Having a coach is not about necessarily being at the bottom in your life results

A common misconception many have is that mentors and coaches are only for those who are not successful. The truth is everybody needs to have someone to hold him or her accountable for their actions. Winners know this more than anyone and truly value the importance of having someone keep them in check. In fact, the better they get, the more they see the need for it to avoid the risk of becoming complacent and caught up in their own success by way of their ego (which has brought many down, including myself in the past).

A question, as a Motivational Speaker Kuala Lumpur I am asked often is ‘Why would anyone need a coach if they are already doing well’? That’s a great question and my response is a simple one, ‘The best soccer teams in the world still have coaches’. You don’t see top teams, athletes or individuals without coaches. Think of Manchester United, Tiger Woods and Shahrukh Khan. All Winners in their own right and all have coaches.

Having a coach is not about necessarily being at the bottom in your life results. It’s about being able to further enhance your performance to win. It is about pushing that envelope, about constantly bringing out the best in you on occasions when it’s tough for you to do so.

Every Winner has a coach. A coach is not a friend, although he could be one. Generally, a friend is one who will tell you why it’s okay if you haven’t achieved what you said you would. A coach is someone who will hold you accountable when the majority are too worried about hurting your feelings.

Winners, always have someone to tell them how it is. They are told the truth without the sugar coat. A coach holds you accountable and doesn’t take any bulls@!# you try to spin their way.

Whether you are in sports, business or simply on a personal level (the most important of all), you must get yourself a coach to hold you accountable for your actions. Whether it is someone you respect and has the time to do so, hiring a personal coach, creating a mastermind group or joining a like-minded circle, it is a must for every winner.

Whatever you do, get yourself a coach, someone who can help bring out the best in you because remember, winning is the sum of your habits and they will keep you in check. Ideally, depending on what you are looking for, you must find a coach or mentor who has achieved what you want to achieve. A coach that can tell you how it is, although cruel at times, is the truest friend one could be because your coach will have your best interest at heart.

At the end of it all your focus should be on your results. Get all the help you can get.

Kevin Abdulrahman is a renowned public speaking coach & Motivational Speaker Kuala Lumpur who has worked with entrepreneurs, thought leaders, public figures, CEOs, Presidents and Royalty. His thoughts in this column are his own and are not necessarily reflected by Esquire Middle East. His book “60 Minutes To Better Public Speaking” is available on Amazon in 30+ languages and he is available for Media Training in Abu Dhabi.