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Alcoholism and the Eleventh Step in Alanon

Updated on October 14, 2015
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Deborah has several alcoholic relatives and became active in Al-anon, for families of alcoholics, over 36 years ago, often helping others.

Think About Why You Prayer

Pray only to understand God's will.
Pray only to understand God's will. | Source

What is the Alanon 11th Step?

As you come to the end of your first round of working the Alanon Twelve Steps, you will begin to realize that these steps are not something that you do once, and then forget. The steps become a part of everything we do and say the rest of our lives. Part of our new life is including prayer and meditation in our day to day living.

The exact wording of the Alanon Eleventh Step is: Sought through prayer and meditation to improve our conscious contact with God as we understood Him, praying only for knowledge of His will for us the power to carry that out.

This is not just something we do with regard to the alcoholics or addicts in our lives. It is something we do all the time. It is the way we handle all the stressful, difficult situations we encounter. It is one of the ways we learn to practice the Al-anon slogans, such as "Let Go and Let God."

Remember: Your definition of God can be however you understand him, regardless of what religion you follow, and even if you do not practice any particular religion. God, as you understand him, can be "the universe, a female, nature, or whatever higher power you feel comfortable with."

Ask for Knowledge of God's Will

An important aspect of this step is that we do not pray for God to take specific actions that will please us. In other words, the temptation is great to ask God to make someone stop drinking, or to fix other problems that we have. However, in the Eleventh Step prayer, we only pray that God makes His will clear to us.

Frequently when we pray, there is that something that is going on in our lives, or an issue that we must deal with. We may want God to remove these problems from us, and eventually He might. Meanwhile, while we wait, we sometimes need to accept that dealing with these problems may be part of God’s will for us. If someone we love continues to drink, then learning to accept the situation may be God’s will.

Ask for the Power to Carry out God's Will

The other part of the Alanon Eleventh Step is to ask for the strength or power to do what we need to do. Sometimes life can be so overwhelming that it seems as though we can barely get out of bed in the morning. There may be times when we feel that we cannot go on.

However, if we ask for God to give us the power to carry on, He will. He may not change our circumstances, but He will give us the power to work our way through them. Trust Him, and turn your will and your life over to His care, and you will discover that you are more capable and stronger than you ever realized.

Learn More About all the 12 Steps of Alanon

Al-Anons Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions
Al-Anons Twelve Steps & Twelve Traditions

This book will help you learn more about all the 12 Steps of Alanon. This program will benefit you more if you understand how the program can work in your life.

 

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    • Deborah-Diane profile imageAUTHOR

      Deborah-Diane 

      3 years ago from Orange County, California

      Yes, I agree that the power of prayer is amazing ... and it doesn't matter which religion you follow.

    • ezzly profile image

      ezzly 

      3 years ago

      Voted up and beautiful, I commend you for writing such inspirational hubs. The power of prayer for me is amazing.

    • Deborah-Diane profile imageAUTHOR

      Deborah-Diane 

      3 years ago from Orange County, California

      People who turn to Alanon meetings and literature when they love an alcoholic or addict have often found that they can learn how cope with this very difficult, stressful situation.

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      sujaya venkatesh 

      4 years ago

      a very imperative topic for the present scenario deb

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      C E Clark 

      4 years ago from North Texas

      This is such an important article that could change everyone's lives and in turn make this world a much better place. Sharing again.

    • Deborah-Diane profile imageAUTHOR

      Deborah-Diane 

      4 years ago from Orange County, California

      You are so right. Having faith in a higher power and relying on him is a great way to have peace of mind.

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      C E Clark 

      4 years ago from North Texas

      A very important step in everyone's life regardless of whether they are a member of Alanon. I like to converse with God throughout the day just I might a good friend who happens to be there, and what better friend can one have beside them at all times than God?

      Voted up, useful, and sharing.

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      C E Clark 

      4 years ago from North Texas

      This is a great time of the year for any person to be incorporating this step into their lives since it is a time of giving thanks for all the blessings we have been given all year. Asking God to work through us for good, to make us an instrument of His Will in all good things, can have amazing results. Of course the tough part is giving up control of our lives to Him . . .

      Sharing again in hopes that this message will touch someone's heart and change their lives for good, and forever . . .

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      C E Clark 

      4 years ago from North Texas

      This is indeed a tough thing to do for many people, and really something we all must do consciously everyday. It's so easy to stumble on this one . . .

      Voted up and sharing.

    • Deborah-Diane profile imageAUTHOR

      Deborah-Diane 

      5 years ago from Orange County, California

      Thank you both for your comments about the Alanon 11th Step. No matter what your troubles, we do need to turn our life over to God, even when it doesn't seem easy.

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      moonlake 

      5 years ago from America

      Interesting hub and full of information. Voted up.

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      C E Clark 

      5 years ago from North Texas

      Accepting God's Will and letting Him direct one's life can be so difficult sometimes. When He is captain of the ship He may decide to take scenic waters instead of the usual shortcut a person was used to taking when s/he was in command. The temptation to grab the helm can be very powerful and difficult to ignore. An excellent hub!

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