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Don't Feel Guilty about Your Guilty Pleasures
What is a Guilty Pleasure?
Everyone has one. We all have secret things that we like that we are afraid to divulge lest someone think less of us, or look at us in a strange way, or poke fun at us. I've heard people mention so-called guilty pleasures such as listening to Kelly Clarkson, watching Molly Ringwald movies, or reading romance novels. Well, I can tell you that I do all of the above, so I must be really guilty! Instead of being secretive and anxious about our guilty pleasures, we should be open and honest both with ourselves and others. Something that one would consider a guilty pleasure is something that we love in spite of our fears, guilt, and anxiety, which shows our true passion. If we deny ourselves things that we are very passionate about because we are afraid of what others will think, we become dead inside, hollow. We lose part of who we are. Guilty pleasures are just pleasures. Hold the guilt.
Our Deepest Fear
Is that We Won't Belong
Society as a whole is much too concerned about what other people think. Why is that? What will gaining or losing someone's approval do for us in the long run, if we lose our passion? What makes someone else's guilty pleasure more deserving of acceptance than yours? Those are questions that no one can answer. The best thing that you can do is ignore those niggling feelings of doubt and guilt. Have fun, be passionate. Share your passion with those that are important to you. If they don't like it, well.....too bad! You are who you are and there's no reason to be anybody else.
I'm not Ashamed
You can Laugh
I have a Harry Potter tattoo on my foot. I am an avid Harry Potter fan, and I don't care what anyone says about it. I waited until I was 30 to get my tattoo, and I LOVE it. Every time I look at my foot, I'm happy. It hurt, and people sometimes look at me like I'm crazy. I don't care. I'm not guilty about my guilty pleasure. You should feel the same way!
Meet Tori, guilty pleasure
Tori Amos, Guilty Pleasure
I've loved Tori for years. I understand that not everyone feels that way. Should I then be ashamed of the elated feeling I get every time I hear one of her songs? Should I pretend not to be a fan? I'm not going to do that. I'm proud to love Tori. She's an amazing songwriter, an unbelievable musician, and a piano prodigy. Saying things like, 'She's an acquired taste,' or 'You probably won't like this,' is typical guilty pleasure mentality. I'm not going to do that anymore. I'm going to say, 'Oh, you like this song? It's by Tori Amos, my favorite artist. That's taking pleasure in what makes you happy. That's what everyone should do.
Let Your Freak Flag Fly!
Let it Fly Free
So, don't be afraid to be who you are. If you want to have a marathon party of all seven seasons of Buffy the Vampire Slayer, you go ahead and do that. Invite me!! I'd love to go. Don't feel ashamed about it either. Be 'out and proud' about whatever it is in life that makes you happy, unless it harms others or yourself, or breaks the law. Barring those restrictions, have a blast. Rock out to Kelly Clarkson, or whatever music makes you want to dance. Watch The Breakfast Club, Pretty in Pink, and 16 Candles every day if that's what tickles your fancy. And don't feel any guilt about it. Whatever pleasure we have in life, it is precious. To be ashamed of it is only wasting a feeling, a moment, or an experience. Moments are fleeting, feelings are genuine, and experiences are what life is made of. Without our pleasures, our moments, our feelings, and our experiences, we're dead. So rejoice in being alive, and enjoy life to the fullest.