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Dark Spots to Overcome

Updated on February 2, 2012
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We all have those "dark spots". The times in life where you feel that you are struggling more than not. Either you could be dealing with a death or loss like a breakup, in a bad situation at work, or at home and it's difficult situation for you to get out of. Maybe you're in a bad relationship that you don't feel that you have the strength to leave. Maybe you're finding yourself and realizing that life just isn't what you think it is. Maybe you are getting abused, but don't have the resources to get yourself out. Something deep inside may be holding you back.

In those times know that you are never truly alone. It may seem dark and feel like it is the end of the world. You may want to kill yourself at times, it can get so bad. At those times find that little piece of hope deep inside you. It can save you. It saved me.

There were times when I didn't want to live anymore. The pain from situations became so bad. I felt alone and that nobody understood what I felt like. I felt like I couldn't relate to people's happiness anymore. There were horrible times of abuse that made me feel empty and isolated. It grew into a full blown depression. Then the aftermath of the abuse. The trauma held inside created a kind of "pain body" around me. I felt heavy and lifeless as if all the pain was holding me down even after it had occurred.

A friend of mine killed herself about four years ago. She jumped in front of a metra train leaving her purse on the pavement so people would know who she was. She was prescribed so many medications. She was always depressed. I tried to talk with her and listen and to help her as much as I could. I always felt she had some inner demons she needed to confront. She never had the chance to. She was getting out of an emotionally abusive relationship that was killing her spirit. She was hiding that from everyone. I thought she was okay the last time I talked to her on the phone. She seemed happy. She found a new boyfriend and was laughing. A few weeks later her sister called me to tell me that she died. I always thought I could've helped her more in some way. If only she held on to some hope inside of her or had tried getting some other kind of help.

When I think of that situation, I think of how lucky I am for surviving. I thank God everyday and am gracious for everything I had been given and I stop focusing on the bad things in my life. I always think of how others need more help than you may think.

I read that our cells hold onto our painful emotions and can weigh us down. That negative energy that is stuck in our bodies can have negative affects on our mental and physical health if not released. There is also "body memory" where our bodies actually hold onto things from the past that we can't remember such as sexual abuse, and other types of childhood abuse that maybe too painful for us to remember. That energy that is held inside is stuck there. That energy and pain and memories can be released through hypnotherapy, inner child work, and alternative medicine and healing techniques. You don't have to suffer.

Inner child work can be very fulfilling. It can make you love the little child in you again. A lot of the times we get addicted to things, and get depressed. It may be due to a lot of that pain build up that has never been released. During inner child work it can be released. Inner child meditations can help you a lot. Look for some resources online. There are plenty to choose from. Basically what it does is takes you back to how you felt like as a child, sometimes during the painful event, and forgive yourself and give your inner child love.

Other healing techniques that work (depending on your situation) are reiki, acupuncture, acupressure, yoga, meditation, and breath work. These all help to release built up energy that has physically stored itself in your body. This is not a replacement for drugs that are required by a medical doctor if you have been diagnosed with a disease or disorder. These are just options to make your spirit feel better if you feel that nothing else has helped, or if you still feel the same.


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    • carolinemd21 profile imageAUTHOR

      Caroline Marie 

      7 years ago

      @ Cheryl I'm sorry to hear you are not doing that well. I hope you can find a way through the bad times. Sometimes all you need is some hope. Miss seeing you around. Take Care. Thank you for reading my article.

      @ Stessily I always love your in depth analyzation of my articles and poems. You are a great friend. I missed you! I will be reading some of your great analytical articles soon. :)

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      7 years ago

      caroline, This is such a heartfelt presentation. It is sad that your friend was not able to free herself; leaving her purse by the side so her body could be ID'd is such a poignant touch.

      The depths of sadness is a lonely place. This is a powerful statement of that place: "I felt like I couldn't relate to people's happiness anymore."

      Many of the darks spots to overcome are commonly experienced. This dark spot is overwhelming and yet not always noted: "Maybe you're finding yourself and realizing that life just isn't what you think it is." The mismatch between uncovery of self and realities of living can be devastatingly disappointing.

      It's great that you point out the memories of painful emotions which are embedded in our cells; oftentimes people have no idea where some of their emotions are coming from, and they're being activated by those cellular memories.

      You've given good strategies for overcoming these dark spots.

      Breath work, meditation, and yoga are powerful, gentle remedies.

      Well done.

      Kind regards, Stessily

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      Cheryl Simonds 

      7 years ago from Connecticut

      I have been there and are still dangling at times. I know how you feel. I am glad to hear that you have found your way out and I hope to have swum to the surface very soon. At least I know I'm not alone and that helps to keep the demons back.

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      Caroline Marie 

      7 years ago

      @ Hi Sky thank you for the kind words and support. I am glad you found my writing interesting and inspiring.

      @ SubRon that sounds great! I look forward to reading your story.

      @ Debbie those are pictures I have found. Aren't they gorgeous? Thank you so much for your kind and heartfelt compliments. I am glad to help with anything I can. I also think that you are a beautiful person in and out. Yes, I love sharing on here. I am glad to know you. Thank you so much for sharing on Facebook :)

      @ Gina thank you for reading and commenting. I am glad I have helped you.

      @ Always isn't it great? I am so happy you found peace too. Thank you for sharing. :)

      @ Raciniwa thank you so much for stopping by. I am always glad to see your comments, Keep your Spirit high as well. :)

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      7 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      i am sad on what happened to your friend...yes, everyone of us has wounded soul that needs very much to be healed...and your hub tells me that you are aware of that...professional help is needed in worse circumstances...Keep the Spirit high...

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      Ruby Jean Richert 

      7 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Caroline, I am so glad that you found the healing power that releases you from bondage. I found that power too. I love to meditate. It releases a positive energy and brings you closer to God. Thank you for sharing..God's Blessings..

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      Gina Joy Bennett 

      7 years ago

      Wow,thank you so much for writing this. It is really helpful. I am going through a very stressful ongoing situation right now as I know others are to. Thanks again for writing this.

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      Deborah Brooks Langford 

      7 years ago from Brownsville,TX

      First of all where did you get those beautiful pictures?

      Caroline you are such a beautiful person inside and out my dear. I really enjoy reading your hubs. I am so glad you have the Lord to help you through hurtful situations.. I know exactly what you are talking about. isn't it wonderful that we can talk about our feelings on the hub?

      I know of so many people that are hurting because of their situations. I want to share this on Facebook. it is that good. thank you my dear for writing this. It probably took a lot out of you.

      God Bless you my dear.


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      James W. Nelson 

      7 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      The comment section seems to be the best way to communicate with you. I tried at your website yesterday. The contact page had no button to "send" so I will tell you here. If you look at my profile page you can see where my books are available. I wouldn't recommend B&N, as I'm slowly pulling out of there. Amazon Kindle is best. But right now I'm working on creating "active" Tables of Contents. First I need to see on an actual Kindle if my TOCs are actually "working" before I go to all the work of doing that. You maybe already know how that works: You click on a chapter title and instantly go there. That's a major improvement for any digital book. Right now 5 of my books can be "borrowed" for no charge, until at least March. When I have "The Bellwether" up I will let you know.

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      7 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      Caroline it's always such a pleasure being assured by you that's all those are presently and that you are strong and listening your favorite music when the need arises.

      I truly feel when on is able to relate to such things and give their solid opinion on them, that's the strength of the person.

      I wrote this poem some time ago: A bad day should be spent alone, not so much so that there is none to help , but there are some people who deliberately sets out to spoil other people day, and that's when they are selfish.

      It's so noble of you to always bring , something good that touches the spirit.

      I remember them all , keep strong .

      Always ask that which you don't understand.

      Everything but truth have many meanings.


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      Caroline Marie 

      7 years ago

      Hi Michael thank you for the kind words. You are a great part of hubpages too. Thank you for your constant support!

      Hi SubRon your comments always make me laugh. Wow that is so interesting about your novel. I would love to read it. Yes, those are sky lanterns. They are part of many asian celebrations and rituals. Very beautiful. Thanks for your support as always!

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      James W. Nelson 

      7 years ago from eastern North Dakota

      Beautiful photos to illustrate your heartfelt hub, Caroline. I, too, have been on the bottom which went on and off for several years. I finally just decided that if I was to crawl out of my hole I had to do it myself. I went on attitude alone but I'm sure some of the things you have recommended would have helped, but back in my late-twenties in the late-sixties such ideas weren't readily available. As for God, I don't pray to God, but most days I "thank" Him for something or other. On my judgement day He will probably say, "Is that all you thought you had to do, Jim?" I won't have a good answer.

      On my last comment I mentioned horses in my novel "The Bellwether" Don't remember if I also mentioned one time that the heroine in that story is named "Caroline." Are those photos lanterns, like mini hotair balloons? I saw one lit once. It was an amazing thing to see! Thanks for a good hub, Caroline

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      7 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      I'm glad you have found yourself .the lord has brought you to us here om hubpages and we are happy for this.Thanks for letting it out, if it helps just one person you have done good , I know it will even help you to release and let it out.

      Much Love



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