The Power of Addiction Is In You
What first seemed as a mild product of curiosity, slowly grew into a crippling settler in your life. No matter how aware you are of the consequences, something always finds it's way through.
When dealing with an addiction, the last thing you want to do is externalize the problem and give significance to whatever it is that you're addicted to.
Instead, focus on other areas of your life that you have control over.
I was never the one to stress the importance of living healthy, but that's exactly what helped me clean the clutter from my life in the year behind us.
Haven't tasted a drop of alcohol for almost a year now and stopped adding sugar to my coffee. I also quit drinking Coca-Cola, which is a huge deal for me, since I was someone who couldn't picture any situation without a can of coke nearby.
The reason behind leaving all those things behind was mostly financial. Of course, there are major health benefits to quitting or reducing the intake of any of the things mentioned above, but I've noticed those things only after I've set myself free from them.
Now, before you pack your will power and paint the reason behind your goals, you have to be prepared for certain mistakes that are often the reason why people fail in attempts to overcoming an addiction.
Don't Go Around Talking About It
After deciding you want to make a change in your life, you might be compelled to share that information with your friends.
Because doing so means putting the cause of your addiction in the spotlight.
The more attention you give it, the harder it'll be to get rid of it.
If you were to actually open up to someone about it, the people you turn to could usually be put into two categories.
- opening up to the people with the same addiction as yours
There's a high chance these people will drag you down with them, since they need someone to reassure them that whatever they're doing is not wrong. Often times they'll do this subconsciously.
- opening up to the people who want to support you
Even though they wish us the best, there's a certain risk here as well. Seeking motivation in someone else might look like a good idea, but what we often don't see is the potential guilt it carries with it. Having a feeling like you have to live up to your words can be detrimental if you ever happen to relapse.
Sooner or later someone will notice you changed and will bring it up.
The fact that someone else noticed it without you pointing it out will act as a major confidence boost, but remember to keep the attention off of the unwanted.
Just tell them you've decided to change and nothing more. You don't need to explain your reasons to them at this point, so the less you say, the better.
By refusing to talk about it, you lower the risk of getting pressured into going back to your old habits.
You don't need that.
Don't Let It Define You
Another huge part in giving attention to your addiction is by letting it define you.
Us humans have the amazing ability to change. With every second that passes, some aspect of you changes, whether it be physical or mental. It's up to you to decide in which direction the change will go.
With this much power at hand, why should you slap the label of any of your vices on you?
If we were to look at smoking for example, let's say you're currently smoking a pack of cigarettes a day and you wish to quit. The first step here should be to stop calling yourself a smoker.
Yes, certain social situations will require you to state yourself as a smoker or a non-smoker, but in the comfort of your home the rules are different.
I don't care if you just had a smoke. In your head, that shouldn't make you a smoker in your head.
That way your mind won't think everything is set in stone and you'll have room to grow, so the change will come more naturally.
I'm aware that this crosses with what we call denial, but it's just a mechanism to help you along the way. It's the 'end justifies the means' scenario.
There's a thin line between lying to yourself and dealing with the problems in silence. But if you keep your balance, you'll walk safely to a better version of yourself.
Until you take notice of these things and put them into practice, there is little use of following any other methods for battling addictions.
No matter how small or big your addiction is, it's important to remember that you should always be serious about it.
The end goal is to build self-confidence, and you achieve that by focusing on yourself instead of the addiction.
The power is not in the outside world, it's in you - and how you let it shape you.