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Anxiety, Depression, Anger & Hate; Solution not Pollution

Updated on June 5, 2020
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Holding degrees in philosophy and Law. Formal studies or certificates or degrees in business, theology, insurance and security. Ex-preacher.

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Triggers

Anxiety is normally not rational. But anxiety is triggered by something that can be real. Anxiety is real. Depression in a clinical sense is often a reaction to a negative (situational/normal). Depression can also be physiological. Depression and anxiety can be simultaneous.

Anxiety and depression are serious. They can lead to homicide and or suicide.

Anger and hate can kill you also. Just check your blood pressure when you are hating and angry at something. Anger can be triggered but those triggers are so numerous, impossible to count, that the triggers become made up in our mind. Hate is a sickness of the well-being of ourselves. It never ever causes a good outcome.

I get angry and hate the object when I stub my toe on something. Usually quite brief and often followed by a laugh at myself because stubbing your toe means you were not paying attention. Unless there are serious repercussion’s I laugh at myself when I screw up due to lack of attention. (Try multi-tasking hard and you will know what I mean ;-)

Anxiety gets the better of me. Usually some doubt in myself and negative self-talk. “I can’t” is my worst nightmare or daymare. Perhaps some folks think of fear and anxiety the same. I think fear is more the cause of anxiety. I use anxiety as a resistance tool. Because of anxiety I can nearly always justify procrastination and defeat. Uh oh, we can see how depression can creep his ugly head in here as the anxiety causes even worse perspectives on self-worth.

We hope that the above statements are not too psycho-babble type descriptions. They are meant not to be. Probably 80% of the above is within a normal range. Probably we need them to process stimuli both internal and external. I call the above, situational. Whereas a recognizable disorder by imbalance of body chemicals is clinical.

Justification for anger and anxiety are easy. Be hypercritical of someone or something and the mere thought of that object brings on anxiety, depression, anger and hate. It seems that this can just sit there in your psyche and come out even without the slightest reference to an object. Sports teams and politics come to mind for far too many people. Just in a standard conversation a person can become so upset that they cannot rationally approach a subject for a while, even one totally unrelated to the object of problems.

Other issues that we basically cannot control also trigger these problems. Again sports, politics and Covid. Too big of an issue to handle for everyone so let us look at us.

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Is Anger Normal?

Justification – “Well he….”

Justification is ugly in this area. Does “he” cause the above? If we can accept that the above issues are not generally good for our well-being that is past a necessary short interval of one time occurrence, then we can move forward. If you have thought about it and want to be anxious, depressed and angry and hateful read no further. But that is a serious discussion you need to have with yourself and I suggest one other at least. Let us just accept that we cannot change everything that makes us troubled. That situations, folks and places are often just what they are.

So go ahead if you want to and hate your tiny apartment. Feel angry every time you walk in that door. Get all depressed over not getting that promotion and above all else hate that politician and get anxious over the evening news. You are free, as in free will, to do that. Nobody can take that away. It is yours and you own it and can do what you want with it.

That works so clearly. And it works both ways. Want it? Keep it. Don’t want it? Don’t keep it. Unless you want to confess you are addicted to it and would be hard pressed to live without your anxiety and anger. I get it. And we can all get that concept. Learn to hate, have it passed down to you. Even pass it down yourself. What would it be like to not have the hate anymore? Like a big gaping hole inside you. A void that needs to be filled. Maybe that is fear that is worse than the hate? It would appear that would be on a person to person basis and bias.

We note someone who is an “angry old man”. We note it because it is generally not the case. Most elder people hate less and have no real desire for anger. You say not so fast. All the dementia out there, there are a lot of angry, anxious depressed hateful elder people. That argument proves itself. They are sick so they are angry. Not always angry at something but angry that they are sick. And that is part of the sickness – tough aspect of age.

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Remember Good

Dream of Good

Well this person did something really bad to me. I did not get mad, I got even. Nothing at all to do with him. To even the score was all on me, about me. This guy was thoroughly upset that I did not get mad and react. He told me ten years later that he was always watching me to see what I would do. Basically good friends until this day. Just a side note I guess.

But maybe that is not a side note. I do not think we understand or can conclude on causation when it comes to matters like anger and love and prayer. I just think that it happens and our little nuances are part of the plan but not a cause of it. Because if we were, then; Anxiety, depression, anger and hate would rule life for everyone if you hold on to them. Seems all the terrorism, wars and calamity effect at least about 1% of us. I think the nasty anxiety, depression, anger and hate, (ADAH) stuff infects just about 40% of us. I do not believe that ADAH runs the world. It tries but fails. But the ADAH over the world can spread to 80% of us because of a .05% of us who hate, and on and on. Knowing of wrong with no power to change it causes all of ADAH.

When do we stop the cycle? Perhaps never. It is clear that in this world hatred enough for violence can last hundreds of years. That is an amazing truth. Literally many generations of hate.

Should we rearrange ADAH just to think about it. How about anger then hate and the resulting anxiety and depression. The chances are very good that anger stems from lack of power over a person, place or situation. Does a protest help to ease that anger because at least a little power and doing something about something is better than not. And when those protests go horribly wrong the cycle just gets worse. Anger begets anger.

How about we rearrange it to hate causes anger which leads to anxiety that ends in depression? (HAAD) Can you imagine that lasting for years? Shoot we may end up calling the cycle “bi-polar disorder”. I knew a guy once who was very good at meditation, prayer and comprehension. He could do that focusing on hate. His choice, as he could either do it to increase his feelings of hate or decrease them.

All of this is your choice. Do not blame or credit the outcome on anyone but yourself.

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    • Ericdierker profile imageAUTHOR

      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ahlgilyn it is a pleasure to meet you. These thing must be out in the open. And the best things we can do for ourselves and others is to take time and love.

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      Ahlgilyn Cabanado 

      13 months ago from Philippines

      Mental illness happens and these are really trying times. I've read a book from Colleen Hoover and the title is 'It Ends With Us'. It is about ending domestic violence that could affect their children and children's children. Maybe we still have a chance to end the cycle of hate by showing compassion, empathy, and kindness. Thank you for being open to talk about these topics. Appreciate it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Dora. It is good to have a young one who constantly reminds us to try and make the right choice.

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      Dora Weithers 

      13 months ago from The Caribbean

      Good counsel. Each of us is at the heart of the change that we need to see. Would that each one makes the right choice.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Loving you friend

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      manatita44 

      13 months ago from london

      Thanks Bro.

      I'll join two virtual poetry groups, but should return in about 4 hours. Much Love.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Manatita you have so much to offer. Your comment both enlivens my love and calms it in realization of the peace we can know. Thanks

      Just finished the sermon "Circle of Love" somewhat along these lines.

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      manatita44 

      13 months ago from london

      Sound ending and yes, it is an age-old problem, not new. That is why Saviours (Messiahs, Christs, Buddhas) keep coming into this world. Few believe them, as we are asking for proof. Jesus, the Christ, had very few disciples.

      A great multitude followed due to the miracles, but when the chips were down, they joined with the crowd to free Barabbas and as such were accomplices in crucifying such a noble Heart of compassion.

      We need and reject healing. In Guruji's philosophy, Light is needed most but rejected the most. Why? It is easier to disbelieve than to believe. Believe is an act of building. Disbelief is an act of breaking. That is what children do and I'm afraid we are still children.

      Some very good points and arguments from you, Bro. Have a great Sunday and stay safe.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks Bill. You made me laugh and think about Gerald Ford and the Dick Van Dyke show. And you made me realize that I left laughter out here, as a great cure.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Flourish I have a wholly unsubstantiated notion. /The extension of time 'quarantined' might have been necessary for mental health/

      I watched my wife get through the first month. She gradually came down out of her --worked every day of the week in a frenzy mode. But it took another month for her to really enjoy messing around. Now she spends a couple hours a day with online continuing education but generally just enjoying things. My ten year old calls it a blessing.

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      William Kovacic 

      13 months ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Some important stuff here, Eric. A topic that needs to be addressed for sure. Thank you. Oh, and you say, ". . . stubbing your toe means you were not paying attention." Thank you for clarifying that. I always thought it meant I was clumsy. Have a great week, my friend!

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      FlourishAnyway 

      13 months ago from USA

      Anxiety and depression afflict so many people and the economy and pandemic should be trigger to make things hurt more. I believe there are brighter days ahead however. Gotta be.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise just the other day a man referred to a group as "gooks" he knew full well I was married to an Asian immigrant. I hit him so hard in the face he fell down crying. NO, just in my day dream. I moved along with my son and the man's ignorance and fear was so obvious we did not even mention it.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Nithya, you and I are lucky. We can see it and recognize the bad and move on. Even within us.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Swati you are so right. I know that showing anger and hate is bad, but I worry for those who bottle it up inside just waiting to explode. Around here we get angry -- watch out, and then it is gone.

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      Denise McGill 

      13 months ago from Fresno CA

      I've seen hate being taught to children as if it were their right to hate a certain people group because they were born in a different people group. But this could cause the anger, anxiety and depression too.

      Blessings,

      Denise

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      Nithya Venkat 

      13 months ago from Dubai

      I like the idea “dream of good”. It will help to get past anger and hate. You are so right it is our choice and we cannot blame anyone else for what follows. It is difficult to let go but it is the best way in the long run. Great article.

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      Swati Khandelwal 

      13 months ago from Nainital

      Wonderful write-up Eric, these are the most common problems most people are suffering from. God help them to overcome .

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Linda,

      I thank my Jesus that you went and made it through such torture born by man.

      Whahoo! It helped you be who I know and love and so many cherish. Whatever got you here, it is a blessing to me.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Clive I just hate it when I hate. Listening to Belafonte and Jamaica, my head is down.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ruby. My nurse mother liked to say "Today is a good day to get better", silly me, I thought she was just talking about my cold. She clearly meant more.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Vikram you comment is so important to us. When I went down hard I saw one way. And this sounds crazy; be happy with being depressed. Well it works. Strange business our minds are up to.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Stella I hear you and thanks for your comment. Dealing with folks with the actual neurosis is brutally tough. I applaud you.

      Probably your experience has helped you to deal with the "normal" ebb and flow of these problems. Which is a good thing.

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      Linda Lum 

      13 months ago from Washington State, USA

      Eric, anger can be a cancer. I left a great Federal Govt job because of harassment and discrimination. Yes, I could have fought, but was feeling so beaten down, so weary I just couldn't DO it anymore.

      With my early retirement I lost income, not just the job, but reduced my annuity forever.

      I was so filled with anger and absolute hatred of the people who had wronged me, and it wasn't just the monetary loss. That was the least if it. I had been denied a position, but most of all I had sacrificed precious time with my family for this AGENCY that in the end didn't give a fig about me. I was enraged. And it ate at me. It consumed me. For a while it took over my life...and subtracted even more from my connection with me and my family.

      Finally, I woke up. I recognized that my unholy wrath was not hurting those who had wronged me. It was affecting only me, and those whom I love.

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      Clive Williams 

      13 months ago from Jamaica

      I hate being anxious...and when i am anxious i feel hate. Hate just loves me

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      13 months ago from Southern Illinois

      Another great and truthful article. It is up to us, we choose to love or hate, and when we are full of hate, we chose that emotion. It is time for healing in the world. Blessings Eric.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Greg I did not want to dwell on it too much. But the disorders are not just real but deadly. I have never heard of a suicide without major underlying depression. (perhaps mania but that would be a rapid cycle)

      Just a word on a topic for a whole article -- Friend, get over an insult on Monday by Wednesday.

      I mean that people with these diagnosable disorders need your love. If the were vile and nasty on Monday, just assume it is a good by Wednesday and reach out. That would be unless you can't and then do a self check up.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Pamela I call the anger deal the "ooogey wooogey". Makes me feel all sorts of nauseated. I cannot find a biological stimulus for this. It is all behavior that is modified to be angry. Definite nurture and not nature.

      (some "experts" claim anger is adrenaline -- so wrong)

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      Vikram Brahma 

      13 months ago from Assam, India

      Hey, Eric nice article. I have been through depression in my life. That was a hard time, but over time after taking some medications I was able to recover. When I read your article, I remember those days. Regarding hate or anger, currently, I have no such issues. Thank you for sharing this article, Eric.

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      Stella Kaye 

      13 months ago from UK

      Fantastic article. I can't dispute a word of it. Anger and hate only spread negativity even more. So much better to walk away and move on when someone does you an injustice rather than let the resentment build up and consume you with irrational thoughts. I must admit, I tend to get angry with things rather than people as in your stubbing of the toe scenario and can come out with quite a mouthful of previously unheard of expletives when that happens but even then the anger is pointless. My mother suffered from anxiety and depression most of her adult life but she lived to nearly 100. I always tried to understand her and talk her out of it whenever she was down. She always described her depression and anxiety neurosis as being a blanket of dark grey cloud that hung over everything and wouldn't blow away.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Ann I like your notion of worry and too sensitive. I would push that and be rude enough to say "poor me" syndrome. Situational depression is healthy for a small bit of time, as in part of a grieving process - to process.

      Ann you give a perfect example of mental health.

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      greg cain 

      13 months ago from Moscow, Idaho, USA

      Eric - hate and anger are real, depression and anxiety, too. The idea that we have a choice in the matter of hate and anger is a shack (shack = exactly on target). I’ve got family history—immediate and extended family members—of depression and anxiety; both can be debilitating. Thanks for putting this out there today for all of us to learn, ponder, grow.

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      13 months ago from Sunny Florida

      I don't like the way anger feels so if I do get angry about something it is short lived. I have never had a problem with depression either. I think hate is very destructive for a person also. I may not like a politician, for instance, but that doesn't mean I hate them.

      I think you have written a very good article here. We all have choices in life, so misery is one of those options. I think you explained all of these negative emotions very well.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thanks a bunch Md Akbar Ali, I really had to study up on this one to get close to medical terminology.

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      Eric Dierker 

      13 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I used to get attacks of anxiety. Boy did that take some work to get out of. My hat is off to those who can live with it.

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      Ann Carr 

      13 months ago from SW England

      Hate is corrosive. Depression exists, I think, because people worry and are too sensitive if there is such a thing. There are degrees of each. Anger is destructive and occurs often when, as you say, people cannot control a situation. It is never constructive.

      I find anger never gets me anywhere and I'm (usually!) a calm person. I meet anger with silence and sometimes that results in laughter as the other realises how futile or daft it is! However, real anger often increases if there is no expected reaction because, again, there is no control.

      Great debate to make us think, Eric. You're good at that.

      Ann

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      Md Akbar Ali 

      13 months ago from Dhaka, Bangladesh

      Marvelous work! The introduction and definition of anxiety and depression are very appealing. I enjoyed and learned. Keep posting for us.

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      Bill Holland 

      13 months ago from Olympia, WA

      Bev and all of her four kids suffer from anxiety. One of her sons, and my son, are clinically depressed. Me? I'm just old! :) I would rather be me, but they would rather be them. Go figure!

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