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How To Deal With Anger Issues

Updated on July 23, 2016
" Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one. " - Benjamin Franklin
" Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one. " - Benjamin Franklin

You’re here reading this hub probably because you have an anger issue that’s been bothering you or someone else has a bad temper that you wish you can help to change that or maybe you’re just here to get some idea of anger management. Whatever it is that you’re trying to search on, I hope that you can learn something new after you finish reading this hub.

Here’s a question I would like to ask. Do you ever just burst out by over-responding to someone who said something very offensive to you or just simply not agreeing to what you’re saying? Maybe it’s easier to ask if you know someone who hasn’t. Although anger are a completely normal for a healthy human mind and, it is necessary for our survival. For example, anger itself stimulate power and often time aggressive feelings and behavior which allow us to fight and defend ourselves when we are being attacked. However, when your anger gets out of control, it can become violent and destructive which then leads to problems that affect the overall quality of our life. Realistically speaking, most people at some point may have encounter situation where they said something in anger and they wish they could take it back. After all, offensive words and mean actions can quickly turn to hurtful feelings that affect others where it is then too late to un-do their impact.

That is why anger management counseling or classes can be helpful for those who have trouble controlling angry and often time hurtful responses to infuriating situations. Of course there’s nothing to be ashamed of, admitting that you have an anger issue and that you required an anger management counseling because, true shame comes from those that fail to admit there is a problem and required remedial action. Admitting that you have anger issue is actually a good thing. This is because you can have an idea of what causes you to have such a bad temper that lies within you. This way, you can go do research for ways on how you can help yourself to relieve that anger issues that you’ve been going through. A person may be able to hold their physical and verbal expressions of anger, however, emotionally, their rage surpasses what one should expect in a given situation. Therefore, at the point of recognition, a wise person will consider anger management classes, training, or counsel to keep their emotions under control and to manage responses in a healthy way.

“Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.” - Aristotle
“Anybody can become angry — that is easy, but to be angry with the right person and to the right degree and at the right time and for the right purpose, and in the right way — that is not within everybody's power and is not easy.” - Aristotle

What exactly does anger management counselling consist of? Anger management counseling usually focus on exploring the cause of unresolved anger, discovering triggers of current or unexplained anger, and search for ways to bring that anger under reasonable control. Working with a trained and possibly licensed therapist, a client will have to answer many questions about personal history, current conditions, and future expectations. Some may even have to take one or more psychology test that can help determine the insight of what the patient is thinking. If anger management counseling warrants, a client may have to be referred to a specialized doctor for a medical check-up that could identify the patient’s hormonal levels, blood levels, and overall condition to see if health problems be a factor. Perhaps the prescription of a mood elevator, an anti-anxiety or bi-polar medication, or another type of medicine can have a positive effect on helping someone manage anger issues.

There is also self-help techniques to reduce anger issues that can be done at home, at school and even on the job. The most common techniques recommended is to immediately before the intensification of anger is to stop talking, stop staring, and leave the room. Learning relaxation techniques like deep breathing and meditation will also help, in addition to stress management skills, learning empathy and forgiveness, and becoming optimistic instead of pessimistic. Some of this include, keeping a journal or diary and write all the negative thoughts and feelings down; get a pet as they can help reduce frustration and also buildup serene home environment; learn to adjust expectations and also being honest about our feelings such as disappointment, hurt as well as irritation. Implementing an exercise routine also help to balance bodily function and give you a greater sense of well-being. All of this can all help you as an alternate if you’re too embarrassed to attend an anger management counselling.

“One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.”  ― Michael J. Fox
“One's dignity may be assaulted, vandalized and cruelly mocked, but it can never be taken away unless it is surrendered.” ― Michael J. Fox

For people with domestic abuse issues, I think it is convenient and more helpful if they were to attend anger management classes because so often that these groups can become more volatile afterwards. This is mostly because when an abuser sees another person gets angry and loses control, they can get a better view and feels of how their behavior affect others. For example, when an abuser feels that someone else is trying to control the group setting or the therapist, they sometimes feel the same emotion that their victims have felt.

Side note: Anger is sometimes used as a control mechanism by an abuser.

Anger issues of a teenager is a different problems all together. This is because most of the times, their anger arise due to their feelings of not being heard or simply being misunderstand. It is pretty common for teen to have an anger issue as they’re stuck in-between childhood ad adulthood where they’re not old enough to do lots of thing and also they’re too old to cuddle. Most of their anger are targeted to their parents, although some teen do express their anger to all authority. This is why it is important to have them learn that it is normal for a person to get angry from time to time and that it is okay to let others know that they’re anger as long as they’re doing it in a way that people feels safe around them. Group therapy or family therapy is one of the way that can help those teen that reduce their uncontrollable anger and irritation. This is because teaching oneself on how to express yourself as well as how to diffuse anger are key elements for a group therapy.

In conclusion, healthy expression of anger is the goal of all anger management. Hence, if you find yourself struggling with anger management, acknowledging that you may need to find some healthier ways of dealing with life and its pressures could be a great way to start enjoying your life even more.

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