How Does Crying Help You Release Your Heartache?
People has different reactions to heartache. Some people will control their emotions and hide it while others would let that tears well in their eyes and let roll on their cheeks. Which one is better? It depends on the person's defensive mechanism to heartache.
When it comes to heartache, every single people in the world have experience one. The gravity of pain may varies from person to person, or depends on how the person cope, or the personality of the person. This is to say that people are different and unique in terms of accepting their share of heartache.
The initial reaction for women when they feel that heart-wrenching pain from break-up is to cry. But for men, they have their own ways of coping up.
It has been said that women can recover easily than men after break-up, because they let it out and they let the whole world know that they just suffered from the heartbreak. And why is that? They have a good cry over it.
Although there are many ways to release heartache, crying will definitely help you to release the pain. If you read online magazines and articles about break-up advice, crying will not be eliminated as one good piece of advice.
Why is that?
Here's some helpful quotes that will guide to it:
...you know that a good, long session of weeping can often make you feel better, even if your circumstances have not changed one bit.”
― Lemony Snicket, The Bad Beginning
“Crying is all right in its own way while it lasts. But you have to stop sooner or later, and then you still have to decide what to do.”
― C.S. Lewis
“Heaven knows we need never be ashamed of our tears, for they are rain upon the blinding dust of earth, overlying our hard hearts. I was better after I had cried, than before--more sorry, more aware of my own ingratitude, more gentle.”
― Charles Dickens, Great Expectations
“Do not apologize for crying. Without this emotion, we are only robots.”
― Elizabeth Gilbert, Eat, Pray, Love
“When someone cries so hard that it hurts their throat, it is out of frustration or knowing that no matter what you can do or attempt to do can change the situation. When you feel like you need to cry, when you want to just get it out, relieve some of the pressure from the inside - that is true pain. Because no matter how hard you try or how bad you want to, you can't. That pain just stays in place. Then, if you are lucky, one small tear may escape from those eyes that water constantly. That one tear, that tiny, salty, droplet of moisture is a means of escape. Although it's just a small tear, it is the heaviest thing in the world. And it doesn't do a damn thing to fix anything.”
― Chase Brooks, Hello, My Love 2: First Love Deserves a Second Chance
“To weep is to make less the depth of grief.”
― William Shakespeare
“Those who do not weep, do not see.”
― Victor Hugo, Les Misérables
There you see the beauty of crying. These famous people knew that you can get benefits from crying. It doesn't mean that because you cry, you're gay or something. There's just something about crying that makes you free and gives you wisdom after you cry.
There's a negative notion why people afraid to release their emotions through crying. That rumors that if you cry, you are gay or you're weak or you're not strong enough to conquer heartache, it's actually the opposite.
Good men cry sometimes because they know what they are capable of. If you are afraid that someone might see while you are crying, then hide in your room. Go to a secluded place and let it out. You will never know what have you let go once you start crying. Heartache can be deadly sometimes. So better to have a good cry than to die heartbroken.
William H. Frey II, a biochemist at the University of Minnesota, proposed in his publication "Crying; The Mystery of Tears" that people feel better after crying due to the elimination of hormones associated with stress specifically adrenocorticotropic hormones. Yes, it relieves stress from the heartache you feel.
There is nothing wrong in crying. You just have to let it out and everything is perfectly well.