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Grieving and Bereavement-The Final Goodbye

Updated on June 8, 2010

Grieve If You Must, But Do Not Quit

Losing someone or something you love is very painful.Sometimes it may feel like the sadness will never let up. Although you may be feeling overwhelmed everything you are feeling such as shock, anger and guilt are normal reactions to loss. I never thought I would get through it. For a while I thought I was losing my mind until I spoke with a grief counselor and she explained " The more significant the loss, the more intense the grief." Finally something made sense, he just wasn't a family member; He was my lover, my friend and the Father to our son . In many ways he was my identity because he had been apart of me since we were children.We shared a child and over all the years of adversity we remained best friends, we remained lovers. No one came before him, he was and is my endless love. His girlfiends nor my boyfriends never understood the bond we shared. We didn't cheat with one another when we were in relationships but we felt when the other one was in need and regardless came running. We called it forbidden love, because we never could make it work in a relationship; but how we tried. Nevertheless, over the years we had something so much stronger we had true love and we respected one another. For 15 years I have grieved his loss and now my heart can go on. I can now remember him with a smile although I may cry. I can remember his goofiness and laugh as if he was standing next to me. I can remember everything without pain. He is safe in Jesus Arms. Therefore, anyone who may be reading this and is grieving or experiencing it through someone else. Be patient. Time does heal all wounds. For some like myself it may take longer; but it is what it is and you should not rush it. The most important thing you can do is to keep taking it to God in prayer. I hope you enjoy the video and if you need someone to talk with please feel free to email me and for further help you can follow this link: Take care of yourself and God Bless.


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    • SweetMocha-Monroe profile imageAUTHOR


      8 years ago

      Thank You for the kind words.

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      A.M. Gwynn 

      8 years ago

      Sweet Mocha, I really loved your video.

      What a collection of a life and memories.

      It was beautiful, thank you for posting it.


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