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Change Your Bad Day to a Good One with These Simple Steps
Positive and Negative Energy
There is so much about energy—positive and negative—that influences our day. Sometimes we cause it ourselves, and sometimes it's caused by external forces. Sometimes, it's just a result of biochemical shifts inside us. Such is the journey of life and the adventures of the human body.
When negative energy consumes us and ruins our day, we often become that energy. When someone whom we feel is positive comes along and our energy changes to positive, we often mistake them as our savior. We can begin to expect them to repeat the process of "saving" us from our own negativity over and over again. We actually become dependent on them to change our energy, when in fact, we must do it for ourselves. When they are not available to "save" us, we become victims because they weren't available when we needed them, and we begin to resent them, instead of taking responsibility for accepting our circumstances and working to change our own situations and energy flow. (Such dependence is commonly referred to as "codependence.")
Remember That Little Annoying Saying, "Resistance Is Futile"?
The problem for most of us, in regard to negativity, is always about resistance. Resistance can be a good thing for many things in life, but not when it comes to accepting our reality. The more we resist the negative, or our reality of our negative energy, experiences and feelings, the more we suffer. However, it's important to understand that acceptance is not resignation. Acceptance is more about calmly recognizing, not desperately fighting against. One way to accept is to "observe" what you are feeling as if you were observing another person. You could recognize and observe by saying to yourself something like "Wow. I'm really in a horrible mood today. I'm having huge negative thoughts." Since you observe them, you don't have to become those feelings. You suddenly realize you have power to separate yourself from your negative energy. It's still there, but now you begin to realize you have a choice about how you act towards it. This is an important technique that takes a lot of practice, but it works.
The key is to remove the desperate feelings by reestablishing some calm. When those desperate feelings do go away calm has a chance to return. At that point, we empower ourselves to change the negative energy to positive. If you accept that you changed the energy, then you empower yourself to do it over and over again. If you become dependent on someone else to do it for you, you give them all your power, and when they are not available, you become a victim and blame them for not helping you when you were desperate.
Reestablish Calm and You'll See Where to Go
Look At It This Way—
But, When You Think About It . . .
What would a life look like that was only filled with one kind of energy? How can you comprehend light from dark, if there is only light? How could you ever appreciate the profound effect of joy if there was never any sorrow? What if there is really only a full range of experiences, emotions and energies that are all there to help make our lives complete, full and rich? What if in our darkest experiences, most negative experiences that produce the most negative energies come the brightest opportunities to learn, adapt, grow and find purpose and joy? So then, doesn't that possibly mean that everything can be turned around for our good?
So When You Have a Bad Day...
Realize that bad days scattered among good ones are completely normal. When we have a bad day, we don't have to become it. When we accept that we don't like how our day is going, when accept that our thoughts are not very good, we consciously acknowledge where we are, but it doesn't mean we have to like it. It just means that we don't have to resist things that we cannot control. It means we have the power to act independently of what is happening. We have a choice in changing our thoughts and actions, even if our situation and circumstances are miserable. A good example of this is when something miserable or tragic happens, yet it's uncommon for someone to do something wonderful. We have the power in ourselves to do wonderful things if we choose to, regardless of what we cannot control. It takes practice. But practicing these simple things can transform our lives for the better.
More Resources to Continue Your Study
This is one of the single most important lessons of my life for healing, and becoming sane, calm and rational. This mini-lesson is expounded upon far more in depth by many other teachers, spiritualists, and gurus in a variety of books and recordings. Byron Katie, Eckhart Tolle, Louise Hay, Deepak Chopra, Marianne Williamson, Dr. Wayne Dyer, and many others have written on this subject. You can do a Google search to find their writings and works.