How to Change Your Thoughts in order to Change Your Life

As one sits alone in their space of solitude, an instant thought of what life should be or could be pops into mind. Like most, it seems that dreams have gotten blurred through the years and that your mere existence on earth has become bleak and in some ways a torture. To ponder all the things you could have done in life and have yet to accomplish one thing on that list, brings to tears from the deepest part of the soul. Of course you can always do what makes you happy; however, putting oneself in that frame of mind takes work. Our mind has the ability to psych us out and we fall prey to our harmful thinking!

In life, we encounter a number of losses that can become intolerable. Although we experience the loss of loved ones, we also experience allegorical losses. These can include the loss of our identity, the loss of self-worth, and / or the regret of experiencing the things we haven't done.

In the grand scheme of things, these losses exemplify more than what is actually lost. From my experience, I’ve always felt that life was unfair simply because things didn’t go my way. Without a shadow of a doubt, I felt worthless and just wanted to disappear so that my inequities wouldn’t be as obvious to those around me. In hindsight, nobody magnified the issues I was dealing with except for me. We tend to highlight and focus on what others can’t see making us vulnerable to what they may say. Below are some helpful tips to sway your negative thinking to a more positive one.

In my sincere attempt to revitalize my thinking, I established some tools that worked for myself and others close to me. If you’re looking for a way out of your same old ruthless thinking patterns, these steps could be useful in guiding you to the point of freedom. First, know the method of your thinking and pin-point which ones are stimulating despondency. You should next employ the “stop” method. When unpleasant thoughts began to surface, quietly yell “STOP!” Thirdly, correct those thoughts to garner feelings of hopefulness. Try replacing negative thoughts with more coherent ones. As a final point, remember practice makes progress. If you practice the techniques you will confidently be on your way to living a healthier life without your negative thoughts getting in the way.

An existence of self-doubt, pity, and inward hatred is certainly the motivating factor for seeking harmful solutions to an out of control life. However, it’s hard to ignore the fact that our life is meant to be something meaningful. With some of the tips given, I hope you are well on your way to better thinking. You deserve to live your BEST life!