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How to Inspire Motivation in Others

Updated on February 20, 2008

It can be difficult to watch someone you love make unhealthy lifestyle decisions. You probably want to do something to help this person feel motivated to make some changes. However, you cannot motivate someone else—the motivation needs to come from within each individual person. Plus, a lot of people don’t want to change their habits and styles of living if they think someone is trying to change them. This doesn’t mean you can’t help someone you care about. All it means is that you need to figure out ways to inspire the other person to feel motivated to change.

Working Together: This was presented at a Leadership Institute I attended while in college.  I still find it inspirational.
Working Together: This was presented at a Leadership Institute I attended while in college. I still find it inspirational.

If you want to help someone make healthy lifestyle choices, you need to focus on inspiring them.

There are plenty of things you can do to inspire the person you care about:

Listen: Sometimes you just need to be quiet and listen to what your friend is saying. I know you are tempted to convince your friend to change, but arguing or “pushing” the other person won’t help. By listening and offering encouragement (like: “yes, I had that problem too”), you will probably hear your friend talk him or herself into making the very changes you are encouraging.

Lead by Example: If you really want someone to see the benefits of making healthy lifestyle choices, show them. When your friend sees how positively these changes have impacted your life, it will be easier for him or her to want to make healthier choices too.

If you see your friend struggling with changing his or her lifestyle, share how you dealt with the same difficulties. Be aware that sharing your experiences is different from telling your friend how he or she can do it. Let your friend take what he or she needs out of the experiences you share.

Pursue Pleasure: Basically, nobody wants to change their lifestyle if it means trading something they enjoy for something they don’t. This means that you need to make the healthy choices as fun and pleasurable as possible. When your friend, spouse, or children see you setting an example, and it looks fun or positive, it will be easier for them to join you.

The greatest part about making positive lifestyle choices is that it is a rewarding experience. The good choices tend to lead to people feeling good, so a positive cycle is created. Basically, people will learn how to style their lives in a healthy way.

Please feel free to share your ideas and suggestions by leaving a comment in the box below.


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    • sunkentreasure profile image


      7 years ago from RUIMSIG, SOUTH AFRICA


      Look for the beauty

      in everything you see.

      Walk in peace

      showing kindness


      The secrets of success

      are motivation

      and dedication

      Happiness is

      what you make happen

      for yourself.

      Caring is

      going to the ends of the world

      for a stranger.

      Be useful with your life.

      Whatever you are doing

      put your whole

      being into it 100%

      Loving is

      pleasing your loved one everyday

      in a 1000 different ways.

      Control your mind

      you are its master

      Be in control.

      Live your life

      without hurting or


      Believe in yourself.

      Have respect for yourself.

      Walk through life

      always with a song.

      © Bernard Levine

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      The Duke Nzangs 

      7 years ago

      I deal with people always and i feel an urge to inspire someone via my lifestyle and my thought pattern. So it is admirable to see that someone thinks like i do out there. The articles are in effect inspiring and I give a thumbs Up for them.

    • orthosrich profile image


      8 years ago

      You bring out many good points Stacie. Yes the key is to be patient with those you wish to turn. Sometimes the pushy way dose work though, but it is to be used when all else fail, in hope that there is a possibility we might get through. I can relate to The Daydreamer being anxious to turn her loved ones after she herself found the better way. Dace S coined a good term, "anonymous", I can add to that also coining the term, SUBLIMINAL!

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      Dace S 

      8 years ago

      I have also thought about it lot of times. I think that the main thing to successful motivate somebody lays on yourself - because nobody will listen to you if he thinks that you have a problems and you are not a good example. I think a good alternative way to motivate somebody is by doing it anonymous, the same way as you are doing, good job:)

    • The Daydreamer profile image

      The Daydreamer 

      9 years ago from West Los Angeles, CA

      The hardest part is when you've already gone through the path of negativity, or worse yet, you only wish upon your loved ones to rush through that process since you are already out of that tunnel. So, the best thing to do is exactly what your hub details. *Taking a breath*

    • wordspiller profile image


      9 years ago from Tucson

      What a great hub! I'm always looking for ways to stay motivated and to help motivate others. Thanks for posting this. :)


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      10 years ago

      Short and sweet, makes a lot of good sense, thanks!


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