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Four Ways to See the Best in Everyone

Updated on September 7, 2020
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Timothy is a Christian who enjoys creating visual art and writing. He has a B.S. in Psychology.


Finding Fault With People

It is easy to pick out someone's faults, in fact most people are experts. I know I do used to do it everyday. I would see things in the people around me which I considered wrong, the things that annoyed me to no end. In fact I was very good at slapping a label on the people I would meet.

Look at her she is so self centered, petty and bitter. How about him he just doesn't get it even a little bit. How about her she is over weight and I could do better than him he is not as smart as I am and of course he wears the wrong clothing. How about my boss he or she is so arrogant. The list goes on and on. How about you chances are you play the fault game, most people do is they are honest with themselves.

Don't worry it is human nature to evaluate every person by our own personal standards, it is called the fault game. The key to see the best in everyone is to stop playing the fault game. Here are some tips which may help you. I know they've helped me over the years.

Four Ways to See The Best in Everyone

1. One of the easiest ways to see the best in everyone is to not to rely on first impression. Don't judge a person based on looks. Take the time to get to know them, their likes or dislike, how their life is going. Once you know a person well it will be a lot easier to see the best the person has to offer. An old saying is “We don't have two eyes and ears and one mouth for no reason.”

2. Another way to see the best in everyone is to learn to trust people and their abilities. At first it will not be easy to let your guard down because of course no one can perform certain tasks better than you, or can they? You will never know unless you let someone try. The best people are the ones we have yet to trust.

3. A good way to see the best in everyone is to look past a person's faults and see the person as they could be in the future. Jesus had a knack for seeing people, not as they presently were but as what they would become with His help. It is easy to let someones faults take in the upper hand in your opinion of that person. The trick is looking past their faults and seeing them at their best.

To see the best in everyone you must also remember you're not always right. Other people do have good ideas and are usually capable of doing whatever you may ask of them, the key though is to ask.

4. Finally there is one word I have tried to eliminate from my vocabulary when it comes to talking about people. The word is hate. We hate the way someone dresses. We hate the way someone works. We hate the way someone looks or doesn't look. When you start hating things about a person you will never see the best in anyone.

Some Final Thoughts

While this is not an exhaustive list of way you can learn to see the best in everyone, it is a list which I hope will help, at least a little. I know I have used all of these techniques at one time or another and they have greatly increased my ability to become a better person myself as well as to see the best in everyone I come in contact with. Remember the best in everyone is there, sometimes you just have to look hard to find it.

© 2013 Timothy Whitt


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    • whittwrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Timothy Whitt 

      8 years ago from New Jersey

      Thanks for your comments. I used to be very critical of people especially when I would first meet them. Then I learned first impressions are not what I should be going on. I have met some wonderful people whom, I first wrote off and also some not so wonderful people who I though were great on first impression.

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      8 years ago from Windsor, Connecticut

      This article has some good tips. I have been guilty of being critical of people upon first glance, but you're right. First impressions are not very good to go on, and I know there are many things others could criticize me for. It's best to treat others the way we want to be treated. It's amazing how we can be so judgemental, as if we are the ideal person. Thank you for sharing this with us. It will make me more aware of how I react upon seeing or meeting someone.

    • whittwrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Timothy Whitt 

      8 years ago from New Jersey

      Thanks for the wonderful comments

    • Cantuhearmescream profile image


      8 years ago from New York


      Thank you! This seems like such a simple concept yet people find it so hard to do. I have learned to have a distaste for society anymore and I find myself becoming somewhat withdrawn. I have tried to be a perfectionist my entire life and only partly for personal reasons, but more so, to satisfy "everyone else". It is a daunting and exhausting task attempting to please everyone and someone will never be satisfied. I admit, I have passed quick judgments before and these have been one some of the people who I eventually came to admire. We cannot know a person and their hardships and the things that brought them to where they are upon first impressions. Why do we feel the need to measure others to ourselves and use ourselves as the standard of right? I'm so glad that you took the time to write this and I hope thousands read it and appreciate the message.

      Voted up and Beautiful!


    • whittwrites profile imageAUTHOR

      Timothy Whitt 

      8 years ago from New Jersey

      Thanks for reading

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      Shining Irish Eyes 

      8 years ago from Upstate, New York

      Great Hub with an important message. Never judge a book by it's cover.

      Voting up and sharing.


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