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Goal Setting Tips That Changed My Life For Greatness

Updated on June 13, 2019
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Writing is my passion. I have an undying thirst and quest in the field of writing. Some eat, drink or use drugs when stressed; I write.

We all heard the saying, "Time is a precious commodity," and regardless of your life situation, it carries over no balance from each day. Time is the great equalizer and how you prioritize your time will decide how you spend it and remember your time is precious.

Time can be the excellent cutoff point, just the trouble with not having goals is some people talk about having one, yet they fail to put forward a sincere effort to put it in place or maintain it, so its defeat the purpose. This gives way to several questions as to what does a ‘goal’ mean?

How do I create a goal? How do I go about reaching my goals? Well, the dictionary defines a goal as the object of a person's ambition or effort; an aim or desired result but to answer how to create a goal or how to go about reaching it, I can say that goals should meet three criteria. They should be:

1. Measurable

2. Meaningful

3. Attainable

After setting a goal, then you should start with small aims that move you towards more astronomical life purposes. We all should take control of our destiny by having goals. We can all achieve our dreams when we set goals and plan appropriately.

Nonetheless, it is not easy meeting goals, especially if you are an individual that finds it harder to see things through when it comes to setting personal goals.

Yet, the best way to achieve any goal in life is to plan, act, and to follow through on the approach along the way to ensure the objective are achievable.

What I want may be different from another, but setting goals will help us find the path that we may decide to choose. I want to write and hope that someday, my writing and name will be available worldwide for many to read.

While one person's goal may be to live a comfortable life, and another might want to travel to far off lands. Moreover, an individual may want to be self-employed to feel in control of their life.

All the same, wishes may vary from person to person, but to fulfill them will make the person happy for sure. However, this is where most people go astray because they fail to set goals.

Why setting goals are essential!

If you want to maintain personal goals, it is vital for you to set goals and priorities. Setting goals gives your life direction, and it is necessary as it helps you to be as transparent and as precise as possible.

It's a dominant force to have in your corner and not only does goal gives you to the foundation to build and grow but it also assists you to learn that life comes with problems, and prepare you to deal with them.

My goals in life are something some would consider unique, as I desire to be a successful writer. Most of my family and friends are caught up in the tradition that a person needs to have an excellent job so they can invest in a retirement plan.

That's a good thing but, it no longer my interest; I love to write different life stories which I want to share and have them available so others can read, learn, and enjoy.

Five years ago, I was unsure about the direction in which my life was going. I found myself questioning the sudden choice I made and asking myself do you want to have a successful career, or do you want to be a single mother caring for her child.

A mother who will be striving to earn money that can be made sitting at home? Despite the confusion, I quit corporate America to sit at home to take care of my son. I left when my son begins getting in trouble a lot because I was too busy working long hours as a senior manager in corporate America.

Although, I knew to have an illustrious career could earn me much money but it will not give me the satisfaction I desired being a mother to my son, and I want to be in a position where I can lead and guide him.

For that reason, it is essential that I fixate what exactly I want in my life. After a deep hard concentration, I learned several paths might lead to the same result, but all roads may not be suitable or viable for me.

If I want a chance of surviving to work from home, I must set goals that will help me earn handsomely sitting at home while I care for my son and provide shelter and put food on the table.

Also, I need to be able to identify what I want and understand why I want it – set goals that will suit my needs that will bring income into the home and can get me the results via my desired paths.

It is important to establish goals before I start taking actions because it will help me stick to a course of action rather than stumble from one option to the other.

Changing the Condition

As a single mother, it is my responsibility to take care of my child, but with limit income, and many stressful situations, trigger sadness. Despite this, not being able to share responsibility—to relieve of tasks when I've hit my limit— pushed me over the edge.

My son and I need several items from the store, and I was on my way to purchase them, depending on store sale and coupons when a feeling I could not control took over me.

I will never forget the atmosphere; it was as if it just happened yesterday. I can remember as I was driving I gripped the steering wheel of my car and found a safe place to pull over.

Just as I put the car in park, my heart pounded furiously, like a time bomb waiting to blow. I had a headache out of this world; the pressure in my head was almost unbearable.

I was afraid; I was not sure what was happening to me. My chest felt heavy as if a ton of weight was dropped on top of it. The thought I was getting ready to die raced through my mind.

I wanted to scream out loud for help but could barely breathe a whisper. I just sat on the side of the road there lonely, shattered, and completely afraid inside.

Many different scary thoughts were entering my mind as I sit there thinking that would be the end of me. Finally, I could reach for my cell phone; panic rushed through me, and tears begin to flow down my cheeks like a tidal wave.

I cried, and that very day I knew if I want to be around to raise my son a change had to come.

From my life-threatening experience, I learn when things go wrong, take in what I need from life stressful journey then push the rest aside. Limit income and a disaster is something most people hope will never happen to them.

Nevertheless, the chances of both things happening are higher than most will ever imagine. Moreover, I would have never dreamed of me trying to live off an income of $13,000 a year and stressing every time my income fluctuates.

I believe we all are capable of making changes in our lives that will make us happier. What made my life a little more stressful is I felt there were a lot of things I should have done better to make sure we had not only the necessity but designer outfits, and luxury times.

Although I wanted to do luxury stuff, I learned from these years that life is what you make of it, and I did what I had to do to improve my situation.

There were days when I felt lost and unlovable. Besides, I’d allowed my feelings to make me think I was losing myself to shame, and that had to stop.

Furthermore, to make things worse, I thought I had help from the Government, but I did not because the minute I made a little more they cut off my assistance. Thus, I made it without government support, although it was not easy.

If I am going to make it without Government assistant and be able to pay the rent, make sure my son and I have food to eat, have electricity, a phone, and internet I need more income. When you live on a tight budget, any financial crisis can be economic collapse.

So, after searching, I made things happen by accepting a job as a publishing manager. I assist Authors market their books and self-publish them. Moreover, I did well, and the road to recovery begins, and it was a new beginning.

From my life-threatening experience, I found myself being grateful and learning not to be a secular person. I went from being able to buy almost anything I want to, to learn to live a simple life.

I learn to own expensive stuff and having a lot of money does not bring happiness, and I place far more value on essential things that can’t be bought. Don’t get me wrong who wouldn’t enjoy being wealthy, but it does not drive me.

Yes, I budget more, and, it is my responsibility to take an active role in shaping my future. If I want structure in my life, I must quit drift along and take full control of all my financial necessities.

The Internet is my primary income source, but I enjoy not having limitations, and this means I will be able to adjust anywhere I can bring a laptop, and it’s up to me as to where I sketch my life’s blueprint.

Also, after reading the BIO of the person who has inspired me to continue striving, Mr. Tyler Perry. His BIO helped encourage me to be determined and to be the best writer I can be in this life. Mr. Tyler Perry grew up on the hard streets of New Orleans with a difficult childhood, but he refused to allow being born into poverty limit him.

As he was raised in a household scarred by abuse, it did not restrict him from being an exceedingly talented writer, director, or producer. From the year of 1992, during the beginning of his career, Mr. Tyler Perry struggled, beginning with his first drama, “I Know I've Been Changed.”

Refusing to give up, he built an entertainment empire that consists of many successful plays, and the most watch sitcoms on Own TV called, “The Haves and the Have-nots.”

Mr. Tyler Perry’s experiences and struggles formed the foundation of his much-acclaimed sitcoms, plays, and books to A-list and became an American legend. I desire to be able to expand my writing into at least half of what Mr. Perry has accomplished during his inspirational journey of forming a base of millions of fans.

Because Mr. Perry has achieved so much through determination and had overcome poverty, abuse, and other obstacles, he has inspired me to strive and overcome any challenges that may come my way.

In a real sense, he has accomplished what I desire to. I am not halfway where I want to be, but I will not give up, and I know if I refuse to give up on my goals determination are just the beginning of a better life.

Last thoughts, I have had long seasons of life where nothing was working, and from my life experience, I can say that the seasons teach us how to live life well. Life is a wild roller coaster ride; it full of ups and downs.

Nonetheless, finding happiness in life is not the absence of problems, but knowing the ability to deal with them. If you allow life challenges to conquering your mind with toxic thoughts, it will create destructive emotions.

The key to surviving a disaster is to apply what you learn to your future choices and actions, and then use your experiences to grow, move forward not backward. When you do, you become stronger and wiser.

It will not happen overnight, but you must put in the work, nor is it easy, but it is worth it in the end.

Goal Setting That Leads to Greatness

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This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2017 Pam Morris

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    • Pam Morris profile imageAUTHOR

      Pam Morris 

      2 years ago from Atlanta Georgia

      You are so Welcome and I agree with you when struggles doesn't break you they make you strong.

    • Janellegems profile image

      Pennington 

      2 years ago from Africa

      This is an amazing Hub. Thanks for sharing your own personal journey, struggles in life and the goals you which to achieve. I also have experience seasons where nothing great was happening and I had to encourage myself and seek out support and prayer from others. But through it all, I became stronger.

    • Pam Morris profile imageAUTHOR

      Pam Morris 

      2 years ago from Atlanta Georgia

      Thank you so much for your comment, Charmaine, and I agree with you, it is not easy to deal with catching a curve ball or dealing with the worse hand venture to you. A hard part is a person will never know when he or she might be pitched a curve ball, and when they catch it, they will have to make the best of it. One will have to be determined to make it through, and it is worth it in the end because just like you go through a lot, once it over you enjoy the same way.

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      threekeys 

      2 years ago

      I feel for you Pam...I don't know what to say....your personal story was heartfelt to me. You made it. And redefining one's life is not always easy especially when it is forced upon you.Here's to you.

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