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How Do you Cope with Rejection from your Partner

Updated on April 16, 2018
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Feeling rejection in your marriage

Rejection is felt in many ways, but in your marriage, that is the last place, where you would think of feeling rejected.

When you make a commitment, you seek a long-term relationship, but you don't think of rejection.

You choose to be faithful and love each other always.

Rejection is something you don't think of or forget about in your marriage, because you don't think for once that you would even face rejection.

Two people in a marriage meet up with the needs of each other, and don't feel the need to be concerned about anything else.

The moment one partner fails their part in a marriage straight away, the other feels rejected this can be from the lack of attention intimacy or romantic moments.

Rejection is what makes people drift away or causes a relationship to fall apart.

  • Ever felt rejected by your partner?

I felt rejection from my partner after our move to Croatia and was resolved immediately.

I understood the events and pulled together fast from that thought it sounded weak afterward.

These moments happen and once we both realized what was going on we got together and made up for lost time.

Couples feel rejection when one of the partners fail to pay attention to them. It is normal. Rejection becomes a problem when one of the partners fail to see how the other is affected by their rejection.

When I felt rejected for the changes happening in our lives I looked at my life in a negative way.

I responded with frustration and many complaints little did I know that what was going on in our marriage.

My focus on my needs, allowed for a positive lifestyle, and I did not see anything from my partner's side of life.

The constant argumentative moments made me see I needed to fix up my mistakes. I had to stop this behavior of constant arguing.

We sat and discussed our move to Croatia and knew it was time to move on, and make our lives better.

We had to spend more time together in attempting chores and visualize things from both perspectives.

In doing so we succeeded in our marriage. I did not think I would feel rejection until I moved to Croatia and had faced up to the many challenges but it worked out well.

I did not make any threats to my partner and did not give him an ultimatum.

I communicated without the frustration instead be calm and approachable.

In other words I did not want to fight fire with fire it would have not fixed the problem if we approached the situation with anger or red faces.

We stood up together and handled our issues together.

Our marriage is our priority only we could do it.

Leave out thinking you are rejected when it can be resolved with a proper approach. A simple method of communication as civilized beings.

  • What changes can you make to avoid feeling rejected?

Focus more on each other make the time it is just got to be that way.

To face rejection can make you feel lonely and unhappy. Avoid these feelings by showing how you deserve each other.

Make your marriage is a priority and keep that commitment between you.

A marriage should not be of loneliness and despair, instead it should be of an overflow of a healthy relationship.

Sometimes the person you marry can be very nice, and loving to you and change shortly after marriage.

Once you set into the marriage, you could feel as a beggar in need of your partner's hugs and kisses, physically, and emotionally.

You can feel complete rejection and that can make you feel very needy.

One can become cold in a relationship and just give up on problems. The commitment made into a marriage shows one's personality and behavior. You could be faced with anger, fight, resentment, and forgiveness.

Many couples feel they married the one until they notice some weird actions going on. Something goes wrong or the partner is never satisfied with the long-term relationship and rejects their partner due to no interest.

Couples choose to be with each other no matter what happens but when one of the partners gains weight, or feels less confident about themselves.

One chooses rejection as a main problem in the relationship.

Overweight people are often rejected in society.

Rejection comes in many forms. You would feel neglected and helpless mostly when your partner sees the worst in you. The one that you count on, or rely on should be showing you love, not rejection.

The fear of getting hurt can put you off many relationships.

  • Ever felt rejected by your husband?

  • Imagine your partner changes over the years and does not pay attention to you how would you feel about it?

He criticizes your body and shape and looks at you like a nobody, or she looks at him in disgust and wishes he would do something better to improve his appearance.

Such behaviors can make you feel like running away from each other, and can make you cry and feel depressed very easily.

Most men feel rejected when unloved, or are not respected while most women feel rejected when they don't get a simple hug from their men.

Men want to know if their women trust them. The main core to a marriage and women they need to know if their men will love them for always. Also, if they would be the only ones for each other.

Rejection show insecurity in men and women show rejection by the lack of attention.

When a man feels rejected by his wife he thinks he feels unwanted.

It is normal for men to look at other woman walking down the street, yet most women feel rejected when their husbands look at another woman.

You did not marry your partner to feel rejection. You married to love each other and to be there for each other through all times.

It is not always possible to fulfill a marriage. At least you can try to make the best of what you have and avoid rejecting one another.

Everybody learns as they go along in a marriage. You can't compare your marriage to your parent's marriage, or to another person's marriage.

You just got to figure it out for yourself for the time spent in a marriage. Gradually, all comes together but with lots of hard work.

Whether you feel rejection, or apologize for something you did wrong. Not much will get you through if you don't love your partner enough to stay and ride your battles together.

Rejection for men and women are similar as when he feels let down.

He feels rejected or unloved. She feels rejection and needs proper communication to help each other in a relationship. If you make your relationship a priority you have lots to gain.

If an individual deliberately rejects you then you got to find your way out of that relationship, it won't work out as you want it to.

Individuals can feel rejected and used by their partners.

A long marriage can at times make you feel this way.

Another woman in your partner’s life can make you feel rejected.

Some pregnant women can feel rejected by their husbands, though husbands are also affected in some ways.

Giving each other the cold shoulder is not going to make your marriage a healthy one, face up to what is bothering you.

Make your life at ease by talking about your problems to each other.

Open your eyes to knowing your partner's needs better, with good communication to avoid making rejection your priority.

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    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great well done on your marriage it is so nice to know you have come so far together. Thank you for the vote up.

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      Harish Mamgain 

      4 years ago from New Delhi , India

      Devika, you are a very wise person and the way you handled your own life is remarkable. Ours is a traditional marriage and we are past silver jubilee of our marriage. We are way ahead of the point where rejection could have arisen. Now we appreciate and love each other more. The present generation should take note of the pieces of great advice and message contained in this well-written article and lead a joyous and stable married life. Voted up.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AudreyHowitt thank you for sharing your thoughts here I appreciate your kindness in stopping by.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Jo thank you for all votes I appreciate you stopping by

    • AudreyHowitt profile image

      Audrey Howitt 

      4 years ago from California

      So many good thoughts here Devika--it is hard when we feel rejected--I know for me, usually, it is a matter of my partner being involved with his own life --rather than an active rejecting of me--but it can feel the same

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      Jo_Goldsmith11 

      4 years ago

      Many great points here DDE! Communication is the key and honest perspectives on how the other person may be feeling is important too.

      Relationships can be more difficult and fall apart when we forget the person we love, have feelings too that need to be considered.

      Awesome, useful, interesting...Up she goes...

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron thank you for all votes and the kind comments have a pleasant week.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Eiddwen thank you for the vote up and sharing and for sharing your kind comments.

    • Shyron E Shenko profile image

      Shyron E Shenko 

      4 years ago from Texas

      Devika, it is wonderful that the two of you got together and realized that to reject each other would destroy your relationship. I am glad for you that you got together and fixed what was causing the rejection.

      Voted up UAI and shared.

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      Eiddwen 

      4 years ago from Wales

      Interesting and very useful as always Devika. Voting up and sharing.

      Eddy.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      MsDora well mentioned distraction can make one feel rejected. ''Sometimes what seems like rejection is just a momentary distraction, which communication will reveal.'' Thank you very much for stopping by.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      tobusiness you are so right the move did make a difference in my life I did feel alone at certain times thank you for sharing your valuable thoughts.

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      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Ericdierker an emotional partner is someone who takes in information very strongly and shows their feelings right very easily. Even an emotional partner can feel rejected. Interesting question thank you.

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      jtrader well said and pointed out thank you

    • DDE profile imageAUTHOR

      Devika Primić 

      4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Mary I felt rejected because the new place made me feel like he did not care we dealt with our issues and now are happy to have moved forward from all of that thank you for the vote up I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Dora Weithers 

      4 years ago from The Caribbean

      You're right, Devika. People learn as they go along. Open communication will help prevent false ideas. Sometimes what seems like rejection is just a momentary distraction, which communication will reveal.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 

      4 years ago from Lincolnshire, U.K

      Devika, very interesting article. There are times in a relationship when we feel rejected but often this is simple due to the fact that one or the other partner is distracted. The reason may be problems at work, family or worries about money. I find talking always help to clear the air. Moving home is listed as one of the most stressful activity we do, immigrating to another continent must be even harder. As always, great write.

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      Eric Dierker 

      4 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      DDE I think you can help me with this. What the heck is an emotional partner. I get it in the Joint Ventures and I get a limited liability partnership and I get it in the back country concept (where you rely on a partner to save your butt if you break a leg 10 miles from anywhere) and I get it with two people working together at a job.

      But this notion of partnership between loved ones is beyond me. What does it mean?

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      jtrader 

      4 years ago

      Good points for people to consider. I want to emphasize that women also feel unloved and rejected when they are disrespected.

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      Mary McShane 

      4 years ago from Fort Lauderdale, Florida

      DDE, I read this essay with interest. I'm sorry you felt rejection after your move to a new place. How hard that must have been getting accustomed to a new lifestyle and not having supportive spouse. I just read some of it to Rob, my partner and he agrees with me. We must be part of the boring set because in our 30 years, we've never rejected one another. We might argue once in a while, but very rarely. I couldn't answer any of your polls because there were no choices for not being rejected. All were how do you deal with rejection. Good essay for introspection. Voted up.

      Mary

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