How to Overcome Rejection?
Getting rejected is one of the most painful experiences ever. I've been rejected so many times that I've even lost count , and over the past few weeks, all the articles I pitched to online publications got rejected But despite of those feelings, I still do it.
However , I had fear from rejecting many times , in my first job interview I felt warm and uncomfortable while waiting to be called for an interview. I had Sweaty palms , labored breathing, an increased heart rate and trouble speaking , and those are common symptoms of the fear of rejection. I wrongly believed the employer will reject me, so I start feeling nervous , and the employer reject me. I acted as if it is already true so it becomes true .
The rejection of not getting the job triggered my abandonment issues causing me to embrace my low self-esteem and fear of applying for another job.
So how can you deal with rejection?
1 -Knowledge is power — in this case, power to understand yourself and use the emotions you are feeling as a tool to help you become stronger.
2-Act positively on the situation instead of falling for those self-destructive behaviors .
3-Build your Self Confidence . If we look at the “core issue” with handling rejection, it’s not about you being turned down for the job, date, marriage proposal or pay raise ,it’s truly about “how” you “feel” about yourself after and “where” are those feelings coming from .
4- Don’t see rejection as an indication of your self-worth.
5-Try to remember that your path is not a straight line and not every experience is going to move you forward.
6-Step back and remember the tendency to blow things out of proportion can keep the feelings of rejection under control.
7-Think carefully about whether your expectations were realistic.
8-Prepare to face the future Instead of lamenting over this rejection .
9- The process is in your control but the outcome is not, then focus only on the process.
10- Made the right decision, even though it did not lead to the ideal outcome. Making good choices is all you can ask of yourself.
11-Surround yourself with good family and friends who believe in you and continued to encourage you .
Rejection is a part of life. It’s not fatal and it’s not final. Every success story has a lots of rejection in them maybe one day, you will mention this rejection in your success story