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Positive Thinking: Self-Confidence, Self-Esteem and Poise

Updated on November 14, 2015

Positive is Always in Process

Being positive is something you should do every day. Why? Because, we have a choice each day when we wake up, to be positive or negative – ‘chose to be positive’.

Look in the mirror each morning and decide that today I will put on a ‘happy’ face and think ‘positive’.

When those unpleasant negative thoughts bounce into your mind, chase them away with a positive thought such as:

  • Think of something you love doing
  • Think of something that makes you smile
  • Think about what you can do to treat yourself today
  • Think about whom can you give a hug to
  • Think about something pleasant that you have been looking forward to do and then plan it.
  • Always be nice to yourself, you are your best friend
  • Do something that makes you feel good


Counting your blessing and being positive is thinking on the bright side.

It is the opposite of negative. You will be more cheerful. It gives you more confidence, makes you calmer, and soothes you. You will find that your relationships with people improve. It will make your day-to-day tasks go smoother. You will look forward to each day and the challenges it brings.

If you are positive you will see a change in your life. You will become nicer, more understanding, calmer, peaceful and tranquil. Start each day with a positive outlook; make it your choice each morning.

When I became a positive person, I did not become rich, and certainly not the most understanding person – but I’m happier, contented and look to the good and brighter side of life, and I enjoy myself and - so can you. I look forward to each day, wondering what surprises are in store for me and look forward to the adventures and challenges that come my way.


Have you noticed that people who are cheerful and positive attract people?

Have you noticed that when you are around them you also catch their mood? Do you wish you were like that?

When you decide you are going to make a change, start with your body. Get enough sleep, eat right, exercise and drink plenty of water. A guideline of how much water you should drink on a daily basis: take your weight divide it by two, change it to ounces and that’s what you should be drinking. For example: weight is 120 pounds divided by two is 60. Change this to ounces so you should be drinking sixty ounces of liquid a day. Remember that there are several things that count as liquid, water, juices, ice cream and jell-o. No caffeine, pop, is to be counted.

Did you know that a small act of kindness to yourself helps you gain confidence? Think what a benefit kindness to someone else does. You reap benefits beyond your initial kindness, you can bring up that feeling by thinking of how you felt at the time you helped someone.

Counter other people’s negative action and attitude with compassion and kindness. Never take offense at another’s grumpiness or bad manners. Instead ask them if there is something you can do to help them. If they decline and are still grouchy, “don’t let their problems become yours”.


A good policy is to not use words that have a negative connotation such as: always, never, forever. Instead use words like: sometimes, maybe, perhaps.

Enjoy what you are doing, if you don’t – make a change. It’s hard to do something well if you don’t like what you are doing.

Did you know that a ‘simple smile’ could soften the hardest hearts? Try it.

Are you aware that exercise can help you with balance and concentration?

If you feel stressed, take a 5 – 10 minute walk, exercise or perhaps drink herbal or green tea. If you are in a place where you can meditate or relax for 10 – 15 minutes – this is refreshing. When refreshed – things will look better.

Did you know that a simple hug would make ‘you’ feel better? Not only that but the person you hug will also benefit. Try it.

Think positive, write positive and say positive – loose the negative.

Before going to bed, calm yourself with a bath, soft music, herbal tea or read. Do not read work related literature and last, meditate for 10 – 15 minutes.

Do you like what you are doing? Do you like where you are? If not make a change.

You need to have persistence and determination to become positive.

You become positive by making small changes each day.

Negative thoughts are like weeds, they need to be plucked out as they appear and replaced with positive deeds, thoughts and actions.


Of course we all have negative days – that’s being human. But, we can do something about our attitude and how we look at them. We are in control how we handle these challenges and how we deal with them. Do not let circumstances control you. Remember – you are in control of what road you travel.

Things happen to us:

  • Children get sick
  • House burns down
  • We loose our business through bankruptcy or other tragedies
  • We loose our job, or get another one
  • We move, lose a job or get a new job
  • We get cancer, diabetics, life threatening or life changing diseases
  • We have heartbreak, husbands/wives leave us, and we get divorces
  • We lose our loved one or a child
  • We are lonely.

All kinds of things happen to us that we are not in control of.

What we are in control of is what we do to deal with the event. If you are positive, you will handle them better. You can turn these events into challenges by handling one thing at a time.

Positive Actions

Start with positive sayings:

  • I can -----
  • I will -----
  • I think ----
  • I believe that I can --------
  • I have faith in -------
  • I have confidence -------
  • Make lists of things you like to do
  • Make a list of your traits
  • Make a list of the good things that you have done.

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Work in Progress

Being positive is always a work in progress.

This means that it is daily and sometimes we have to deal with unfortunate happenings many times during the day.

Deal with each event, as it appears then go onto the next. Don’t let things pile up like a basket full of fruit. Tidy each up as it comes to you.

Be your own coach. Fill your mind with encouraging thoughts. Magnify the positive and minimize the negative and remind yourself you can handle anything!

Plan ahead and chart your direction.

Becoming a positive person does not happen overnight. It happens one day at a time. It gets easier and easier and before you know it, it is a habit and one that will be your constant companion for the rest of your life.

The rewards are so plentiful and beneficial that you will wonder why didn’t I do this sooner?

The benefits that you will reap from being positive will influence and amaze you. Your days become brighter and you will look forward to each day with enthusiasm wondering what will today bring.

If I have made you want to make a change, contact me for my book “Garden of Contentment”.

I teach you how to become positive on a daily basis. I am proof it works, I am in my “Garden of Contentment” and I want you to join me.

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    • denise.w.anderson profile image

      Denise W Anderson 

      3 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      It is definitely a choice, to be positive when we get up in the morning! It does make a difference in what and how we act, and how we feel, during the day!

    • Jeanne Hoback profile imageAUTHOR

      Jeanne Hoback 

      3 years ago from Rapid City, SD

      I am glad that you discovered how to be positive. That's true, learn how to love. forgive and accept ourselves, then you can love, forgive and accept others.

      You learned early - It took me many years for me to learn this.

      Cudos to you!

    • Carlon Michelle profile image

      Carlon Michelle 

      3 years ago from USA

      These are things I've done starting at the age of thirty when I discovered I was a DebbieDowner. I'm now a happy, upbeat person. Once we learn how to love ourselves then we can show proper love and have balanced happy lives. Smile!


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