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Feeling Exhausted: What Every Woman Should Do To Take Care of Herself

Updated on May 27, 2012

I know when I am feeling exhausted when my nose starts acting up and I’d be sneezing for half an hour when I wake up. Then there’s my temper, it would be shorter than on ordinary days and I’d find myself flaring up easily or crying when feeling frustrated. My appetite would go haywire – sometimes insanely craving for food and sometimes having no appetite at all. And mostly, I don’t want to do anything but sleep. So I do and when I wake up, my body aches all over and I feel like I’ve been run over by a truck. Then it hits me...I have reached my exhaustion level!

So I say STOP!

Women’s lives can become so busy and demanding, taking care of others and managing a lot of responsibilities from work to home, that we tend to forget to take care of ourselves. So here are 7 Great Ways Women Should Do to Take Care of Herself and Deal with Exhaustion!

Walking on the grass - barefoot!
Walking on the grass - barefoot! | Source

1 Walk Barefoot on the Grass

Luckily, we have a sizable amount of grass in our garden so I could try this out. Removing my slippers, I stepped into the grass and felt the blades of grass tickle the soles of my feet. I didn’t move from the spot as I close my eyes and opened my hands to embrace the warmth of the sun. I took a deep breath and focused on releasing the stress that I was feeling into the earth.

Martin Zucker’s book “Earthing” calls this Grounding! Grounding is a simple way to experience the flow of the earth’s electric energy and how it can connect to your body physically. Studies have shown that this promotes healing and can create a deep sense of well-being.

Spend at least half an hour walking or standing still and just allow yourself to connect with the earth.

Earthing by Clinton Ober, Stephen Sinatra, MD, Martin Zucker

2 To Touch and Be Touched

Be aware of what tense muscles feel like. I usually have upper back pains when I am stressed. Since I know and understand the healing power of touch, I readily grab my cell phone and make an appointment for a home massage or go to a spa. The investment is well worth it for it really relaxes tense muscles and improves circulation.

Driving home after a stressful day, I noticed that my upper back was aching. Stopping on a red light, I gently rubbed my back while I reassured myself that I was okay, that I did okay and everything was going to be okay. I did this on all the stop signs and when I arrived home, surprisingly my back was better!

Another friend shared how petting her cats make her feel – good, calm and loving. “I can pet them for hours and my stress just melts away.” To touch and be touched is a wonderful way to relieve exhaustion. A good cry (if you need one) while being hugged by a loved one is therapeutic and does wonders for the soul.


3 Change of Scenery

I have always wondered before why I was okay one minute and down the next. It was only when I discovered my healing gift that I was made to understand that I easily picked up energies of the people around me. So if I was in a room with someone throwing negative energy and I could feel my energy getting low, a change of scenery helps. I would sometimes go into the garden, breathe in some fresh air or visit the classrooms and be with the kids.

In other circumstances, a change of scenery simply means taking time off to visit a park, museum or any other place (aside from your usual day to day work-home routine) that makes you feel good.

4 Talk about Your Feelings

Do you know that it can be a challenge to talk about our feelings because often times we have a hard time identifying what we truly feel?

I truly laughed when Oprah shared that she never needed a therapist because she had her BFF Gayle. And she could talk to her no holds barred. I am blessed because I too have people in my life that I could really talk to and they have been there through my idiotic or sound moments.

If you have difficulty opening up to people, you can actually talk to yourself. Find an empty room and talk to yourself. Or if you are spiritual, you can pray and talk to God too.

Denying your feelings never work. They backfire. The important thing is to identify what you feel so you can release it and allow positive things in its place.

5 Pay Attention to What Increases your Love of Living

I find that listening to music, reading inspirational stories or watching inspirational movies/short videos bring me to a feeling good place. So when I am exhausted, I turn to my favourite music and sing my heart out and wander around the net finding inspiration.

I also noticed that I become exhausted when I find that my focus is on my fears and worries instead of my dreams. Revisiting my dreams and being hopeful somehow paints a rainbow in my otherwise gloomy sky.

Lastly, gratitude increases my love for life. Being thankful for the little things and the big ones eases my exhaustion levels in ways that I cannot even begin to explain.

Music Helps Alleviate Tiredness

6 Allow Somebody Else to Take Care of You

Women who are so used to taking care of others have a hard time allowing others to take care of them. I had to learn this the hard way. Being the eldest in the family, I wasn’t aware that I was so used to giving that it was hard to receive.

But during moments when I was super exhausted emotionally and physically, it felt so good to have someone else take care of me and not feel guilty. So stop pushing those who want to take care of you.

Tell yourself, “I will allow others to take care of me.”

7 Take a Breather and Rest

Lastly, when all is said and done, the best way to deal with exhaustion is to breathe deeply and relax your whole body and rest. When you are tired, your body is telling you, “Time out! Take it easy! It’s time to relax and put your feet up!”

So after publishing this hub, I am going to put my feel up while I lie on my bed and dream of dreams and let go of whatever is worrying me. Tomorrow is another day. But for now, I need to be gentle with myself and sleep.

BY: Michelle Simtoco



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      4 years ago

      Thankyou for sharing I am grateful for your knowledge your time and your caring

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      carol stanley 

      6 years ago from Arizona

      Lovely commentary on things to do to get us perked up. I find fatigue comes when I feel down or stressed. You have some great ways to make some changes. Thanks for sharing this.

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Better Yourself: Thanks for the validation. I am glad that these suggestions resonate with you. Yes do try the walking or standing on the grass. It feels good! :) Blessings...

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      Better Yourself 

      7 years ago from North Carolina

      So true! I love all these ideas and at some point have gone to these very things to relieve stress and exhaustion (except the walking/standing in the grass which was very interesting and I will have to try). I play uplifting music all the time and have my ipod with me at all times. Talking with girlfriends and especially my mom is so therapeutic and sometimes you just need a good cry or a hug! Love this - thanks for sharing!

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      omo daddy: so true...we should know when to stop! :) Blessings.

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      omo daddy 

      7 years ago

      It is how we women exhaust ourselves to the point of breaking down before we stop. Thanks for sharing these tips, found it very useful. Thumbs up.

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Cathleena, superwoman - that is exactly the word I use when I feel I have to do everything! And I ask, "what do they think of me...a superwoman?" hahahahah Yes, when we are balanced and okay, we can be up for anything! So today I am just lazing around and hubbing a bit! Thanks for dropping by and take care of yourself. Love and light.

    • Cathleena Beams profile image

      Cathleena Beams 

      7 years ago from Tennessee

      Taking proper care of yourself is a difficult thing for many of us. We expect ourselves to be superwoman and be able to handle it all. Sometimes we are so focused on what others in our life require that we put aside our own needs in order to take care of everyone else's. Exhaustion is inevitable when we do this. The irony is that when we stop and take care of our own needs first, when we are rested, it is a lot easier to deal with all the other things that are too stressful to face when we are worn out and exhausted.

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Ruby, thank you! I played Enya while I was writing this hub, it soothed me a lot! :) Blessings.

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      Maree Michael Martin 

      7 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

      Yeah, Enya is awesome. I have got to get back into music, and videos. Thanks for another wonderful hub I learn so much from!

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Om: You said it so well, thank you for sharing! Have a blessed and happy day to you. :)

    • Om Paramapoonya profile image

      Om Paramapoonya 

      7 years ago

      Really awesome hub! I think your advice # 5 is very important. Sometimes we just get caught in the hectic web of life - work, money making, family matters, etc. Then we cease to live and simply exist. It's nice to remind ourselves every once in a while about things that we really love to do, things that make us deeply happy. :)

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      joanveronica: I had thought I was insane as my emotions went up and down like roller coaster and that helped me a lot. Now I can also say I am better at dealing with it as I also do tai chi. :) I want to learn QiGong and visualizing a teacher to come nearest me.

      jpcmc: So true...even men need to deal with exhaustion level. I wasn't so sure what you guys do to relax. My suggestions might be too feminine? LOL Thanks for being here! Blessings.

      Krystal: I am glad you enjoyed the suggestion on increasing our love for living. I also had to consciously do this until it became a habit of sorts. Keep on slowing down every so often and breathe in the beauty of life.

      Blessings to all of you dear friends. Love and light always!

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      kelleyward: Hi Kelley. I have observed many times how touch soothes me. I guess that is one of my love languages! LOL Go do take off your shoes and walk on the grass. Hope you have fun!

      raciniwa: Thank you for mentioning that. Loved the suggestion too as walking on the beach is therapeutic as well. :)

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines's so nice to come back and read all your comments. Our phone line was down yesterday so I took the night off to rest. So I am back and what a delight it is!

      teaches: So you like walking on the grass too. How lovely! I truly hope this hub helps in some way or the other. Thanks for being here.

      Melovy: I smile with delight as I see you walking on barefoot on Scotland. Thank you for sharing your experience and your heart!

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      7 years ago from Los Angeles

      I really enjoyed reading this and my favorite suggestion was about paying attention to what increases your love of living. Amazing how we lose touch with ourselves with the hustle and bustle of life. Slowing down, breathing, being. This is what makes me appreciate life.

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      JP Carlos 

      7 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      I know it's meant for women, but they are great for guys as well. We all need to set aside time for ourselves. Easier said than done though. :)

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      Joan Veronica Robertson 

      7 years ago from Concepcion, Chile

      I loved this Hub! Voted up, etc. But I really liked the comment about absorbing other persons' negative energy! This is so true, my QiGong teacher had taught me the same! Be happy!

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      7 years ago from Naga City, Cebu

      walking barefoot on the sand is a great experience too...

      what a wonderful hub ripple maker...

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      7 years ago

      What a fantastic hub to read first thing in the morning. Thanks ripplemaker for reminding me how important touch is. I think I might just take off my shoes and walk in the grass today! Take care, Kelley

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      Yvonne Spence 

      7 years ago from UK

      One of my daughters loves to barefoot on grass and now I know why. I read this and went and did the same. We’re having a hot spell in Scotland (glorious) and it’s very soothing to stand barefoot on the grass. I did it immediately after reading this! All your other suggestions are great too. Voted up and sharing.

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      Dianna Mendez 

      7 years ago

      There's just something about grass that puts you at peace. I love the feel of the soft spring green grass in the northern midwest. It is just like walking on feathers. Wonderful hub and one that every woman will benefit from reading.

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      7 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      VioletSun: Marie, still connected huh? hahahah it is so sweet. I invited Daisy over and we decided to walk on the grass for silent meditation. As I was writing this hub, I realized that we do need to take care of ourselves and taking a walk and being alone is one of them.

      It had a beautiful day thank you. Now it's back to work. Hugs and love too :)

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      7 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      Michelle, all the tips you gave resonated with me. Yesterday, I walked across the street to a little park that has only open spaces and one can see the clouds rolling across the sky and I took off my shoes to feel the grass. I felt the pull do this. And here you are sharing about studies that says that standing on grass is healing! Whoo Hooo. We have plenty of grass in our front yard, but wanted to take a walk and be alone.

      Hope you enjoyed your day off my friend.

      Voted up and awesome, of course. Hugs and love. :)


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