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GRIEF: Just When I Think I Am OK....

Updated on August 14, 2012

Just when I think I am doing ok and accepting the reality of my life without my mom, grief hits hard and I am in tears and heart broken missing her.

My 87 year old father is doing ok, but seeing him as their home alone tonight was almost more than I could bear.

It is true what everyone says ... grief comes in waves... some days we are ok, some days we are not.

Having faith in God is certainly the biggest comfort I have at this time of loss, but it is still a loss. I am still in pain. My kids are still in pain. My dad is still in pain.

My youngest turns 8 years old in a few days. We are all preparing for a birthday, but so sad to think of that celebration without my mom. Without their nana.

What about Mother's Day? How will that day be? New traditions are important, however my heart breaks for the old traditions. My heart breaks for the "normal" we once knew.

God help us in our grief, send your comforter.


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    • angelabradford profile image


      6 years ago from USA

      Yes true for me as well having lost both my parents the same year each passing in their Birthday month, which I find quite ironic although statistics have shown the vast majority will pass on in or relatively near their birthday or some special holiday, I am so saddened at certain times

      of the year, although now I find myself focusing more on the great joys of their life which in turn has brought me greater joys just knowing and feeling of love and being loved, for me family is #1 and my parents well they have always been like a King and Queen in my life.

      As the saying goes its better to have loved and loss than to never have loved at all.

    • Tami Fite profile imageAUTHOR

      Tami Fite 

      6 years ago

      Bless you Caroline -- it is comforting to know there are others on this journey who have survived this loss... and sad in the same way... because there is so much pain. God bless & keep you!

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      6 years ago

      I feel your grief as I also know this feeling. I pray for your comforter to comfort you, while we journey the rest of our lives without the physical presence of those we love, until our days are spiritual and then our souls at rest with those we loved and lost for a very short time ...............x.........

    • Tami Fite profile imageAUTHOR

      Tami Fite 

      6 years ago

      thank you - bless you teaches12345! I'll take every prayer!

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      Dianna Mendez 

      6 years ago

      The loss of a loved one leaves a big hole in your life. It is hard to know what to experience or how to react in certain situations. I remember my niece expressing, upon her father's death, that she kept waiting to see him walk through the door for months afterwards.

      Your walk will be a slow healing process. I still miss my parents who passed away over twenty years ago. I don't think God intends for us to quickly heal, pain is good at times and helps us to grow. I happy to hear how your family is coping and fully trusting in God for your comfort. Sorry for your great loss and praying for you tonight.

    • Tami Fite profile imageAUTHOR

      Tami Fite 

      6 years ago

      Thank you....His mercy is new every morning....bless you!

    • Faith Reaper profile image

      Faith Reaper 

      6 years ago from southern USA

      Most Precious One Tami, yes, just let it all out. I am so sorry for the crashing waves of pain for you and your whole family. As you have cried out to Him, the God of all comfort, hears you and He is near. In His Love, Faith Reaper

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      Healing Herbalist 

      6 years ago from The Hamlet of Effingham

      It is sad when someone dies. May I suggest you journaling to help you through your feelings.

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      hetty frederik 

      6 years ago from Jl. Jambu 13 Complex Arco, Sawangan Depok West Java Indonesia

      After rain comes sunshine, Tami.

    • akeejaho profile image


      6 years ago from Some where in this beautiful world!

      Some times, there is strength in numbers. Some times it just helps to write it out. I know it helps me. As I have stated before, writing is my therapy. Perhaps it is yours as well. It would appear so. My heart goes to you for your loss, and this is where the strength in numbers comes in. We are all here, I am rather sure the entire community stand here with me in saying this;

      We are all here for you and feel your pain.

      Peace, love and light to you Tami



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