Being the best you
To Start Off...
I thought about making this page about marriage, making relationships work, etc. After some thought I decided to write about being the best you that you can be. I figure that if you do only that, all of your other relationships will fall into place. Being the best you can mean different things to different people; it can mean being a good person or having a great job or having an extended education. My definition, though, is putting myself first.
Putting yourself first
That may sound selfish but it really is not. Let me explain. By putting myself first, I mean taking care of myself. I mean getting 'me' time. I mean following my dreams. I mean making myself happy. I mean loving myself. If you cannot stand yourself, how can you expect for anyone else to? If you cannot make yourself happy, how can you expect to make anyone else happy? Do you see? If I take care of myself, I will be healthier and have more time with my children. When I take my 'me' time, I am more relaxed and I am more calm when handling life's stresses. When life gets out of whack, it makes you crazy sometimes. The trick is loving and trusting yourself enough to know that you can get through anything. When you come to grips with that, you don't lash out at the people around you. Instead, you lean on them for support and together you get through it.
I am a firm believer that God will never give you any situation that you cannot handle. The difference in the people that crack and the people that thrive is their attitude about themselves. I believe that the people that end up falling do so because they didn't love or trust themselves enough to know they would come through everything ok. I am not being cruel, I am being honest. I am not only talking about you guys out there in the world somewhere. I am talking about myself. I have been there and I have fallen and I have felt like it was the end of the world. I have been through loss and pain and regret but I have also been blessed and loved and praised. Life brings with it joy and pain, peaks and valleys, love and loss. That's why it's called life. You have to live it to fully appreciate it. Regardless of what we do though, the sun rises in the morning and sets in the evening. Days move on and eventually so do we. What we do get to choose is how we spend those days. We can choose to be content with how things are or we can choose to say that we are worth it and we want to be the best we can be.
How do I become the best me?
Now the hard part, for me at least, was figuring out how to be the best me. I'm sorry to say but I cannot tell you. Only you know that. What I can tell you is that I felt like I was losing my voice in this world; like I wasn't getting my say in how my life was going to be. That is so wrong. I was getting my say; I chose all the things I went through because of past decisions. We can't do anything to change the past but we can decide how our future goes...at least how we are going to handle what life brings. We always get to choose. The day I learned and understood this was the day I changed.
This blog is how I am getting full-filled. I get to be with my children and I get to have a voice. My hope is that anyone going through any challenge in life will stumble upon my page and maybe get the strength to love; love themselves and others. I get to feed my need to give advice by leaving it here for the world to find. I get an outlet for my thoughts and I feel released in a way. Its like a big, public diary that I want you to read. It's also great for me creatively because I learn new things everyday just by making this site. I don't feel alone because I know that you are out there and this is my connection to the world. This works for me and I am a better person because of it. The best me I can be is a voice; a voice for mothers, a voice for housewives, a voice for the weary, and a voice for the lonely. Knowing this fulfills me and makes me happier than I ever used to be. That happiness fills my home and reflects in my marriage and my children. We all love better and talk more and understand easier. Putting myself first has changed my life and I am a better wife and mother. All I can hope for is that you discover how to be the best you that you can be too.