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How to End A Vicious Life Cycle

Updated on July 23, 2013

People Can Change Their Lives for the Better

There are some people that choose to live their lives on the edge, engaging in risky behavior, and traveling on a path to destruction. Some people become addicted to drugs, alcohol, or other substances and/or behaviors that are extremely addicting. Some people develop eating disorders. Some people lie, cheat, and steal. Some people hurt others in a selfish manner to stay on this negative path and vicious lifestyle. Some people never learn, but there are many others in this world that have become aware of their actions and strive to make the most difficult changes in their lives. Changing ones life for the better is far from easy, but it is definitely possible with dedication, time, and hard work. Just because one has lived in the dark for some time, does not mean they are damned to stay there and evolving to become blind to their own destruction, it is indeed possibly for one to climb out of the grave they dug for themselves, and climb higher and finally realizing they desire to live in the light.

One Must Become Aware of Their Actions

Before any person can change gears and revert from a destructive lifestyle, one must become very aware of their action, behaviors, attitude, and negative lifestyle. Once one becomes aware that their life is destructive and vicious and are aware of the behavior that need to be changed, is the very first step to make the changes. Yes, making the actual changes is not as easy as realizing them, this realization is so important to take the first steps into the light.

One Must be Aware of the Positive Influences in Life

Just as one should be aware of the negative in ones life, one must also be aware of all of the positive influences, people, and all of the things that make on happy and bring fulfillment into their lives. When one begins to focus on the things that truly make them happy, and the people whom they love, and the hobbies they enjoy, it is easier to make the transition out of the destructive path one is following. When one puts all of their priorities in order, and realizes what is most important to them, the transition from a negative lifestyle to a positive and productive lifestyle becomes much more smooth.

Seek Help and Support

When making a very serious and difficult life change it is necessary to gain help and support from family, friends, and even professionals and support groups. Support from friends, family, and loved ones is the most crucial aspect in this type of transition, because these people are more than likely to be more aware when one slips back into a vicious lifestyle and can help dig one out again by reminding them of the work and dedication they have put into this transition while also reminding them of all of the things in their life that are more important, such as, a career, school, children, and so on. Support from others is extremely crucial into making the first and the final steps into a change that is so emotionally and physically straining. Where one feels weak from making such a hard transition, the love and support from others will act as a crutch and one can lean on these positive people for support until they regain their strength to move forward.

Ignore all of the Negativity

When making a change and ending a vicious life cycle, there is bound to be a certain negativity that will surround the person trying to make the change (this may follow them for the rest of their life). It is extremely important to recognize that this is bound to happen but it is equally important to ignore it so it doesn't drive one into insanity and depression. It is unfortunate that some people honestly believe that people cannot change and a lot of people sit back and wait for relapse just to say, “I told you so”, these people are not worth the energy it takes for thought. People that wait for others to fall only bring in more negativity into ones life (probably because their life is still shit). One should rid their life from negativity (whether that be mild or severe) because it will keep dragging one down, almost forcing them back into the darkness, if one avoids and rids their life from negativity they will have more success in the transition into positivity.

Keep Smiling, Move Forward, and Never Look Back

The most important part of the transition out of the vicious lifestyle into a productive and fulfilling lifestyle is to keep smiling, continue to move forward, and never look back to where one once was. When one looks back and second guesses the decision to better themselves and their lives is when one is in danger of relapse. One must surround themselves with positive influence and rid themselves from negative influence. One must seek a strong support system and realize what is the most important in their life. One must be aware of all of the negative behaviors they once engaged in. One must keep their head up, keep their eyes on the prize, and dash toward the light.

People can Change, People can Live a Fulfilling Life, Even if They Spent a lot of Time in the Dark

Most people say, no one can change, once an addict always an addict, once a thief always a thief, once a liar always a liar, but this is simply untrue. If someone has lived in darkness, they find ways to survive when they cannot see, they evolve into a desperate, self loathing, human like creature that only cares for themselves and the vice in which they believe makes their life worth living, but that does not mean they are blind, they can climb out the the deep and dark hole, and regain sight. Some people must first become wounded and allow the scars to heal before moving forward in their lives. Some people need to be impaled by the rock bottom they have fallen into. Some people just need to experiment with risky behavior before they feel satisfied. Every person has a different story to tell and every person lives through different experiences, just because people who engage in risky behaviors and a negative lifestyle does not mean they are damned to be devilish for all eternity, it just means they have to fight and strive harder to become the person they desire to be. There is nothing more inspiring than a person who has trapped themselves in a deep, dark, gruesome and ghoulish hole, and climbs out to become a loving, kind, experienced, and wise person living in the light.


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      Marilyn L Davis 4 years ago from Georgia

      Excellent hub. As a person in long-term recovery with almost 25 years, I do know that people can change and thrive. Unlearning our childhood negative messages, or unhealthy coping strategies takes time, patience, supportive people and those that will be direct with us to guide us to facilitate these changes.

      Voted up.

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      Pamela Oglesby 4 years ago from United States

      There has been major changes in my life and I can confidently say I am happy now. I experienced a lot of dysfunction in my younger years, but we can change when we are motivated to do so. Of course, it is hard sometimes. This is a very good hub with excellent advice.

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      Randi Benlulu 4 years ago from Mesa, AZ

      All good and true, advice! Good hub, Jami!

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      Abby Campbell 4 years ago from Charlotte, North Carolina

      Great article, JamiJay! I grew up in a dysfunctional family and brought some of my attitude and behaviors into my relationships when I was young. It took having positive people in my life to see my destructive patterns, and I'm so much better for surrounding myself with them. Thanks for a great hub!

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      Bill Holland 4 years ago from Olympia, WA

      It is not easy but it is possible....very important message here my friend. Well done! If I can do it then most anyone can.