How to Prevent a Divorce During This Covid-19 Lockdown
How to Prevent a Divorce During this COVID-19 Lockdown
Almost everyone must be aware of the deadly pandemic novel coronavirus disease (COVID-19) by now and how it is spreading to countries far and near. So far, 194 countries have been affected and according to worldometer website, there are 423,724 confirmed cases and 18,925 resulting deaths.
The coronavirus disease (COVID-19) is easily transmitted when you come in contact with the mouth (coughing) or nose droplet (sneezing) of an infected person. Due to this, most countries have embarked on a nationwide lockdown as a drastic measure to curb the further spread of this deadly disease.
However, while this lockdown is termed to be the best course of action in fighting this pandemic, it is not without its downsides.
With the lockdown progressing and more countries joining in, marriage relationships are deteriorating fast due to couples being confined to a space. Couples are seeking divorce, unable to cope with each other's continual company anymore.
Before the lockdown, couples found a way to get along and whenever an argument came up, there was always the option of one party talking a walk until tempers were calm.
China, the origin of the novel coronavirus disease (COVID-19), has long since entered this lockdown of major parts of the country and with this came the expected breakdown of relationships with lots of couples filing for divorce.
However, you can guard against the breakdown and collapse of your own marriage if you find yourself in a lockdown by following these steps:
6 Ways to Prevent a Divorce During this COVID-19 Lockdown
1. Rule Out the Option of Divorce
You should expect and prepare your mind for some argument and possible bickering the longer you both stay locked up within a confined space. However, while your relationship (and your patience) will be tested this period, you should rule out divorce as an option.
Knowing divorce is not an option will make you both focused on the relationship and seek out ways to make things work.
2. Have Your Own Space and Alone Time
Even within that confined space, you should each carve out your own space. This will serve as an escape and a possible succour when things start to get overwhelming.
It can be anywhere, so long as you both respect the fact that space is for the other and should not be crossed.
You can also have some alone time and can also decide to do anything during this time, like start that hobby you've been putting off, hold a video chat with friends who are also on lockdown, stream blockbuster movies online, anything that would be of interest to you and keep the fun going for you.
3. Lay Down Some Ground Rules
Some ground rules might also come in handy at this time.
Ground rules like respecting each other's alone time, not keeping tabs of hurts and offences, not sleeping over a perceived offence, and keeping an open line of communication will do well to keep your relationship strong during this lockdown period.
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4. Practice Extreme Patience
Being a good partner this quarantine or lockdown period will require a lot and one of the things or qualities you would need is some patience: lots of it, actually.
When a couple first meet, it is not unusual for them to put their good foot forward all the time,however, the longer they've been together, the more they relax and feel a lot freer to be themselves.
Before now, you coped with these shortcomings by seeking a little escape outside the house, with this option gone, you'd have to make the very conscious effort to be patient when you see your partner's dirty socks or underwear on the floor instead of in the laundry basket or a when your partner repeatedly hammers on an issue, even after you've promised to see to it's change.
5. Make Up Your Mind to Forgive and Tolerate Shortcomings
It won't be all fun, laughter and intimacy during this COVID-19 lockdown. You will get on each other's nerves and might even hurt each other by your words or action at some point.
However, if you develop the mindset to not just tolerate each other's shortcomings, but to also forgive the other even before they hurt you, you will see your marriage coming out stronger and better at the other side of the coronavirus disease lockdown.
You should also practice some conscious and random acts of kindness, just like you both did at the start of your relationship.
Time and the daily cares of life can make us forget the love and kindness we showed each other at the start of the relationship.
Of course, this is not saying we don't act kindly towards each other, but these kind acts are so few and far between, they sometimes don't make an impact when they do come.
Rediscover those little things your partner loves and make the conscious effort to do them when they least expect and see just how those little efforts snowball into one mighty atmosphere of love and friendship.
Other Fun Things to Do this Period
Other fun things you both can do this COVID-19 lockdown period include:
1. Watch reruns of your favourite movies together. Spending time apart is not all there is to strengthening a marriage. Spending quality time together just having fun or goofing around is just as important and will also serve to strengthen your bond.
2. Come up with brilliant activities for the kids as anyone with kids knows bored kids can be a handful and a royal pain. If your kids are kept busy with games, you would have some alone time to yourself as well.
3. Keep abreast of the coronavirus disease (COVID-19) situation and do it together as a couple, that way you'll have a topic of interest to discuss on.
4. Maintain your health and the health of everyone in the house and this includes taking immune boosting meds, supplements and foods like chicken soup, garlic, vitamin C (of foods rich in vitamin c like papaya, lemonade, strawberries and other citrus fruits) and take lots of fluid.
5. You can also do some other fun activities together like baking, reading to each other, binge watching movies on Netflix, giving each other a massage, going retro to play hide and seek (with the kids), throwing a mini party for the kids (just to rake the tension and anxiety away), doing a house cleaning, playing boggle, or writing an ebook or articles for your blog blog or favorite third-party earning site.
Other Facts about the Coronavirus Disease (COVID-19) You Should Know
Other key facts about the COVID-19 virus include:
1. There are 420,724 confirmed cases, with 109, 172 recovered, 18,925 deaths , and 295,627 active cases.
2. The virus has an incubation period of 2-14 days and those with severe cases (5%)), usually succumb to the disease within this time.
3. There's a 3.4% mortality rate of the virus.
4. COVID-19 is caused by a new strain of the coronavirus called SARS-CoV-2 that causes fever, dry cough and respiratory distress among other symptoms.
5. Recommended ways to reduce your risk of this virus include washing your hands with soap and water for at least 20 seconds, making use of a hand sanitizer if you can't get to soap and water, maintaining a social distance of at least 6 feet, wearing a protective face mask, and keeping your immune system active and functional
This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.
© 2020 Farrah Young