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All of My Great Loves

Updated on August 30, 2019
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I smile with each memory. Let this master of disaster speak on. An expert on women. A poet to many. Eric is an expert in failure.

Man and Woman

It takes two to "make" love.
It takes two to "make" love. | Source

Thanks

Honey Baby You Were Always On My Mind

Grandma was the best of the best. Or maybe Auntie Gail was or maybe mom or maybe each of my three elder sisters. I cannot count out my first and current wife. But this is not about them. I reckon I got ten fingers and the same amount of toes. Do not ask me to count on them for the wonderful women in my heart.

Heck and by golly that is about enough to count my loves. There are real fancy ones and some that sat under a willow tree with me sucking on straw weeds. Just yesterday I was figuring that all of them are better without me. My goodness the good hearts in my life. My love will not and never has waited.

Now around here a man is a dog if he kisses and tells. But you fine fine gals know who you are. Let it be in the pine boughs next to a fire. Oh for sure in the heat next to the creek. Do not forget my green truck and holding hands near Hart’s prairie. I just cannot remember all of it but it is so much in my heart. Maybe on a ski hill or at a sock hop. Riding a horse together lights fires maybe best left doused.

Cowboy and disco dancing was just a prelude to hugging. Ladies are beyond me. No not that I do not understand them. Not at all. They are just so far up that this earth bound creature cannot hold on to them. They are above me, or I just got no interest. I have never found a gal I liked that was not an angel. Maybe I do not like women. I just love angels. Now that takes a bit of good thought.

Now do not think for one second that you are not included. You tease me and make me swoon. I just do loving. Easy does it, many can testify that that is not about some act of sex. I just have always loved looking into eyes and holding hands. I am sorry for those fine girls that I just held hands with when they wanted more. I never did understand that. Just a boy who did not actually get it. I was a bad boy but I rode a horse that did not require consummation. Now that is crazy.

LIfe of Crime

From My Garden For You

Maybe I only give my bride about 4 a week, my bad.
Maybe I only give my bride about 4 a week, my bad. | Source

Fine

It could be said very true that I do not have a clue. Talk to a wise man for what is true. I sit and go on and on about thing. But to the table or smart there is no food I bring. I stumble and fall and cannot stand by anyone. I have lived a full and good life already done. Yesterday has come and gone for me. Don’t worry is all I can be. Let them have all the issues in this world. I only remember that gal who twisted and twirled. My life is not good and never will be. Due to the fine ladies who helped me see. Love is life and we all must deal with strife. We will never ever forget the loves we have had. Even when we were just a foolish lad. They stand with me on my bad soul because love one another is our goal.

Hug yours and forget about mine. Do it and do it now. Even just on a phone call and hug. Tomorrow will come I think but loving is forever the finest drink.

Peace be upon me. Funny isn’t that. But if I got no peace how can I give it to you? I have to love myself to love you. I apologize to all whose lives I touched when I did not love me. How rude and selfish that is. There is not a single person in my life that has not made it better. And by that made the lives of those I touch a bit better. Of course we do not do perfect – how boring that would be. I can only do Eric. I do not have warts but I have a smashed nose and Sunday near busted a hip on a soccer slide. Bring it on! We are not required to do well we are required to do love. I never raised a child. I just loved all seven of them. Though some are blood not one is “mine”.

The fine girls I love are just that. I hope that by my actions I never left them more than fine. Alright my mom never did do fine. She was tough as nails with me.

So let us delve into daughters. Wow that is a tough one. A big old burly man with advanced degrees and wives is supposed to know how to talk to a 20 year old daughter? Sorry but getting that right is just a crap shoot. There is no room for demands and telling what is. And yet no room for error.

Maybe About Love

Beauty

When at my mom's memorial.
When at my mom's memorial. | Source

Let Us Move Every Day

Now I can talk metaphysics to empiricism to the Bible to the Dharma. But I learned early on with my wives and daughters to shut up and listen and hug and hold hands. OK explaining how birds eat bees is cool but only for about 99 seconds. Females are different than males. I like that. My ladies teach me more from their rants than I could ever learn from a book. Now if life gets better than staying quiet and holding your daughter’s hand you have to be fully nuts to think that.

The women in my life. Nope they are not “in” my life, they are my life.

Ice skating. Mom would pull me out of school. I did not get hockey skates until much later. Mom taught me how to ice dance with full aplomb. Perhaps the best lessons of my life. It was not until 6th grade I had a male teacher in school. I think – Tinsley, Graham, Clark, Brigham, Delagowski, probably wrong but you get the point. Fine women who taught everything about life. I would never be a man without women.

I am so pleased my son has lady teachers. I want nurture and they do. Tough is called for and no man can be as tough as a women. Get over it.

I wonder.

Will a lady ever really know me?

Probably not. I take off in my head. I like doing smash basketball with my son. I hike and sleep in dirt. I like to fight, gently now, and I like to travel to crazy places. Diving twenty feet is just fun and skiing at 10 thousand feet is a norm. I busted a board with my fist teaching my youngest how to think through the object. I have male issues. But my bride loves me anyway. Probably better you do like her and look the other way. My hip and right hand still hurt ;-) My first wife told me “stop pleasing me and be a man”. We laughed but the point clear.

Let men be men and women be women. We are so blessed.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ms. Dora I got off the phone with one and texted another and emailed two more. I think my aunties and mom heard my calls too?

      Doing my old pops. That would be my Louis Armstrong. And he reminds me "what a wonderful" world.

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      Dora Weithers 

      8 months ago from The Caribbean

      Eric, your life seems so exciting with all your great loves adding different scenarios to the adventure. Best to you and the fine ladies in your life, going forward!

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      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Elijah. I see your point. I wonder when I died for about 4 minutes if I came back --"more thriving".

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      8 months ago from Washington DC

      Thriving - Surviving, you thrvive or discarnate.

    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Hey buddy Elijah I am thinking we are "thriving" here.

      What is your definition of that word. (please 300 words of less ;-)

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      8 months ago from Washington DC

      Sounds like a winner, brother, I'll be waiting to hear from you.

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      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Yahoo Elijah I am in full remission and so the world must best get out of the way. I will stay in touch from Asia to Amsterdam.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      8 months ago from Washington DC

      Yes, I saw on your other post you are on your way back in the field, the best to you, my brother, you must follow your inner guide so the best to you.

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      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah I have been living moderation for so long - almost a decade, that I am going back out onto the field and going crazy again -- I wonder if the switch is a pendulum of moderation. Next stop London or Asia?

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      8 months ago from Washington DC

      I almost mentioned the "Thyroid" exception, Eric, I didn't know that was anything you have. Still, don't over do either, all things are to be used in moderation. Carry on, my friend.

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      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      I use sea salt, Himalaya pink salt and regular - minimally. But my cancer requires some dose of Iodine for my Thyroid. So a good mixture works well. Iodine is a strange one. Most of us get enough in a healthy diet. But some even require a supplement as in late term pregnancy.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      8 months ago from Washington DC

      There are quite a few plants that contain salt, Eric, you might want to look them up, however, it isn't so much the salt but the iodine in table salt. If you can find the pink salt or sea salt, they are both without iodine but don't use so much that it comes out is your sweat. That means you have an excess in your body.

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      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Elijah I went all nuts about salt and processed foods. Probably why my cancer is currently at bay. But I went too far too fast. For instance I cut out bread. And the salt lacking caused constant cramping. So some moderation was required.But I think I will go into a fasting from salt and processed again for two weeks or so. Probably 100 degrees again today so maybe some salt.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      8 months ago from Washington DC

      I am being rejuvenated constantly, my brother, since our bodies were designed to rejuvenate themselves by the diet prescribed in Genesis 1 before human thought to change the natural foods for processed. I am also integrating all attributes of human we known in myself although at the present I'm not able to use them, I only recognize them in me. Once I complete transforming this body to a spiritual one I will be able to manifest each one individually should the need come but maintainability them all integrated at all other times.

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      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Sorry there bro Elijah I get reborn all the time. You try keeping up with a 40 something wife and a 9 year old son/sun. I do not have your option of ethereal I got the near and here. I get to be lofty but I have to do dishes and laundry for three every day.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      8 months ago from Washington DC

      I agree, Eric, give it "a thought - Not". Tis written "except one becomes as a little child they can not enter the kingdom of heaven" and I'd hate for you to miss it since the indication is it's no more that 9 years away before the last trumpet sounds to open Armageddon for replenishing the earth (Rev. 20:4-5).

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      Eric Dierker 

      8 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I am upset with my women these days. They really think it is time I grew up. We will give that a thought - not!

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      William Kovacic 

      8 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      "The women in my life. Nope they are not “in” my life, they are my life." Beautifully said, my friend. What a wonderful tribute to the ladies who are your life.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Flourish I thank you. I just changed my Sermon and am going to write a piece on a gayness.

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      FlourishAnyway 

      9 months ago from USA

      This thoughtful, reflective piece was enjoyable to read and a good reminder that we are the evolving product of all those who invest time, love, and energy in us. It’s a special reminder to spend your time among good people who will nurture you.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ruby I met a gal in Khartoum I think it was. With no hands. She smiled with my offering which was meager and took me in. Three days of bliss. Women are life and you show that everyday.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda what am I going to do? Beach with soccer, surfing and picnic. With my eldest 30 something and my youngest under 10 something. My daughter is so accomplished. She rules her part of the DC world. But she holds my hand and her little brother's as we plunge into the Pacific Ocean. Gabe and I wondered if tomorrow could be better. I tossed him a quarter and we bet.

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      9 months ago from Southern Illinois

      Love, what would we do without it? One, two or many, each one was precious. I would rather have lost, than never to have loved at all. Your words tell a story that we all share. Blessings..

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      Linda Lum 

      9 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, I love that you aren't shy about showing your feelings. "Manly" isn't about being rough and tough, it's about embracing all of life and appreciating the gifts that have been bestowed upon and entrusted to you without apology. That's Eric in a nutshell. Love you!

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Devika. You are so often my relationship doctor. Makes me happy to hear from you.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      John we are so blessed by the women who have helped form us. You just made me think about what it would be without our loves. Give it a moment of thought. What?!

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      Devika Primić 

      9 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great thinking of love here and with a beautiful photo

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      John Hansen 

      9 months ago from Queensland Australia

      Eric, I too have many women to thank and be appreciative to or their love, patience and understanding. You articles are always a pleasure to read and contemplate over. Have a great weekend.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Tim I struggled a bit here. It was supposed to be about all the girls who have loved me. But I got trepidation. So many showed me love but presumptuous to think they did.

      I agree with you on Willie. But I am still delving into this. I simply do not know a single man that I can say has been loved more. Maybe starting out adopted shot the whole thing in motion.

      I am working on it and some woodwork. Soccer in a bit. Answers come to me but I do not always understand them.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela can you imagine this was hard to write? The memories just kept flooding in. So of course the tears of wonder kept flow out. I was thinking that those of us hard to love get more. I am not sure how that works yet.

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      Tim Truzy 

      9 months ago from U.S.A.

      Hi, Eric, I love old Willy, but I think he got the song wrong: For All the Girls I've Loved Before. I think its more like: To all the girls and women who took the time to help a man learn to love.

      This was great. There is nothing like a daughter; they can bring so much joy, just like a son.

      Beautiful and wonderful thoughts in your work, as usual, brother.

      Thanks. Respect and admiration.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      9 months ago from Sunny Florida

      I really enjoyed this article about your memories and thoughts on love. Daughters are something different for sure. Your love is revealed throughout all of your words as always.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Lori I am having a blast today. No work or appointments. Just some gardening and writing for the love of it. You are always in my prayers of thanksgiving.

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      Lori Colbo 

      9 months ago from Pacific Northwest

      I always enjoy your reflections on love and your authenticity and candor. Blessings to you my friend and you are continually in my prayers.

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      Eric Dierker 

      9 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Elijah I am "getting" your "indifference" concept. I have always been one brick shy of a whole load so it takes time sometimes.

      Attachment is an issue in life, and mostly not a good one.

      But I am attached to your friendship. Which reminds me of a trip on a leaky ship up Lake Superior way, what a ride. Let's keep sailing.

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      Elijah A Alexander Jr 

      9 months ago from Washington DC

      I really enjoy the way you expressed "loving", Eric, the poem in the middle of it and your conclusion. For a civilized world I believe you are right on target, you didn't "sin" by an inch in your expressing it.

      But you know me the environmentalist, I will always attempt to leave "food for thought." Today's is: I don't do "loving" I only love in my indifference way of not clinging nor rejecting but allowing what happens to happen and grow in my understanding from it.

      You are nuts but fun to read.

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