Black Sheep
Black sheep
Black sheep poll
Which would you consider yourself?
What is a black sheep?
Well, I don't mean the fluffy kind that stand in a field and end up on your Sunday roast. For the sake of this hub, we are meaning the idiom, Black sheep of the family. A nickname for a family member who does not quite fit the mould. The meaning came about from history. Because of the rarity of a black sheep being born in to a herd of otherwise white sheep. It was also seen as the mark of the devil. So as you can imagine. The meaning does not have great connotations.
Sometimes not fitting the mould or breaking it is great. You may be from a bad family with no morals and ethics. You may shine through and be totally different. Despite your upbringing. Some Black sheep find themselves sailing through University when they are from a family of people who normally struggle academically.
But what happens if the Black sheep ends up being a darker and nasty version of what and who they evolve from? What do we do when they break the rules of moral standing in society?
Well, I have learned lately. What you do is walk away in the other direction. Sometimes the black sheep wants to be different because they like to be singled out and get the sympathy vote. They can be self-destructive and you can not offer help from those that do not wish to accept it or may feel it is being thrust upon them.
Other times it is just because they can miss elements that make them feel they have a need for a conscience. With these Black sheep of the family. Your history, love and feelings count for nothing. They are not only black sheep of the family. But also from society. They do not play by the rules of society and knock the balance of give and take out of kilter.
I myself seem to be a black sheep. Always cutting against the grain. But what keeps me from floating away altogether is although I choose to think differently from my family. I love and honour them. I play by societies rules in the way of morals. And I believe in Karma.
So here is to the good black sheep of the families out there. And to the selfish ones. Go rot. Because that kind destroys all in their future and breaks the hearts of all those in their path. Someone may wish to appear different and wild and anarchistic. But remember, it is the family that has to carry the reputation you set. And bad reputations have a habit of sticking harder.
Support the sheep.
Don't let one bad apple spoil the whole bunch!!
Comments
I'm the black sheep in my family, because I wound up with an alcohol problem, severe mental illness and have spent time homeless. I'm really not welcome in my family anymore, all because I had some problems for a while.
I enjoyed your article. I suppose I'm a black sheep. I don't mind being the 'good' black sheep. It's a choice because I'm the youngest girl. I always hated the community assuming they already knew who and what I was because they already knew my sisters, so I stay outside of the box.
I have never heard the term Black Sheep used in a good way, e.g., the first in a family to go to college. My dad was the Black Sheep in his family because he was the only one of ten siblings who was divorced, an adulterer, and a philanderer. His siblings were all happily married for fifty years.
And his children, including me, were definitely wilder than the children of his brothers and sisters. My cousins are all solid citizens—and wonderful people that I love I might add. But my brood includes an actor, a musician, an exotic dancer, a pool hustler, and a drug dealer.
In some ways, I consider myself the black sheep, but not really in a bad way. I am the only female in my family to graduate from college. I also have no desire to have children. That makes me different, but that works for me.
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Cogerson, Kashmir and Eiddwen. Thank you very much. It is always great to be different but not so great to shame family I guess. Thank you for reading and commenting x
Hi Ddraigcoch,
A great hub and thanks for sharing.
take care
Eiddwen.
Hi Ddraigcoch, A very nice and interesting hub !
Vote up !!!
Nice hub....I believe like you...I am a black sheep....very nice hub....voted up
Sometimes we just take a different path that isn't bad, just different and grow away from family. Maybe one chooses a different religion, to live far away or other things that make them seem separated. They may still love one another completely, but choose to live differently.
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