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Emotional Recovery Module Number 1

Updated on May 1, 2013

Honesty and Openness

There is a secret place in my mind's eye where Spirit soars like an eagle. In solitary flight, such consciousness floats beneath a backdrop sky of pale blue.

Thin, pink slivers of paint brush clouds glow pastel yellow and fire orange from the setting Sun.

Grey mountains loom majestically on the distant horizon. Still and polished ocean waters flow out from the mountain base, reflecting healing twilight.

As the tide recedes from an almost dark sandy beach, my vision connects me to the presence of Positive Power within.

I have devoted my whole professional career to helping people learn how to prevail over the negative side and expand their positive potential.

Do you suffer from problems with anxiety, anger, depression, mood swings, guilt, fear, stress, or problematic relationships?

Would you like to learn practical skills to defeat negative habits such as cigarettes, overeating, gambling, obsessive compulsive behaviors, low self-esteem, codependency, alcoholism, drug dependency, or other serious self-defeating behaviors?

Then take a few minutes today to check out my Emotional Recovery system.

(My new book to be released by SterlingHouse Publishers Inc. in 2009, will also help you with this process of positive life change. It's called The Eby Way: Challenging, Releasing, Healing Your Painful Past.)

I. Honesty is the first step to emotional recovery. To be honest means the following:

A. Break through these patterns of denial:

1. Avoidance: I will talk about anything but the real problem.

2. Absolute Denial: I don't have a problem.

3. Minimizing: It's not that bad.

4. Blaming: It's not my fault.

5. Rationalizing: I have a good reason.

6. Comparison: Others are worse than me.

7. Manipulating: I'll only change if you do what I want.

8. Fear: I can't stop because it's too hard.

9. Compliance: I'll do anything to get you off my back.

10. Hopeless: I'm beyond help.

11. I-don't-care: Life sucks, so what!

12. Control: I can do this a little bit.

B. Which denial pattern do you use?

C. Are you ready to accept being honest about these problems?

II. Being open is the second step to positive change. To be open means a willingness to believe that you can change your life today. Are you willing to learn new ways to control negativity?

A. Then I challenge you to say the following affirmation at least 10 times at day: "I refuse to hurt myself no matter what happens in my life."

B. How have you been hurting yourself? Please elaborate.

C. Can you see your present form of negative behavior, thinking, or painful emotions as a form of self-harm?

D. If so, start today to refuse to hurt yourself anymore.

There is a secret place in my mind's eye where Spirit soars like an eagle...

Looking at the Light

Peace within
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Emotional Recovery the Eby Way


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      11 years ago

      Great hub.Helped me in many ways to deal with my emocional issues. Thank you.

    • Theresea Hughes profile image

      Theresea Hughes 

      11 years ago


      This is wonderful. Well written hub, with great tips to emotional recovery. Love your stuff.

      Keep your healing work going!


    • raymondphilippe profile image

      Raymond Philippe 

      12 years ago from The Netherlands


      to be honest with yourself is indeed a very powerful first step to take. In any recovery.

      Great hub.

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      Susan Reid 

      12 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

      Hi Gary,

      This is GREAT stuff. Hope you are getting good traffic to your hubs and blog. I like that you broke things down in list form. I love your DENIAL patterns and AFFIRMATION. Affirmations are sooo healing!

      Peace and serenity, MM


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