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How to Cope with the Stress of New Years Resolutions
New Year's Resolutions Can Set You Up To Fail
No matter whether is is a religious new year, a Julian calendar new year or the start of any other type of new year such as school, a good amount of people decide to use the start of a new year to make changes to themselves.
Often, when people hear other people make a resolution, the person who has made the resolution will look at you and say "What is your resolution?" Don't feel compelled to answer if you don't have a resolution. You can even say "I don't have one."
Making something up on the spot is a sure way to feel a sense of failure when you don't follow through with the goal that you stated because now that someone else knows, they may ask for progress reports or offer encouragement on your path.
Simply state "I am not making any New Year's Resolutions this year as I don't have much luck with them."
If You Choose to Make a New Year's Resolution
Sometimes, if you decide that you want to make a New Year's Resolution, the idea of making a resolution that you can keep can prove to be a daunting task.
Here are some suggestions of New Year's Resolutions that are very easy to keep:
- Take some time out for yourself. This can be as simple as catching a favorite show, watching sports with some friends, renting a movie, just something where you take time to enjoy yourself.
- Brighten someone's day with a note, a card, a letter or a postcard. Personal mail is growing extinct now. If you are pressed for time, a simple postcard mailed to someone that you care about will let you know that you are thinking of them. It does not even have to be a postcard from a vacation trip somewhere. A friend of mine prints favorite photos from places he has been and sends out one card a day to a different friend or family member. He said that it has made him a better photographer as he searches through his images to find ones that are good enough to mail out.
- If you cannot afford full sizes of luxury products, indulge yourself in trial sizes. You can find lovely deals online. Additionally, there are many sites where crafters sell homemade wares. Lotions, hand and face soaps and other beauty products that I have purchased have always made me feel really nice when I used them.
- Get organized slowly and methodically. I once reorganized my whole home one drawer, box, closet and room at a time. It took a long time (a year) to get it done, but once I was done, it was the most organized home of anyone I knew. Plus, knowing that I was only focused on one item each week made it a lot more bearable to finish!
- Call a different friend that you have not talked to every time that you have extra time on your hands. Spend a few moments catching up.
- Read. Set aside a great book and finish it in a year.
- Go through your music and purge duplicates, things you no longer ever listen to and change up your playlists.
- Go through all of your contacts and make sure everything is current and up to date.
- Back up your computer data.
- Feed ducks bread and birdseed.
- Drink more water.
- Take vitamins.
- Get a check up.
- Learn how to change the oil on your car.
- Learn how to fix a flat on your car.
- Forgive someone and let them know it.
- Take a self defense class.
- Learn CPR.
- Donate things you don't use.
- Have a yard sale.
- Unsubscribe from magazines that you do not read.
- Go through your toiletries and get rid of the ones that you don't use.
- Write a list of all of the things that you are grateful for.
Change the Subject When New Year's Resolutions Come Up
Sometimes, you simply don't want to make a resolution. All of the explaining, begging, pleading and yelling don't work.
What can you do when this happens? Change the subject. Allow everyone to speak and then change the subject like this:
Mary: "Well, with New Year's coming up, I think that we should all make resolutions and then we can all help each other make them."
Joan: "I agree. We could all lose weight, quit smoking and work out."
Adam: "I could watch sports less and spend more time reading and stuff."
Jane: "I could really work out more and eat out less."
You: "I am going to resolve to talk about the Steelers right now." It will get a laugh and generally, the topic will be dropped.
Don't feel pressured to make a resolution by anyone. If it is a person above you, tell them that your resolution is private and you really don't want to talk about it. Be firm but polite. Don't become hostile.
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