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How to Overcome Worry

Updated on May 31, 2012

The Wreck Part II

This article will explore the origins of my anxiety, and hopefully make some recommendations about how all of us can overcome the negative.

It’s the middle of November in Cave Junction, Oregon. Sunlight is taking some of the cool briskness out of the air. The sky is mostly a clear blue with some cotton-puff clouds meandering over the mountaintops.

Max (our spunky, white, whiskered-terrier-mix) and I are enjoying the live nature pictures from the vantage point of our backyard patio. A bunch of quails waddle and bob around our berm in the distance. They chatter, cluck, and make strange whistling sounds. Of course, Max is on high alert.

Occasionally, sunlight illuminates silver spider webs that connect from the baby-pines to form an endless matrix woven through all the wild vegetation. To my amazement, the beaming sun shifts its light, and the magical matrix disappears. Just goes to show you again that there is more to life than we actually see.

All of a sudden, a well fed, inquisitive quail, fluffs its wings, and lands on the top of our cedar fence. Yes, Max goes crazy as he smashes into the fence with a burst of super speed that was a true joy to watch. Needless to say, the quail got away.

With all the blessed beauty around me, why am I worrying so much?

First, I’m worried about some financial matters. For those of you who read my hub “The Wreck,” you know our car was totaled. Our car was paid off. The insurance company has offered us a $7000 settlement on it. I’m worried that’s not going to be enough to find a reliable vehicle.

Also, I’m anxious about how to deal with the insurance company for our “pain and suffering.” It’s been a month now since the accident. My four broken ribs still hurt. Susan, my wife, is experiencing acute PTSD symptoms. The 93-year-old lady who turned into us, shouldn’t have been driving in the first place; we found out she had a history of prior accidents.

I had to fly to my dad’s memorial service in Michigan with broken ribs. Susan was unable to attend. We both cancelled our scheduled vacation to see her 87-year-old dad in San Diego, because of all of the stress, pain, and exhaustion.

Friends have recommended we get a lawyer to deal with the insurance company. The problem is they all charge 30% of whatever settlement is arranged.

I’m also worried about our 37-year-old son: He lost his job; has been unemployed for a year; can’t decide whether to go back to school for retraining or not.

Of course my main concern is for my wife and her PTSD symptoms. Her BiPolar Disorder is messed up again; she is having panic attacks, high irritability, confusion, stuttering.

Last but not least, I’m still battling the damn flu. This congestion thing keeps hanging on. When will all of these problems ever end?

Looks like a pretty long worry list for now. The question is what can I do about all of this stuff? Hopefully the answers will help you too.

I think I need to practice my positive affirmations. Example: “I’m powerless over people, places, and things.” Or how about, “I need to be grateful for all the good and beauty in my life right now?” And there’s this one: “I’m not in control; God’s in control.”

Next, I do need to take some positive action steps. It won’t hurt to consult with a lawyer. Susan and I can prepare our case and start negotiating with the insurance company. If we don’t like the results, then we can hire the lawyer.

We can stay in contact with our son and offer him all the love, support, and prayer he needs. We can get Susan’s medications adjusted and get her to see a counselor for the PTSD. My flu will pass and I can take good care of myself.

Most importantly, in terms of overcoming worry, it’s time to use my faith in what I refer to as the Love-Light. I know there is a wise voice inside of us that guides with positive thoughts and new ideas. I know, we have much to be grateful for, and it’s okay to release all the stress to my Love-Light.

I believe there are solutions to all problems. The Power of the Positive will carry us through any storm. There is always a “bridge over troubled waters.”

Here’s to the sun that’s warm on my face today; to the miracle of Max; to the love that beams from our 33-year-old marriage; to a life of retirement in a loving community, surrounded by ever-changing, live, soothing nature pictures. We are truly blessed. What can really trump all of that?


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    • Ruchira profile image


      6 years ago from United States

      Hi Gary,

      Loved the vivid description of nature when you and Max were sunbathing...

      I am sorry to hear about your worries. But, as you said that there is always a bridge over troubled will see sunshine at the end of the tunnel, my friend.

      Sending you positive light and best wishes to tackle your worries!

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      Gary Eby 

      6 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      Spiritandghosts: You are amazing. I appreciate your faith, support, blessings, and friendship. I feel something is good is happening to all of us right now. Peace and Light....Gary.

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      Thalia Bhandari 

      6 years ago from Melbourne, Victoria, Australia

      I remember when I was in an accident, all my body was in pain, especially my neck. I had to take a year off work and I now look back on it and realize it was my blessing. I had a chance to reflect on my life, I read constantly, learnt things that I never had a chance to learn before. There is a hidden blessing in your accident and it will be revealed to you in future.

      Yes God knows what God is doing. I am praying for you and your wife to get better soon. Stay positive and remember, after the storm, the sun always appears.

      Take care my friend,

      I wish you all the best and get well soon...lots of love

      Thalia (spiritsandghosts)

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      Gary Eby 

      6 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      Sky9106: Really appreciate your strong support, faith, and encouragement. Yes to the power of gratitude that lifts our spirit like wings of an eagle. Peace and Light...Gary.

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      6 years ago from A beautiful place on earth.

      What a story glcoach . I have not read the one about the accident as yet but I will get to it . All that you are experiencing are without a doubt the way you must travel because that what on your plate at this time , I can tell you without any doubt whatsoever you all will be fine.

      You sound like whom I would like to call a trooper, but even that doesn't matter now because troopers do get hurt also , only that as you even say they bounce back much stronger .

      Give thanks and Praises. Seems like one the the best places to be with the family and a great dog with even quails and maybe a lake or the sea.

    • qlcoach profile imageAUTHOR

      Gary Eby 

      6 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      Happyboomernurse:I really appreciate your thoughtful and caring response. Thanks for the Hugs and the prayers. Yes to the power of positive feelings, thoughts, actions, and beliefs. Peace and Light...Gary.

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      Gail Sobotkin 

      6 years ago from South Carolina

      Dear Gary,

      Sometimes we're going along and it's clear sailing for awhile and then something unexpected, like your accident and the death of your father, triggers a cascade of effects that can easily overwhelm us with anxiety, pain and suffering. I commend you for sharing one of those times with us and also showing the empowering ways one can respond in such a difficult situation. It is particularly hard to take action when we're in pain and physically or emotionally weakened, but those are the exact times when we must find the strength to do so. Prioritizing helps and I can see you're already doing that. I shall say a prayer for healing for you and your wife tonight.

      Also sending Hub Hugs,


    • qlcoach profile imageAUTHOR

      Gary Eby 

      6 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      rochelj: Thanks for your support. Here's to the positive that overcomes all that is negative. Peace and Light...Gary.

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      6 years ago from USA

      Wow, it takes courage to share so much of your personal life. good luck to you.

    • qlcoach profile imageAUTHOR

      Gary Eby 

      6 years ago from Cave Junction, Oregon

      Rosemay50, I appreciate your comments about this hub. Thank you for the support and your caring attitude. Life is too short to worry it away. Peace and Light...Gary.

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      Rosemary Sadler 

      6 years ago from Hawkes Bay - NewZealand

      Your writing and sentiments are inspiartional to us all.

      I was sorry to hear that you have so many worries right now.

      These things are sent to test us. We have hit many worries in our lives but don't we all come out of the other side usually a little wiser and more grateful for what we DO have. For all the negatives there are twice as many positives.

      All of the worries as you say will get sorted one way or another. I hope things turn around for you very soon.

      Best wishes to both you and your wife. Take care my friend


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