can go back to the past with your old-self, you will do the same thing all over again. I hope that you can fix everything and start all over again, forgiveness is the key. :)

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      yui lockhart, Thanks for your comment and I guess i was just like your Dad, meaning I did just that. Drank every night and all weekend long. When I look back at those days it makes me sick in my stomach now knowing what i put my family though. I have to live with that forever.:(

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      yui lockhart 

      6 years ago from Philippines

      My father used to drink every night and I must say it brought a negative impact to our family. We are so lucky because we have a mom that can withstand all the challenges that put our family to a test. I can reflect on this hub! :)

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      hoteltravel, Thanks so much for your comment and your kind words to me. I know it is hard for alcoholics to get out of the denial they live in, because I was one of them, and I thank God I was finally able to see the light and now hope to help others with my writing find their sobriety. Thanks for the Vote Up also!

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      hoteltravel 

      6 years ago from Thailand

      Completely agree with you. No one can help alcoholics until they realize that they need help. The more others try to help, the more they are pushed away. For no fault of theirs, family members suffer. Am happy for you and your family that you got over your addiction. It is commendable that you are writing about it. Voted up and awesome.

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      Mark Bruno 

      6 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      billybuc, Thanks for reading and commenting. Yes so true, without the alcoholic wanting help and wanting to be sober the is no one that can help until that time they (the alcoholic) surrenders to their addiction once and for all.

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      Bill Holland 

      6 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I can attest to this hub being spot on, and I don't blame my wife for leaving me at all. There is no one who can help an alcoholic until the time they want help; for most of us we need to crash and burn emotionally and psychologically before we finally want help. Great hub and I hope it helps many out there.

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