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Being Back Home After a Semester Abroad

Updated on January 27, 2020

Being back home after a stay abroad

For my studies, I went to Tokyo,Japan for one semester (basically 6 months) and around a week ago, I returned to Germany, which feels extremely weird.

During my trip, I've made a lot of friends, got used to my situation living in a huge and populated city, got used to the culture and found happiness in my situation. After my semester was done, it was time for me to finally return and I've experienced some mixed feelings about my return. On one hand, I've wanted to see all my friends, family members and basically missed a couple things about Germany, but on the other hand, it was really tough saying bye to all the people and the city I've enjoyed so much. On my last day in Tokyo, which was also the last day of exams and my birthday, I almos cried on the train ride back home from university, because I had to say bye to some of my best new friends.

Right before my last exam, me and one of my best friends were talking about the semester coming to an end and me leaving Japan. He told me : ' we basically just became real good friends after a couple months and now it is already time to say bye to each other for a long time'. Once he said that, my mood changed immediately and it saddened me a lot. I knew that I was going to miss him and all the others a lot, but hadn't realised it yet. Just being abroad for one semester is usually not enough, if you make a lot of good friends. Making good friends takes some time usually and saying bye to that person, who in my case also lives like 15 hours flight time away, is extremely sad.

While I was on the train and already said bye to all my friends at University, who weren't also living in the dorm, he texted me and we were again talking about how sad everything will be and I had tears in my eyes. He also told me not to cry on the train, because I would look like a weird foreigner and I started laughing with tears in my eyes. I'm sure that I will see him and my other friends at university again, but unfortunately it's not going to be a daily thing.

Getting back to the dorm from University, I prepared a couple things for the flight, some of my friends organized a party downstairs, I went down, had a couple of drinks, was a bit tipsy and went way too late to bed. The atmosphere was amazing, but also sad and I said goodbye to the people I had the chance to get to know and went back to my room really sad.

On the next morning, I took an early flight back to Germany and while on my way to the airport, I've realized that this thing had ended. My life in Japan was officially over and it would never be like that ever again. All the people I met, all the fun things I've experienced, all the new situations I was in, it was all over. The experience of being in a completely different country to your home country was mesmerizing. Especially in Japan, everything goes by so seamlessly. There is not much to worry about and it's way different in Germany.

Once I landed in Germany, I knew that I was back. Don't get me wrong, I like Germany as a country, but the people here are something else. There are a lot of really nice people, but also a lot of bad people. And those bad people basically ruin your life here. Also, where I live in Germany, everything is dark, the streets are always empty, there is nothing really to do, everyone dresses the same, looks the same, acts the same and this place is just the opposite of vivid.

It is hard right now to get used to this situation here and I feel like I don't belong here anymore. I also don't want to live here anymore, because it takes the joy out of me. The only fun times I have here, is whenever I see my family or my friends.

I don't really know why that is the case for me, but I believe that being somewhere else and seeing how fun, peaceful and happy your own life can be, makes you realise how much worse your old place is.

Or is it just because I lived here for my whole life and just got tired of being here? I don't really know, but I do know that returning back home from somewhere, where you enjoyed your life, can be extremely tough.

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    • crazyfacts profile imageAUTHOR

      Cihan Yilmaz 

      14 months ago from Germany/ Japan

      Hahaha, thank you very much !

      I always really like reading your comments, because they give me some laughter and another perspective of seeing things.

      All the things you said are true, but I was just focusing too much on the negative things, while writing that article.

      Anyway, I am feeling way better with my life in Germany now and things are looking up.

      Luckily I dodged the Coronovirus bullet. A lot of my friends, who are still in Japan/Korea right now, are saying that the situation is quite frightening. Hope that thing gets resolved soon.

      Thank you again and wish you a great weekend! :)

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      Cihan Yilmaz 

      14 months ago from Germany/ Japan

      True true. I am already feeling better and thank you for your comment :)

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      Mr. Happy 

      14 months ago from Toronto, Canada

      Hey! Wie geht's? Didn't know You were from Deutschland.

      "basically missed a couple things about Germany" - Ohh come on, family and friends are more than just "a couple of things", no?

      "My life in Japan was officially over and it would never be like that ever again." - I mean ... You can go on an extended university schedule (and go back to Japan to do a few more semesters), like many of my friends: take 6 years to get a BA. LOL Hey, took me like six years to finish high-school so, I'm not judging. That's how much fun I was having. : )

      "There are a lot of really nice people, but also a lot of bad people." - Haha!! Ya, just like anywhere on this planet amigo. Really. You'll find good people and bad people anywhere You go; of all shapes and colours. That has been my experience in life and I have done my fair share of travels.

      "Or is it just because I lived here for my whole life and just got tired of being here?" - Ya, I think You answered your own question here. The saying that comes to mind is: "The Grass is Always Greener on the Other Side" meaning things somewhere else always look better than the shit we're currently stuck with where we are. See, like me right now: "ohh how nice it would be to be in Germany right now. I would be so much closer to my friends in Romania, France, Greece, UK ... but no, I'm here in Canada with Oceans on both sides, far away from everything (everything meaning Europe, haha!!). See? I can fall into that too but I have a choice. I'm still a EU citizen. I could come back if I want, it's a choice I can make. You could probably apply for a working visa in Japan if You really wanted, no? Or, do more semesters lol Choices, choices, choices lol

      Hey, You got no corona virus, right? You survived Asia during the Corona Virus. That's memorable and You're most likely better-off in Germany where You only have one case as of now, compared with the 8 in Japan. Plus, Japan is a lot closer to where the whole thing started.

      Sigh ... one thirty in the morning. I was supposed to be in bed like two hours ago. What am I doing!? lol

      Was an interesting read. I enjoyed your thoughts. Best of luck for the future whatever You chose to do!

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      Liz Westwood 

      14 months ago from UK

      It sounds like you need a period of readjustment. But there will be more good times to come in the future. Maybe it might help if you can focus on something positive about being back in Germany, it might help to lift your spirits a little.

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