ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

Are you being held back by fear?

Updated on June 30, 2014

Whay Are We Afraid?

What we don't know or understand we are by instinct afraid of and this can serve us very well. The positive side of fear of the unknown can protect us from physical and emotional harm but it can also hold us back and create upset...the key, as to everything in life, is balance.

Leading an unfulfilled life, being a wage slave, discrimination, hatred and even wars all stem from fear. The worst people in history used fear as a weapon and themselves were afraid of not have respect, power...ultimately they lacked significance and gained it in the most drastic ways.


Fear Held Me Back

Most people don't realise but fear rules most aspects of their lives. How do I look? What will they think? What if I'm late? What will happen? How can I get through this? I myself still struggle with the daily fear of failure and used this to self-sabotage myself when it came to making money. I kept myself busy but I wasn't productive...

Self Sabotage

I tried all-sorts! I spent most of my childhood developing my design skills and had a portfolio of (pretty okayish & some downright weird) cross stitch designs. I'd competed and won a couple of national competitions run by magazines and felt this was the way I should go.

I contacted a publisher, put together some little kits from materials my mum kindly invested in for me and took out an advert in one of the top cross-stitch magazines in the country. I got little response, sent of home-designed and printed brochures and I didn't sell a thing. Not a one!

So after a while I moved on. Over the years I tried logo design, knitting, web design, natural cosmetics, pixies and even tarot readings and I had the same pattern every time...spend ages on the setup, have a feeble attempt, move on to the next idea, all the time wondering why I was such a failure and couldn't get a break, not realising my lack of focus, confidence and determination were the only things stopping me, but then hindsight is a wonderful thing ;)

It all came down to fear. Every time it came to the crunch and I faced success or failure I backed off and started all over again. I was scared of the unknown and how to deal with whatever happened next whether good or bad.

What's the Worst That Could Happen?

To be truly happy, fulfilled and successful you have to be fearless! Most people have had hard times in their life and it's scary the thought of having in any way to relive those times, but the next time you feel things aren't going your way ask yourself 'What am I afraid of here?'.

Are you scared what people might think? Why? I'm sure they'll be the first ones to congratulate you when it works.

Are you scared of failing? Why? Is there any reason you couldn't start again? Who's to say you will fail anyway and imagine how wonderful the success will be!

Run through the worst and best case scenarios of the consequences of taking action- more often than not the best outweighs the worst and remember you're strong and have probably been through worse before and came out the other side. If you do make a mistake the biggest failure would be not to learn from it.


    0 of 8192 characters used
    Post Comment
    • Midlife Magic profile image

      Midlife Magic 

      8 years ago from Canada

      Funny I always revert to the worst case scenario. I need to have a plan to address that and then I can allow myself to dream about the best case.

    • LauraD093 profile image

      Laura Tykarski 

      9 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      Karen I just knew I wasn't alone:) Thank-you again for a hub that makes someone go hmm... please keep them coming I really like your style and your work.

    • KarenCreftor profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Creftor 

      9 years ago from Kent, UK

      Thanks for the vote and wonderful compliment Laura :D

      I can totally empathise with your story. I think it's particularly easy to be afraid of putting anything creative 'out there' as creative subjects are often pushed down the list of priorities in education and society and you're putting a part of your soul out there to be judged. That's why it's so important to do them for yourself~ if you are happy with what you create, don't let anything or anyone take that away from you.

      Whenever I feel the 'what if it goes wrong' monster raising it's ugly head I just remind myself...'what if it goes right?' which is far greater every time :D

      End of the day, how people react to your work or lifestyle even is their personal opinion. An opinion isn't right or wrong it just is what it is. It's my opinion that Aerosmith are a fantastic band, it doesn't make me a bad person if someone else can't stand them :P

      ~Kaz x

    • LauraD093 profile image

      Laura Tykarski 

      9 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      Karen-I voted this Hub up and interesting. It also really hit a nerve for me. I had so much fear of rejection and fear of consequence when a younger artist/writer. As I grew older I still seldom allowed my own true voice or opinions to have a voice without a cloak of amenity. I verbalized and was an activist for years but for some odd reason (taught never to leave a paper-trail?)and fear I always hesitated to put the face or identity of the writer (myself) out there. So went my 20's and 30's a frustrated closeted writer who published or tried to publish only under pseudonyms because of my unrealistic fears. I really enjoy your work as an artist and writer you are a risk taker-that is to be commended. Ty.

    • KarenCreftor profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Creftor 

      9 years ago from Kent, UK

      Thanks Pearl and Johnjfernando :)

      ~Kaz x

    • Johnjfernando profile image


      9 years ago

      Thanks for the hub. Really brings out the fear and makes me look at the inevitable with more pride.

    • Precious Pearl profile image

      Dawn Bostick 

      9 years ago

      Wonderful Hub! One of my favorite scriptures says "For God has not given us a spirit of fear but of love, power and a sound mind." Fear can only put us in bondage ... and I choose to be FREE! Thanks for sharing!

    • KarenCreftor profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Creftor 

      9 years ago from Kent, UK

      Wow what wonderful responses thanks everyone!! Really encouraging for a Hub newbie :D Oh and thanks for the welcome Cyndi10

      Mike, Love it!! I'm going to remember that one thanks. It's probably the same for everyone tbh, the worst things that have ever 'happened' to us have never actually happened lol

      Thanks for the linkage too much appreciated!

      ~Kaz x

    • profile image


      9 years ago

      Hi Karen :0)

      great hub on a topic that effects everyone one on the Globe...heard it described once as

      F FALSE




      I think for myself at 49 now I have learned to face many of my fears and learned to handle and keep moving when it shows up and belive me I can relate to the self sabotage..moving to this country was a big one and shortly planning to move to Maui..but for the record my worst fears have never come true...they were just false ev appearing

      Great hub!!!

      Mike :0)

      ps, voted up and shared with followers :0)

    • Cyndi10 profile image

      Cynthia B Turner 

      9 years ago from Georgia

      You're so right. If you are able to conquer those unwarranted, baseless fears, then you have a huge burden that you weren't even aware of lifted. That's real freedom when that happens. Thanks for posting this hub. Oh, and welcome.

    • KarenCreftor profile imageAUTHOR

      Karen Creftor 

      9 years ago from Kent, UK

      Thanks for the wonderful comments :) I agree it's a very powerful emotion that rules most of us every day but so liberating if we can conquer it.

      ~Kaz x

    • philipuae profile image


      9 years ago from Sharjah, United Arab Emirates

      Yes 100% true, I suffered the same predicament. There are fear of many things, only way to overcome it is to approach it with educated understanding and determination.

    • L.L. Woodard profile image

      L.L. Woodard 

      9 years ago from Oklahoma City

      You've touched on a powerful, limiting emotion that so many of us fall prey to within our lives.


    This website uses cookies

    As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

    For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

    Show Details
    HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
    LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
    Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
    AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
    HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
    Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
    CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
    Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
    Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
    PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
    MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
    Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
    Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
    Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
    Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
    Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
    ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
    Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
    ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)