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How to Build Personal Confidence for success in personal and professional life

Updated on September 21, 2012

What you are about to learn two key ingredients to your personal and professional life. Personal confidence and motivation. You may or may not have those success traits. If you have them, good on you! But is it enough? If you don’t have them, then let’s not further waste your time by embarking on a journey to get you to study this book and apply what you learn in this hub to turn your life around and take more control of your life and reap the benefits of it.


What is Personal Confidence?

What you are about to learn two key ingredients to your personal and professional life. Personal confidence and motivation. You may or may not have those success traits. If you have them, good on you! But is it enough? If you don’t have them, then let’s not further waste your time by embarking on a journey to get you to study this book and apply what you learn in this book to turn your life around and take more control of your life and reap the benefits of it.



More often, we hear the words self-esteem, self-confidence and self-image used interchangeably. Though, not so different, there is subtle difference between the three phrases. You may have heard the words "self-esteem" and "self-confidence" and “self-image” before, but do you know what they mean -- really? More importantly, do you have enough of them? Let’s explore the three phrases separately to make you appreciate the ties between them and how they contribute to build an individual’s personal confidence.









What Is Self-Esteem?

The word "esteem" has to do with how you feel about something -- that is, how worthy or valuable you think it is. So, as you can guess, "self-esteem" has to do with how much you value yourself or how much you feel you're "worth."

Keyword: VALUE

A person who knows his value will not waste his time and value concentrating on things that reduce his value. A person who is always negative. “I want to do this BUT…I want to go there BUT…What IF I fail? No, I CAN’T do it...I have not TIME...I DON’T KNOW HOW”…Do you think he adds value to his life? No. He will not change for better, unless he knows how much is valued and take action to better his life.


Exploring the keyword: Value

Values are fundamental beliefs that an individual considers to be important, that are relatively stable over time, and that have an impact on attitudes, perception, and behavior. Values are what cause a person to prefer that thing to be done one way rather that another. Whether we recognize it or not, we are constantly valuing things, people, ideas as good or bad, pleasant or unpleasant, ethical or unethical and so forth.

What happens if you don’t know your values? Or how much you are worth? A person with low self-esteem fear to take risk, Example, leaving a lowly paid job and looking for better job that pays well. Or can’t speak up for him and sometimes gets ill treatment form family, peer or workmates. People with healthy levels of self-esteem know that they're worth a lot without being snobby or thinking they're better than other people.


Your Ideas

Every day, we are faced in situations that call for our use of self-esteem work. At home, in school or wok. With the definition given to you here, you may have ideas bombarding your mind. Let’s have your ideas documented before the next thought pop up and you loss what you have just been thinking about.

1.In the space provided below, write what you think the phrase self-esteem means to you.

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2.What, in your view, causes you to act in the way you do as explained in Question 1?

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3.If you don’t like the reason (Question 2) as to why you act the ways you do, do you wish to change? If so how?

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What Is Self-Confidence?

Self-confidence is related to self-esteem, but it's a little bit different. Self-confidence has to do with how confident or assured you feel in a new or challenging situation.

Keyword: Confidence

Exploring the keyword

If you generally think that you can take on a challenge and succeed, you're doing well in the self-confidence department. If you're feeling intimidated or freaked out and you're not sure you can succeed, your self-confidence could use a bit of a boost.


Your Ideas

Every day, we are faced in situations that call for our use of self-confidence work. At home, in school or wok. With the definition given to you here, you may have ideas bombarding your mind. Let’s have your ideas documented before the next thought pop up and you loss what you have just been thinking about.

1. In the space provided below, write what you think the phrase self-esteem means to you.

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2. What, in your view, causes you to act in the way you do as explained in Question 1?

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3. If you don’t like the reason (Question 2) as to why you act the way you do, do you wish to change? If so how?

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What Is Self-Image?

Self-image simply is how you see yourself. Do you see yourself someone who can’t CANT DO IT or some who CAN DO IT? Do you see yourself as someone who has dreams, organized and motivated to succeed in life or someone who is just a tool for someone’s benefit? How you see yourself is the very picture others see of you. You can’t be an executive of a company unless you start seeing yourself as one and working towards being one. You can’t be a good dad in the house unless you start seeing you as one. Your career relationship or grades in school will not improve unless you start seeing yourself as being successful in what you are doing.



Your Ideas

Every day, we are faced in situations that call for our use of self-Image work. At home, in school or wok. With the definition given to you here, you may have ideas bombarding your mind. Let’s have your ideas documented before the next thought pop up and you loss what you have just been thinking about.

1. In the space provided below, write what you think the phrase self-image means to you.

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2. What, in your view, causes you to act in the way you do as explained in Question 1?

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3. If you don’t like the reason (Question 2) as to why you act the way you do, do you wish to change? If so how?

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Put them all together: Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence and Self-Image


Now that you know what these terms -- self-esteem, self-confidence and self-image -- mean, it's time to see if you've got enough of them and learn how to build them up. Now, if you closely observed the three, they add up to create a person’s personal level of confidence. The keyword here is CONFIDENCE. Personal confidence is the total sum of the three; self-esteem, self-confidence and self-image. Putting it in other words. A person who is confident has high self-esteem, self-confidence and good self-image of him or herself. So what really is personal confidence?


Summary

Let me sum up the above discussion for you. When someone is confident, they;

· Focus on their strengths while managing their weaknesses

· Aren’t afraid to take risks

· Take challenges head on and set high goals

· Seek out self-improvement opportunities

· Aren’t afraid to admit when they make mistake

· Aren’t afraid to admit when they don’t know something

· Make good leaders or mentors’

· Can relate to customers or company members at any level of the organization

· Are honest about their short comings


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    • MarleneB profile image

      Marlene Bertrand 4 years ago from Northern California, USA

      I like how you taught the difference between Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence and Self-Image. Your lesson is very helpful in going beyond just teaching people the meaning of words, it also shows people how to recognize their strengths and weaknesses by writing them down for a visual account and then applying what they have learned. I use to be a technical writer so I am competent and confident when I say that your format is structured beautifully.

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      Ian D Hetri 4 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Hi MarleneB,

      Greetings from the Pacifica. Thanks for reading and commenting on the hub. Hope this hub helps many and impact their lives in positive ways.

      Cheers

      Ian

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      A.E. Williams 4 years ago from Hampton, GA

      Interesting topic choice! :)

    • Ian Dabasori Hetr profile image
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      Ian D Hetri 3 years ago from Papua New Guinea

      Thanks CrazedNovelist

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