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How to Let Go of Someone and Have Better Relationships

Updated on February 7, 2022
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Tomi has a certificate as a Happiness Coach. She can give ongoing support to people trying to attain their goals. She enjoys helping others.

Positive Thinking, Better Relationships

You need to start with yourself first. By loving ourselves and being happy by ourselves, we will attract people and create better relationships. Don't you enjoy spending time around positive people? Associate with positive, enthusiastic, happy people and it will rub off on you.

Do you have trouble identifying with other people's points of view? If so, this program could help you with that.

Positive Thoughts


Negative Emotions

Our emotions can interfere with what is actually happening around us at times. If emotions are strong, we may react incorrectly. The emotions can take over and make us do things we wouldn't normally do. This method can help you understand things more clearly. We have feelings and are not the feeling. For example, you are not annoyed. You are feeling annoyed. By recognizing where the feeling is coming from, which of the four "wants", you can release on that "want" and feel better. For example, maybe you want to control and that is why you are annoyed, so you would release wanting to control things.

This method can be used in the present moment and can help you in an instant at times. It keeps us from acting automatically. The more you practice the method, the easier and more natural it will become. It may make you feel like you are coming back to life. That is what happened to me when so many little things were piling up and bringing me down. Releasing helped me see the light and I started feeling happier and wanting to do more things. My memory became better and I started being more creative just on daily activities.

"Sometimes we just have to cut off the dead branches in our life. Sometimes that's the only thing we can do to keep the tree alive. It's hard and it hurts, but it's what's best."

— Nicole Williams

Freedom Now


Handling Depression or Emotions by Hale Dwoskin

Help to Get Along Better with Other People and to Let Go

These techniques can help you get along better with people that you interact with daily such as a girlfriend, boyfriend, spouse, friend or even difficult people. By practicing these techniques, your interactions should become better with difficult people and even improve more on your good relationships. It can also help you with any unresolved feelings you may have had with other people. This way the negative feelings don't carry over to your loved ones. You can gain peace of mind. Just think of a person you would want to try this on by visualizing them. Then ask yourself the cleanup questions one at a time. Think of someone that you don't have a lot of resistance to, just a little. This is just a short list of some of the questions you would ask yourself:

"Did that person try to control you?

If so, could you let go of wanting to control him/her back?

Did you try to control this person?

If you did, could you let go of wanting to control him/her?

Did this person try to control you?

And did that stir up some resistance inside of you?

If it did, could you let it go?

Did you try to control this person?

If so, just for now, could you let go of wanting to control him/her?"

You would ask yourself these questions a few times and allow yourself to let go of wanting to control. There are other questions you can ask, each focusing on separate wants such as approval, security/survival, and more on control.

Going through this program many years ago helped me let go of someone that I was having a difficult time letting go of. I think just having the distraction of doing something for myself also helped too and I no longer even thought about the person much at all after going through the program and using the techniques. It was so helpful to me back then and even now, just using it in general as issues come up. I think it could help benefit others too.


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Benefits of Releasing on People

It is important that you allow people to be as they are so you can get along better with them even though they may be difficult. When you feel insecure or threatened, people can sense that and take advantage of you. Rise above them so they can't treat you badly. This should make you feel better and lighter. Releasing can also help to make your good relationships even better by helping you relate to them better.

Results do not always come instantly when releasing. Sometimes, it takes time and some things will release easier than others. However, sometimes you can be releasing on a certain issue and then you will notice improvements in other areas you weren't even working on. I have noticed other things just falling into place for me while releasing on other things. This method can give you such awesome experiences. It can become an amazing experience learning to practice these techniques of releasing or letting go.

Positive Thinking, Happiness Now


The Book

Just reading the book can give you a more positive outlook on life no matter what the problem is. By practicing these techniques years ago and now, after buying the book, I have been able to practice more positive thinking. I was listening to the tapes about this method years ago when it helped me let go of someone I was seeing or dating. I had a tendency of being attracted to the wrong people and quickly getting attached. Going over the techniques really helped me get unattached to someone and let them go.

Be Calm, Time Heals Wounds


Further Reading

Please refer to my other articles if you want more information on this method and techniques.

You may want to start with my first article, titled: "Introduction to Freeing Yourself From Your Problems."

Please feel free to comment or ask any questions in the comment section and I will try to answer them.

Thank you for your reading.

You can read more about these techniques in The Sedona Method: Your Key to Lasting Happiness, Success, Peace and Emotional Well-Being, by Hale Dwoskin.

© 2017 Tomi Smith


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