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Yes, Contraception Should be Available to Teenagers-To Think Otherwise is NOT Being Smart

Updated on September 8, 2013
There were THOSE shocked & dismayed at the fact that Mrs. Kardashian put her daughter, Kim, on birth control at 14.These people contend that teenagers have NO business to be either sexually active & being placed on birth control.
There were THOSE shocked & dismayed at the fact that Mrs. Kardashian put her daughter, Kim, on birth control at 14.These people contend that teenagers have NO business to be either sexually active & being placed on birth control.
ONE say what H/SHE wishes about the issue at hand.Mrs.Karshasian was smart &aware enough to realize that her daughter,if in a relationship, is likely to be sexually active.She refused to deny this,acting as a mature, responsible &intelligent parent.
ONE say what H/SHE wishes about the issue at hand.Mrs.Karshasian was smart &aware enough to realize that her daughter,if in a relationship, is likely to be sexually active.She refused to deny this,acting as a mature, responsible &intelligent parent.
So many parents, especially in the United States, are quite evasive when it comes to the issue of their teenagers & sex. They see their teenagers as still children & totally asexual beings, instead of burgeoning adults with nascent sexual feelings.
So many parents, especially in the United States, are quite evasive when it comes to the issue of their teenagers & sex. They see their teenagers as still children & totally asexual beings, instead of burgeoning adults with nascent sexual feelings.
Many American parents are quite hesitant to broach the subject of sex with their teenagers. When they DECIDE to have THAT TALK, it isufficient enough to only discuss the most elementary & rudimentary aspects of sex.
Many American parents are quite hesitant to broach the subject of sex with their teenagers. When they DECIDE to have THAT TALK, it isufficient enough to only discuss the most elementary & rudimentary aspects of sex.
If parents DO decide to discuss the more complex & intricate aspects of sex & relationships, it is often in a PROHIBITIVE way. Such parents strongly contend that if these issues are not mentioned or discussed, their teenagers will soon lose interest.
If parents DO decide to discuss the more complex & intricate aspects of sex & relationships, it is often in a PROHIBITIVE way. Such parents strongly contend that if these issues are not mentioned or discussed, their teenagers will soon lose interest.
Many parents feel that their teenagers are mere children & therefore are WAY TOO YOUNG to be THINKING ABOUT,let alone be interested in any aspects of sex,relationships, & birth control.To them,these issues are ADULT matters,pure & simple.
Many parents feel that their teenagers are mere children & therefore are WAY TOO YOUNG to be THINKING ABOUT,let alone be interested in any aspects of sex,relationships, & birth control.To them,these issues are ADULT matters,pure & simple.
There are parents who believe that teenagers are NOT READY for the emotional & psychological entanglements pertaining to sexual issues.They feel that teenagers should concentrate&being only interested in education & career matters.
There are parents who believe that teenagers are NOT READY for the emotional & psychological entanglements pertaining to sexual issues.They feel that teenagers should concentrate&being only interested in education & career matters.
Conservative,ultraconservative, & religious parents feel that discussions re:sex & birth control are against their beliefs.Many discuss the PROPER role of sexuality.Others wait until their children are about to be married to even mention sex.
Conservative,ultraconservative, & religious parents feel that discussions re:sex & birth control are against their beliefs.Many discuss the PROPER role of sexuality.Others wait until their children are about to be married to even mention sex.
Many parents,rather conservative/religious or not are quite uncomfortable with discussing complex sexual issues,including contraception with their teenagers.They staunchly believe that if the subject is NEVER brought up, "it just GO away" by osmosis.
Many parents,rather conservative/religious or not are quite uncomfortable with discussing complex sexual issues,including contraception with their teenagers.They staunchly believe that if the subject is NEVER brought up, "it just GO away" by osmosis.
SUCH is NEVER, EVER the case. What parents DON'T & WON'T tell their teenagers re:sex& contraception, the latter WILL find WAYS & SOURCES to learn about the subject. Some will be positive; more often or not, many of these sources will be negative.
SUCH is NEVER, EVER the case. What parents DON'T & WON'T tell their teenagers re:sex& contraception, the latter WILL find WAYS & SOURCES to learn about the subject. Some will be positive; more often or not, many of these sources will be negative.
Parents are not the only ones reluctant to thorough educate teenagers re: sexual & contraceptive issues, educators adopt similar approaches.Many schools only give rudimentary levels of sex education, some only teach absistence-only sex education.
Parents are not the only ones reluctant to thorough educate teenagers re: sexual & contraceptive issues, educators adopt similar approaches.Many schools only give rudimentary levels of sex education, some only teach absistence-only sex education.
It is the belief of many parents & teachers that the less sex education & informaton supplied to teenagers, the better. The policy seems to be NO TEACH, NO KNOW, NO INTEREST. This is oftentimes applied with dire consequences, especially for teenagers
It is the belief of many parents & teachers that the less sex education & informaton supplied to teenagers, the better. The policy seems to be NO TEACH, NO KNOW, NO INTEREST. This is oftentimes applied with dire consequences, especially for teenagers
This ostrich mentality re: teenage sex & birth control has DIRE consequences.Teenagers are interested in sex.Many teenagers are unexpectedly pregnant because they weren't given a thorough comprehensive sex education including contraceptive education.
This ostrich mentality re: teenage sex & birth control has DIRE consequences.Teenagers are interested in sex.Many teenagers are unexpectedly pregnant because they weren't given a thorough comprehensive sex education including contraceptive education.
America has one of the highest rates of unplanned& unwanted teenage pregnancies in the Western world. Teenagers are still developing themselves.These teenagers are unprepared & not ready for parenthood emotionally, mentally & psychologically.
America has one of the highest rates of unplanned& unwanted teenage pregnancies in the Western world. Teenagers are still developing themselves.These teenagers are unprepared & not ready for parenthood emotionally, mentally & psychologically.
Many teenagers, knowing that they do not want the child & aren't ready to be parents, elect to terminate the pregnancy. Others believe that they have no other recourse but to endure the pregnancy & become parents,curtailing all future opportunities.
Many teenagers, knowing that they do not want the child & aren't ready to be parents, elect to terminate the pregnancy. Others believe that they have no other recourse but to endure the pregnancy & become parents,curtailing all future opportunities.
Despite the high incidences of unwanted & unplanned teenage pregnancy in America, many parents contend that teenagers should know as LITTLE about sex & contraception as possible.Their reasoning is if the latter DON'T know, they WON'T do!
Despite the high incidences of unwanted & unplanned teenage pregnancy in America, many parents contend that teenagers should know as LITTLE about sex & contraception as possible.Their reasoning is if the latter DON'T know, they WON'T do!
In contrast, many Western European parents have a more enlightened attitude regarding their teenager's sexuality.To them, discussion of sexual issues, incl. contraception is natural. As a result, there is a lower incidence of teenage pregnancy.
In contrast, many Western European parents have a more enlightened attitude regarding their teenager's sexuality.To them, discussion of sexual issues, incl. contraception is natural. As a result, there is a lower incidence of teenage pregnancy.
However, there are American parents who have a more enlightened attitude towards sex education. They see the futility of the way many of their counterparts approach sex education regarding their teenagers.
However, there are American parents who have a more enlightened attitude towards sex education. They see the futility of the way many of their counterparts approach sex education regarding their teenagers.
These parents know that it is smart & wise to give their teenagers a thorough sex education & that contraception is an integral part of such an education. These parents believe that NOT to teach about contraception is unwise & irresponsible.
These parents know that it is smart & wise to give their teenagers a thorough sex education & that contraception is an integral part of such an education. These parents believe that NOT to teach about contraception is unwise & irresponsible.
The issue of sex education & contraception is a contentious one among many American parents.Some ignore the issue, hoping it would go.away. Others realize that it only SMART to arm their teenagers w/the best sex & contraceptive knowledge possible.
The issue of sex education & contraception is a contentious one among many American parents.Some ignore the issue, hoping it would go.away. Others realize that it only SMART to arm their teenagers w/the best sex & contraceptive knowledge possible.

Yes, I'D Give My Teen Birth Control

There were those who were wholly aghast and/or dismayed of the fact that Kris Jenner a/k/a Mrs. Kardashian put her daughter, Kim, on birth control at 14. Well, say what you will or want about Mrs. Kardashian, at least she was savvy and intelligent enough to know that teenagers are going to have sex if involved in a relationship. There is no skirting the issue at hand. Mrs. Kardashian was one mother who refused to keep her head in the head regaring the issue of teenage sex. One thing can be said-at least Kim never had an unplanned and/or unwanted teenage pregnancy.

Why is it that many parents, especially in the United States, are highly evasive when it comes to discuss sex with their teenagers. They view their teenagers as total asexual beings. They are totally aghast at the prospect that their teenagers are burgeoning adults and that means that their sexual feelings are nascent. It is during the teenage years where children are interested in and entering relationships with the opposite gender. They are exploring their newly adult feelings in these relationships. Many of these relationships are oftentimes non-romantic in nature.

Many American parents are horrified and nonplussed at the fact that their teenagers have sexual feelings and are curious regarding their sexuality. Such parents are further loathe to have THAT talk with their teenagers. If they do decide to discuss sex with their teenagers, it is only at the most rudimentary level. Many refuse to discuss complex issues relating to sex such as birth control and what to expect in relationships. Let's correct the last part, many parents do discuss relationships with the teenagers but only in a prohibitive way. They elect not to discuss the positive aspects of the male-female relationship.

These American parents strongly believe that if they not broach the more complex aspects of sex and relationships with their teenagers, the issue at hand will suddenly become insignificant. They contend that the less the issue of sex/relationships are mentioned, the better for them and especially their teenagers. Some parents even believe that their teenager is too young to know about sex, particularly the more complex aspects. To them, their teenagers are still children although evidence clearly indicates otherwise.

These are the parents who feel that sex is an adult matter and no chiid, regardless of age, is to be interested in such. Some even go as far to state that teenagers are emotionally, mentally, and/or psychologically capable and/or mature enough to know about and to handle the intricates of sex and relationships. They see that as the purview of adults. They view their teenagers as still developing children whose main concerns at this point should be educational and career preparation, not relationships.

Then there are parents who ultraconservative and/or ultratraditional religious views see all types of sex, except for marriage and/or procreative process, totally abhorrent. Many of them contend that sex should never be mentioned and/or discussed with their teenagers until they are ready to get married. When they do bring up the subject of sex and/or relationships with their teenagers, they emphasize only the religious/procreative aspects of sex and relationships.

Many parents, religious and nonreligious, are quite apprehensive discussing sex and/or relationships with their teenagers, particularly the more complex and intricate aspects. Many parents are quite loathe to bring up the subject of contraception with their teenagers. They subconsciously feel that their teenager is either too young and have not business in that arena. A few contend that to bring up the subject entirely is a license to encourage teenagers to indulge in sex. Yes, there are parents who deny and/or ignore the issue of contraceptive education regarding their teenagers. They feel that if they do not bring up the subject of contraception, like sex and relationships, it will "just go away."

Such is not necessary the case. What parents often do not teach, teenagers will seek knowledge from other sources. Many of these sources will be from reliable sources- teachers, other adult educators, and noted books pertaining to the subject. However, there will be less reliable sources such as other teenagers and same age peers, many who have the same or less knowledge about the subject at hand. A few will relay the wrong information.

In other words, what the parents DO NOT and/or WILL NOT teach, the teenager will definitely learn elsewhere and the information will NOT be reliable and authenticated. Many parents are totally aghast at the taught of educating their teenager about contraception, let alone providing them with contraception when they become sexually active. They do not want to face that fact that their teenagers will be sexually active if in a relationship. They furthermore do not want to face the fact that their teenagers are no longer children but are protoadults with burgeoning sexual desires. That mere fact is enough to say some parents into an absolute tizzy.

So many American parents adopt the denial mentality and consciousness relating to the combined issues of birth control and sexuality. If their teenagers express the desire to wanting protection and/or birth control because they are sexually active, they are told to use self-control and they are not ready to be sexually involved with anyone as of yet. Some teenagers are given stern warnings that if they have sex, they will get pregnant or will be in an emotional, psychological, and/or physical quagmire. Many parents feel that to educate in addition to providing their teenagers with contraception and protection is giving them sexual freedom and license. They are NOT about to do it whatsoever.

Not only parents, many schools do not offer teenagers a thoroughly comprehensive sex education which include the use of birth control and protection in order to prevent pregnancy. There are schools who go as far as to teach absistence only education as it is believed that teenagers have NO business being interested in the more intricate aspects of sex and relationships. The prevailing attitude is NO TEACH, NO KNOW, NO INTEREST. Yes, it is widely felt that if teenagers are not taught about the more complex parts of sex, relationships, and birth control, then they cannot possibly know so they will lose interest and curiosity.

Well, it does not go that way. Teenagers are going to seek, know, and do regardless. Because of the hesitance of many parents and teachers to fully teach their teenagers about sex and birth control, there is a high percentage of unplanned and unwanted teenage pregnancies. American teenagers have the highest rate of unplanned and unwanted pregnancies of any Western nation in the world. Of course, teenagers not ready to be parents as they are still developing. Many teenagers resort to terminating their pregnancies as they are not ready to be parents. There are some who continue with the pregnancy, becoming parents, curtailing their educational and career aspirations.

Studies have shown that teenage mothers have the highest poverty rate with its correlative pathologies. They oftentimes do not possess the emotional, mental, and psychological wherewithal to be effective parents. They are often overwhelmed with being a mother with its responsibilities. They feel left out, seeing their youth and future finished. This often causes resentment on the part of the teenage mother towards her child which often leads to abuse whether emotional, mental, and/or physical. They are doomed from the start.

Despite the high teenage pregnancy rate in America, many parents still prefer to remain in denial and in the closet as far as their teenager's sexuality goes. However, there are intelligent and enlightened parents such as Mrs. Kardashian who realize that contraceptive education is an important part of sex education. These parents also realize that when teenagers enter into a relationship, especially if it is serious, they are bound to have sex. That is a part of life. Knowing this, these parents believe that contraceptives are important and put their teenagers on birth control. They smartly know that it is better to this than to pretend that this aspect of their teenager's life does not exist and facing dire consequences down the line.

Many parents in the developed Western countries, particularly in Scandinavian countries, accept and acknowledge the fact that teenagers are going to be sexually active. The motion that teenagers are not interested in sex is quite an anathema to such parents. In many European countries, contraceptive education is an integral of sex education in schools. European teenagers are equipped with contraceptive knowledge. If they elect and decide to have sex, there is a less likelihood that they will become pregnant. Many European parents are quite comfortable discussing all the aspects of sex education, including contraceptives, with their teenage children.

As a result of this enlightened approach to sex education, teen pregnancy rates in Western Europe is more lower than that in the United States. Many American parents are adapting a more mature, reasonable, and enlightened approach regarding their teenager's sex education. They are beginning that a comprehensive sex education is very important. They know that teenagers must be knowledgeable in terms of sex which besides rudimentary knowledge, the context of relationships, protection against unwanted pregnancies, and the idea of sexual responsibility.

These parents contend that the typical American approach and attitude towards their teenager's sex education, including contraception, is quite atavistically primeval to say the least. They see the inane and utter futility in avoiding the seemingly contentious issue of teenage sexuality and its surrounding issues. They see what happened to teenagers whose parents refuse to address and/or discuss the issue of mature and intelligent, comprehensive sex education. They decide NEVER to do that to their teenagers. They assert that their teenagers can come to them discussing myriad sexual issues, including contraception.

These parents further maintain that when their teenage children decide that the time is right for contraception, they are ready to discuss it and even get contraceptive protection for the latter. They believe that doing this is teaching the latter sexual responsibility. They feel not to do so is denying the reality that their teenage children are burgeoning adults with sexual feelings. They further contend not to face this issues can result in perilous consequences for their teenager down the line.

In summation, many parents of teenage children in America are quite uncomfortable with the issue and sex and contraception. They feel that their teenagers are still children and have no business even thinking about, let alone be interested in sexual matters. Many such parents adapt the premise that they only discuss the mere rudiments of sex education and not the more intricate aspects that often includes relationships and contraception, somehow mysteriously the issue will go.......away.

However, this is NOT the case. Teenagers are going to find a way to obtain information relating to sexual issues. Such information can either be positive or negative. More often or not, the information that many teenagers obtain is negative. Not only parents but educators have adapt the principle that teenagers should receive only the bare rudiments regarding sex education. The policy is often no teach, no know, and no interest. Well, the results of such policies is the high rate of unplanned and unwanted teenage pregnancies in America.

Many smart parents know this and are adapting a more enlightened approach to the sex education of their teenagers. This education includes contraceptive education which these parents feel is an integral part of a thoroughly comprehensive sex education. These parents are of the school that if their teenagers are going to indulge in sex, they should be protected against unwanted pregnancies. They believe that for many parents to avoid and pretend that teenagers do not have sex is mere folly. They, as Mrs. Kardashian, contend that teaching about and obtaining contraceptives when their teenagers are sexually active is a parameter for an intelligent, a smart, and a responsible parent.

© 2013 Grace Marguerite Williams

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      Donnetta Williams 3 years ago from jacksonville

      Great article. Very informative.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you.. I feel it is about time that parents should adopt a more intelligent and enlightened approach regarding the sex education of their teenagers. The OLD ways of many of our parents AREN'T working; in fact, it is DANGEROUSLY out of date and detrimental-look at teenage pregnancies in America. The avoidance and prohbibitive stance of many parents is NOT WORKING!

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 3 years ago from United Kingdom

      I find it worrisome that in this day and age parents are still uncomfortable discussing sex with their children. It's a fact of life and I don't see the need to make it complicated. I don't believe young teens should be sexually active but, as you stated, teens will experiment and they should know what contraceptives are available and how to use them effectively.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Times have changed and parents need to start living the modern way, communicate with their teens about the facts of life and be there for them when the past traits are often introduced in the modern day of parenting and this can cause friction between child and parent. Contraceptives are best introduced but may not always work out for every teenager.

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      H C Palting 3 years ago from East Coast

      I cannot understand why so many people have children then teach them nothing about sex such as why it's important to wait, to understand birth control, to not allow themselves to be pressured, used, etc. You bring up valid points here. Many people can only hope these types of "parents" read articles such as this and take heed if they truly want what's best for their children.

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      Denise Handlon 3 years ago from North Carolina

      GM-great article about the importance of preparing teens during the important high school years, to help them get through school without the jeopardy of pregnancy. I completely agree, and like you, do not understand the mentality of some parents who want to hide their head in the sand.

      When my two daughters were just 6 months old and 2, I lived in Michigan's Upper Peninsula, well aware of the many teen pregnancies, and people on welfare supporting new babies, in the tiny little town across the U.P. When the local paper reported the closing of the Planned Parenthood clinic due to the parents' "outrage" I wrote an extensive letter to the editor addressing this.

      In my letter I sited many of the same points you did here-the folly of ill prepared teens engaged in sexual activity with dire consequences. I also stated the financial burden on the tax payers, among other things. I received a lot of support for opening my mouth about this touchy subject, but the bottom line is my own beliefs about the subject.

      When my kids turned teens and I 'discovered' they were sexually active, I sat them down WITH their boyfriends and made it abundantly clear how I felt about the lack of responsible choice making.

      I believe all parents need to be on top of this subject with their children, whether they have daughters, OR sons.

      UP/U/I

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      Jayme Kinsey 3 years ago from Oklahoma

      I agree 100%. People say that times are changing, but that isn't entirely true. Young people have been having sex behind their parent's backs since the beginning of time. And having babies as a result. It only takes a brief look in a few history books and census records to show that all was not peachy and pure back in the good old days.

      Not all teens are going to go all the way, but the ones who intend to do so are going to do it whether or not they are fully informed and protected. So the best measure any parent can take is to fully educate their children. With actual facts--not threats, scare tactics or myths about sexuality. And then provide them with a source of birth control.

      Very good article and one that should be read by everyone. Am sharing and voting.

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      FlourishAnyway 3 years ago from USA

      Open dialog is key. Although teens will roll their eyes and tell you they don't want to talk about it or they already know everything you're saying, it's important to talk, ask questions and most importantly listen. Sad things happen with unplanned pregnancies and teenagers. It's best to prevent it with information, understanding and discussion.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      To Denise, Sharkeye, and Flourish, thank you all for your eloquent and insightful responses. It is extremely appreciated in kind. Always feel free to stop by again, you are all welcome.

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      Imogen French 3 years ago from Southwest England

      Totally agree. Availability of contraception does not encourage underage sex, it just makes it safer, and prevents unwanted teenage pregnancies. Our kids are going to do it if they want to, whether we approve or not, lets give them the information and support that they need and let them prove how adult they can be.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 3 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you for your response and for stopping by!

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      Amanda Roddy 2 years ago

      I will have to disagree here. Yes you inform but at the same time you do not have to lower standards. A couple of things here;

      1) Kids must be informed of the consequences of having sex at their age. . It is not something to play around with just b/c everyone does it. If they are being pressured, they should go their parents or someone they trust.

      2)This may sound 'old fashioned' but I believe sex should be something between two ADULTS who have a special relationship, not two horny teens just trying to fit in.

      3) Sex does not define who we are. My feminist side cringes when I see things like this. What happened to being a whole woman without the sex.

      Before you call me unreal let me give an example how irresponsible teens are. Two years ago, my neighbor's granddaughter 12 at the time, got pregnant by an 18 yr old football player. She was actually having sex with two guys. The 18 yr old and 16 yr old. Of course sh egot an abortion but it shows not even 18 yr olds are fully responsible.

      Believe me I hate the whole purity culture thing myself, but sex has many responsibilities that go along with it. Is a 15 yr old ready for an unplanned pregnancy when the condom fails? Are they ready to risk STD? Birth control also does not prevent STD another neglected area.

      I mean no one would want their underage kid to drink, so I fail to see how it is ok to loosen up in other areas. So yes inform but discourage until they are full adults.

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      Dan Harmon 22 months ago from Boise, Idaho

      Have to agree with you right down the line. Teens should not be sexually active, but they will be and that means contraceptives are an absolute necessity. A major cause of teen pregnancies can be traced directly to a parent's failure to do what was necessary, and that doesn't mean countenancing abstinence and pretending their son or daughter will not only agree but follow through with it.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 22 months ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Thank you for stopping by and for your response. You are always free to stop and comment.

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