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Are you Comparing yourself to Others

Updated on March 23, 2018
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Some people enjoy comparing themselves to others I learned to be myself and nothing and no one can compare to that.

Be confident and Happy with Yourself

Don't lose yourself

Don't lose confidence in yourself.

Most people feel the need to compare themselves to others.

It is a down fault of those who feel left out of a group, and a life that won’t suit many individuals.

She often buys new clothing to compare to my lifestyle.

All of which is right in my face, and always showing off with what she had bought for her.

I have no idea of how to deal with this individual. She just compares herself to me in whatever she wears. An individual who doesn't understand if any garment is not suited for ones body shape won't suit the other.

I sometimes wish I did not speak to her. I prefer to keep her at bay, and to be friendly to her.

I have been ignoring her actions. I would like to keep my distance from this individual.

I grew up thinking differently in my life and in my appearance.

I have tried to compare myself to another but not in a permanent way.

I like me for the way I am and nobody can be me.

I know I am unique and there is only one of me in this part of Croatia.

This woman wants to be something she is not and compares herself to me.

Well, she constantly buys herself new clothing to show me she too can have something good to wear daily. Some people are just ridiculous.

I don't wear nice clothing to show-off with, but do so, to make myself happy with what I have, and not to be noticed by others.

A simple lifestyle has taught me to be myself and to ignore those who fail to be themselves.

My problem with this woman, she is ignorant, and does not have a clue of how to be around people.

She feels comparing her to me will make her the better person, or the bigger person.

I am a few years younger than her, and don't follow the styles of fashion.

She goes with fashion and different styles.

My style is about what I like, and of what suits me.

We have great differences between us, unfortunate for her; she does not see her differences from mine.

I like to buy what I know looks good on me, and don't care for following the trendy clothing styles.

It makes me different from the rest.

I prefer wearing what nobody else has and not with fashion.

Everybody has what the other is wearing if bought when in fashion. To me it is kind of boring when one follows trendy styles.

Don't compare yourself to others, you are who you are, and nobody else can be you.

In trying to compare yourself to others you will forget the real you.

I don't want to be anyone else but me.

You eventually become your worst enemy.

Remember only you can get pass your obstacles; no one will do that for you.

Comparing yourself to others does not bring light to any side of two parties.

You should consider yourself blessed with what you have than to look down on others.

Every time I wear something nice she expresses herself about buying a new dress.

Before you compare yourself to another think about what you have, and how you were in the past.

Think about what got you in that position in the first place, and of how you achieved the good in your life.

Your great improvements would show that you are doing well in your life, so stop comparing yourself to another person.

People are different in many ways and all experiences are unique to everyone.

Who has discovered something new let them explore their discoveries.

It has nothing to do with you of how they had explored those findings.

  • Recognize yourself before recognizing someone else.

Someone with a curvy body and you slightly fatter, off-course you will compare your body to that person and wonder. If only!

All shapes and sizes do affect many people.

The lack of confidence allows you to feel insecure about yourself.

You start to lose confidence, as intelligence, religion, or gender. You can become full of yourself and can lose yourself too.

Pay attention to yourself not others.

· Will comparing yourself to others ruin you?

Comparing yourself to others ruins you.

It takes away your happiness and makes you feel insecure.

What actually happens to such individuals is not surprising.

Such individuals continue to make them happy in thinking that way, and won't stop their bad habits.

These individuals don't think of what they are doing to themselves.

All they need to do is to look at another person, and have what that person has to feel good about themselves.

· Why do you want to compare yourself to another?

Every individual has their own successes and you too have your unique way of life.

You choose to be what you have always wanted to do from childhood.

You all are capable of loving and hating one another whenever possible.

If you want to achieve your goals go ahead and make that right for yourself.

Don't compare your life with another it is not worth it in your life with anyone.

· It is not a win, win situation to be so harsh with you.

There is no perfect being and no perfect anything in life.

Just be yourself.

You don't need to compare yourself with others life is not about comparisons but you go do so for your own needs.

When you compare yourself to others you are being foolish and when you find that divine quality and get to learn from others that become wise.

Eventually you will see the differences.

· Compare yourself with yourself not with others.

I see this behavior as ignorant, or plain jealousy when someone tries to compare themselves with me.

· Why does she feel the need to do so?

Her constant stares at me make me feel good about myself.

I know that she can do whatever she likes to. In comparing herself to me she is only making herself weak and insecure.

She can buy as many dresses as she likes, and have as many hairdos as she wants to, it won't change me in any way.

· What will she benefit from her actions?

· I don't know!

· Do you think comparing yourself with others is a good image for yourself?

I have ignored her for the way she carries on in her conversations.

I am always up for a challenge and this is one of recent challenges.

I don't take anything to heart of what she applies to me. I know she can't be me in anyway.

No matter what she tries to do to compare with me her life will not be anything like mine.

I am me and love the way I have become to adjust to new life in this beautiful country.

· Have you ever compared yourself with anyone?

· Do you compare yourself to someone whom you think is more attractive than you?

Negative thoughts can make one feel this way.

It is a daily battle if you make it a battle to you.

Look at what is important, and appreciated that in your life, rather than to focus on something that is not worth the waste of your energy

What makes you special?

When people see others are living better than they are it brings on a different vibe.

Don't Compare yourself to others

Comparing yourself to others

How do I deal with such an Individual?

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© 2014 Devika Primić

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      VioletteRose thank you for sharing a valuable thought here.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron E Shenko Wow! That is amazing. ''Occasion where you could wear it." Her mother just smiled and replied,

      ''Of course I do, dear.....I'm wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night BEFORE the wedding.''

      You also made a great point, ''Devika, maybe she really admires you and wants to follow your fashion trend.'' Thank you for sharing such thoughtful words. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      VioletteRose 

      4 years ago from Chicago

      Comparing to others definitely will bring up some unnecessary troubles in life. With so many social networking sites today, I think it is rather easy to look into other's lives and fall into trouble. A great topic to discuss in today's world!

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      Shyron E Shenko 

      4 years ago from Texas

      Devika, maybe she really admires you and wants to follow your fashion trend.

      This reminds me of an e-mail from a friend.

      Jennifer's wedding day was fast approaching.

      Nothing could dampen her excitement - not even her parent's nasty divorce.

      Her mother had found the PERFECT dress to wear, and would be the best-dressed mother-of-the-bride ever!

      A week later, Jennifer was horrified to learn that her father's new,

      young wife had bought the exact same dress as her mother!

      Jennifer asked her father's new young wife to exchange it, but she refused.

      Absolutely not! I look like a million bucks in this dress,

      And I'm wearing it, she replied.

      Jennifer told her mother who graciously said,

      ''Never mind sweetheart. I'll get another dress. After all, it's your special day.''

      A few days later, they went shopping, and did find another gorgeous dress for her mother.

      When they stopped for lunch, Jennifer asked her mother, ''Aren't you going to return the other dress? You really don't have another

      Occasion where you could wear it." Her mother just smiled and replied,

      ''Of course I do, dear.....I'm wearing it to the rehearsal dinner the night BEFORE the wedding.''

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      D.A.L. I prefer to keep my distance and not to pay attention to her comments or showing off ways. It is just not worth my time of day. thank you for all votes I appreciate your kind words.

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      Dave 

      4 years ago from Lancashire north west England

      Trying to compare herself with you would be a waste of her time for you are unique in so many ways have we have seen and read in your articles. I think you are right to keep this woman at a distance better still if you could divorce her from your life. Which ever, I am sure you are up to the challenge. Another great read about human emotions. Voted up useful and interesting.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      ologsinquito right on! Thank you.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      stricktlydating thank you so glad you came by.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tillsontitan thank you for sharing your thoughts here and I appreciate your vote up, interesting and useful.

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      ologsinquito 

      4 years ago from USA

      I agree that when you compare yourselves to others, you are asking for trouble. Everyone has strengths and weaknesses and everyone is individual.

    • stricktlydating profile image

      StricktlyDating 

      4 years ago from Australia

      You really covered this topic very well and as always it was a joy to read your thoughts and advice.

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      Mary Craig 

      4 years ago from New York

      Everyone compares themselves to others, but you are so right, "to thine own self be true". YOU know what's best for you and it sounds to me like you're doing a wonderful job of it!

      Voted up, useful, and interesting.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you for sharing your continuous suport

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      Linda Crampton 

      4 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      You have brought up some good points in this hub, Devika. It's very tempting to compare ourselves to others, but this process can be dangerous.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      C_MarieWeber thank you for sharing your thoughts here.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi DaveOnline Thank you for sharing your views here. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      C_MarieWeber 

      4 years ago from Wichita

      I think this is a big problem when we are younger. I've noticed the tendency to not care as much as I age. Good article.

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      David Edward Lynch 

      4 years ago from Port Elizabeth, South Africa

      I'm sure I have compared myself to others at times but it is not something I would want to pursue. Thanks for sharing!

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc thank you for stopping by I always hear your message loud and clear.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi RachaelOhalloran ''If it was me, I have no problem cutting off ties with such a person because I don't have the time of day for anyone who feels they have to compare or try to be better than another in any way - with clothes, home, anything.'' So true and I appreciate hearing from you. Have a pleasant week.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora I feel that way and that is some of what no one can take away from me. Thank you for sharing an encouraging comment.

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      Bill Holland 

      4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I will fall into this trap from time to time. Wonderful thoughts today that I can relate to. Thank you.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      "Her constant stares at me make me feel good about myself." Devika, you are on the upper level; stay there.

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      Rachael O'Halloran 

      4 years ago from United States

      Whenever someone compares themselves to another, I think it shows a lack of self-esteem. She is gratified by, and with, her purchases, but they are only an effort to be noticed and to pump up her self esteem.

      If it was me, I have no problem cutting off ties with such a person because I don't have the time of day for anyone who feels they have to compare or try to be better than another in any way - with clothes, home, anything.

      It is a shame you can't cut her off, but as you say she is around you all the time. I would pay less and less attention to the new stuff she buys so that she gets the idea that you are not impressed. I would change the subject each time she makes comparisons.

      If you can't cut off her friendship, you can cut her off in conversation by constant diversion whenever undesirable topics come around.

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