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How Fear Can Hold You Back From Your Dreams

Updated on July 21, 2014

Fighting Your Fears

Everyone in life has some sort of fear. With having these fears many of us lose out on so many opportunities all because we are so afraid to take that chance in life. This is exactly how fear can hold you back from your dreams.

Without taking chances in life you will never know what you could of had because of your fears and that's from my experiences in my life.

As everyone knows, and knows me, I share my personal life experiences to the world and I have nothing to be ashamed of or hide, in fact, I am proud of my accomplishments over the last year or so. Now it's my time to try and help others through my writing and my life as a clean and sober person again.

I have fought alcohol addiction for years and never thought I even had a problem. You all know that big word called "Denial."

I have achieved that life long dream, the dream to once be clean and sober again. Sure, I had much fear in doing so, but I didn't let fear stand in my way of my sobriety.  I always had that little bit of fear down deep, if I would be able to achieve long term sobriety, so I just pushed the fear way and did what I thought was right, not only for myself, but everyone that suffered along with me.

If I had let fear stop me from becoming sober, I would still be on that path to self destruction and still be addicted to alcohol.

Over the last year or so I started to make plans of just how I wanted to live my new live and what direction would I go as far as living a simpler life.

I got the living life sober part down to a science, but now I must figure out what would make my wife and I the happiest couple ever.

All our married life we dreamed of living by the Ocean, but I always had that fear that we wouldn't be able to make this dream come true for many reasons, and one being addicted to alcohol. That didn't help much in a decision that could make or break our life and possibly our marriage.

This dream I had needed to be thought out very carefully, because I was now involving another person which was my wife. When one makes a change in their life on their own and it only involves them self and there is that chance this change may fail, it only effects that individual, but when involving another person in the life change you had better have things right on the first shot. The fear of my addiction and the fear of this huge change in our life could never be achieved while being addicted to alcohol and not thinking correct or straight.

So, it was time and a long time coming for this huge change in my life and my family as well. It was time to stand up and admit, yes there is a problem with drinking alcohol and time to do something about it.

What I have learned in the past year or in fact my whole life, is that nothing comes easy.  Nothing at least in my life is just handed to you and if it is handed to you consider it a plus. You will never move ahead in life if you fear what might happen if you even try.

Good honest hard work gives great results and when you achieve something that you had dreamed of and now succeeded in achieving you will be very proud of yourself, that's for sure.

How can you know what the out come would be if you never even try?

  1. Learn to live life with a Positive Attitude.
  2. Learn to try different things, within reason.
  3. If you have a dream in mind, go after it and don't fear of failure.
  4. Sometimes you may need to fail at something in order to learn by it and move forward to success by what you have learned.
  5. Life is all a learning process and none of us are perfect by any means.
  6. Never ever give up on a dream you have in your life.
  7. Work on that dream or goal you have until you have succeeded and achieved it.
  8. If by chance you do not succeed the first time, don't beat yourself up and call yourself a failure, just get back up and try again and again till you achieve what you had working for from the beginning.

© 2011 Mark Bruno


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    • Ms Dee profile image

      Deidre Shelden 

      7 years ago from Texas, USA

      A story of new found courage! A great one too because it is your personal testimony :) Many blessings to you and your wife! [Ha! This is the right person now who made the comment. The computer was signed in as the wrong user.]

    • Howard S. profile image

      Howard S. 

      7 years ago from Dallas, Texas, and Asia

      A story of new found courage! A great one too because it is your personal testimony :) Many blessings to you and your wife!

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      7 years ago from Dausa, India

      Experience Builds us strong... Fear left us Alone.... - Good.

      Well, The Most common fear that cover me while doing anything is that "Whether I would succeed in first chance or not" because I rarely succeeded in first chance.

      But the experiences I gained in Last two years, Helped me to control such feelings in many cases.

      Thanks for the article - One More addition in My Life.

    • richtwf profile image


      7 years ago

      Excellent hub and great simple easy to follow advice.

      Fear is useful and can protect us but too much fear can paralyse us and stop us from achieving our dreams and life goals. Fear needs to be controlled otherwise it can control our lives to our detriment, and prevent us from leading fulfilling lives.

      Cheers and God bless my friend.

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      @ ssaul I hear you. Yes it is very hard to take that chance, but as you know if we don't take chances we will never know what the outcome or our future will be.

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      7 years ago

      i know this all too well clean life, it happens to me all the time. the habit is so embedded in me that its hard to give up

    • the clean life profile imageAUTHOR

      Mark Bruno 

      7 years ago from New Jersey Shore

      Hey Sarah, I'm glad you enjoyed it. Thanks for reading!

    • Sarah Masson profile image


      7 years ago from Melbourne, Australia

      Awesome :)


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