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Hope for a Future Generation--Part 1

Updated on October 14, 2010

As a pastor, it is my job to be involved in the lives of many different people with many different problems knowing that ultimately only God has the answers. There are bright spots and then there are some not so bright spots. I would like to share this bright spot with you. It deals with a then teen-age girl in our church that I've had the opportunity to watch grow over the years. I'll call her Lynn (Not her real name). Her story began 10 years ago at the age of seventeen.

After a time I interviewed Lynn just to see where her head was and to see how I might be able to be a help to her in this difficult situation. Although the circumstances surrounding her difficulty were not good, she chose to make the best of a very troublesome situation. My hat goes off to her.

"What's wrong?", Lynn's father asked as she sat sobbing on the front porch, head down, streaks of tears pouring down her face.

In a voice that spoke of fear and confusion she answered, Daddy, I'm pregnant."

As Lynn shared her shock with her father, she became one more statistic in the ever-growing number of children having children. But Lynn was an exception to the general acceptance that all teen-age pregnancies are disasters. In her situation, her unexpected pregnancy caused her to mature overnight and develop sound thinking about her concerns for her child and herself.

Admittedly, more often than not, teen-age pregnancies end in sorrow for both mother and child. Irresponsible fathers are the norm. Mothers often cannot cope with the added pressures complicating the parent-child relationship. Many times a lack of necessary knowledge of child rearing causes dysfunction within the new family.

What was behind Lynn's thinking? Is she being realistic? What does she expect? What can she expect?

Immediately upon finding out that she was pregnant through a home pregnancy test Lynn made an appointment with her family doctor to confirm the results. At that time she was referred to an OB-GYN for confirmation an care.

For at least a day after confirmation, if not longer, the pregnancy was something that would not register in Lynn's thinking. Her life would forever be changed, and that kind of a life change does not register quickly. But then, the period of denial passed,

With abortions taking place to the tune of one million plus a year, abortion was never an option for Lynn. Because of her personal belief that God and God alone has the right to take a life, she never thought of aborting her baby. Would she ever advise anyone to abort their child? "No, that's not their choice. It's God's," was her answer.

Lynn's belief in a personal God is evident in her day to day life, not just in panic situations liked unplanned teen-age pregnancies. She has tried and tested her personal faith to make sure it is a working faith. Even though the act that caused her pregnancy was wrong, she realized that God still forgave and wanted her to continue for her God. For Lynn, when the panic situations come, she can gain strength from her faith--not as a crutch, but as a real working solution to her problems.

Adoption could have been considered, but like abortion, Lynn discarded the idea as not being practical for her. She did not rule out the possibility that in some cases adoption might be the best alternative. "In certain situations adoption might be better for the child, especially in situations where the parents cannot take care of themselves...," she explained.

The potential for suffering, emotional insecurity, and lack of identity were also some of the reasons Lynn listed for her choice not to give her baby up for adoption. The same suffering could also affect the mother as well as the child.

My interview with Lynn will continue in the next hub--Part 2. She truly is an amazing young lady.


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      William Kovacic 7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA


      Good point! Thanks for stopping by, Brother!

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      Michael Adams1959 7 years ago from Wherever God leads us.

      Lifegate this is such an inspiring hub. QWe all need to learn from our experiences and draw closer to God. Hopefully we have those in our churches convicted enough to help not only teens but all young Christians to get closer to God and not have to go through the dramatic to find that closeness.

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      William Kovacic 7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA


      I think Lynn truly has learned a lot about her God and much of that learning came from her experience early on.

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      tinamarie9884 7 years ago

      Lynn sounds like she is truly about GOD, and that her faith is strong. Having GOD in her life, she is on the right path.

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      William Kovacic 7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA


      I think this story is repeated over and over again in the lives of many--some without the good results. But still God is good. Yes I took a peek at Jayce--just adorable and I'm glad that Grandpa David had met him as well. Blessings.

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      skye2day 7 years ago from Rocky Mountains

      lifegate Oh my This happened to my daughter SHe was 20 turned 21 in September. She came to me pregnant. Her love for the Lord has grown and her boy fiend and her are committed and hope to be married soon. I believe GOD used this situation and grew her in HIM and answered prayer. The beautiful baby is on the hub you just read. Absent Husband. He is so precious go take a peek. Also 'knit in mothers womb' a poem I wrote to dedicate Jayce. I prayed he would be a light and GOD already used HIM to touch Davids heart He met grandpa in jail It may be the wheel GOD is using to touch David. He touched David like I have never seen David touched GOD is amazing I am so grateful for lynn and she has you to share with Awesome Great story I will read the follow up. I am amazed at HOW GOD is everywhere. I could not sleep. I am so glad I came over. Hugs Brother.

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      William Kovacic 7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA


      I hope our future generation can break free of the curses it now suffers from. God is able.

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      DeBorrah K Ogans 7 years ago

      Lifegate, Thank you for bringing to light this much needed subject! I think this will serve to further help this next generation. I look forward to hearing more about this young lady... She is fortunate to have had you to provide her with godly counsel...

      In HIS Love, Grace, Joy, Peace & Blessings!

      A M Werner, My prayers are with your young cousin...

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      William Kovacic 7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA


      I'll be praying for her.

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      Allen Werner 7 years ago from West Allis

      Teen pregnancy is rampant here in Milwaukee, one of the worst rates in the whole country. A fifteen year old cousin of ours that grew up with our fifteen year old daughter is several months pregnant now. She was raised by her grandmother but had taken to visiting and spending time at her mother's home, a woman who basically abandoned her for years. She allowed her to be with this boy over and over in her home. So far, there is no spirituality going on in her life. She's not going to abort or give the child up for adoption, but no one is sure how she is going to do this because she is very hard-headed and for lack of a better word - lazy. So far, there is no sign of maturity. We are all praying some good can come of this. The safe birth will be a start. From there, we shall see. Peace.

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      William Kovacic 7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA


      It really does. I've added the happy ending in Part 2--nine years after the fact.

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      fred allen 7 years ago from Myrtle Beach SC

      I have a feeling this story will have a happy ending! Thank you for sharing it!

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      Louis Fourie 7 years ago from Johannesburg, South Africa

      Stunning and useful hub, abortion is not the answer but God ... God bless

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      DavePrice 7 years ago from Sugar Grove, Ill

      I was just at a fundraiser for the pregnancy information center in my town, which counsels those with unplanned pregnancies about the options available to them. The timing of your hub is fantastic. There is so much we can do to get involved in young women's lives to prevent the tragedy of abortion from happening. Thank you for these words of hope.

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      His daughter 7 years ago

      She is an amazing, mature girl and she is blessed to have people around her to guide and support her through this.

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      William Kovacic 7 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA

      Johnny,even in the midst of sin and sorrow, Gos is still working. I've seen that very clearly in this case. Thanks for your thoughts.

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      johnnynaakea 7 years ago

      Great hub and thoughts. Thank you for sharing your experiences about teen pregnancy with us. Truly, God can cause all things to work together for good.