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Ways To Comfort Others And Cope With Depression And Anxiety

Updated on March 10, 2014

You play a role in supporting your family and friends!

Many people we know become depressed for different reasons. For many it's a regular occurrence. Here's what to do to help:

What to do:

  • Listen carefully to what they say and how they feel
  • Sympathize
  • Tell them how much you care and love them; you would miss them if they are gone
  • Reason with them- make sure they are safe and if not call 911 or if on phone ask them to call 911 or get help
  • Contract for safety- make sure they promise (if over phone) they will call 911 if they feel worse

empathy: is an art of the heart
empathy: is an art of the heart
I made this for you..
I made this for you..
I Love You
I Love You
Life is precious- so are you
Life is precious- so are you
I wish you laughter and joy today
I wish you laughter and joy today
You are unique, and there's no one quite like You.
You are unique, and there's no one quite like You.

Some Coping Skills For Depression and Anxiety

Try these coping skills. They are proven to work really well. I myself like to journal, pray, take deep breaths and talk to a friend. Go here for even more info on coping skills.

  1. Be flexible. Know what you can change and what you can't, go with the flow, be open to changes.
  2. Laugh more. Watch a funny movie, tell a joke, read the comics.
  3. Breathe slowly, deeply, and well. Relaxation begins with slow, deep breathing from your diaphragm.
  4. Learn to say "no". It's hard to say no sometimes, but recognize you can't do everything, pace yourself.
  5. Go ahead and make mistakes. No one's perfect. The only way we really learn is from our mistakes. Accept them as the natural process of growing in wisdom.
  6. Play... with a lover, a friend, a child, a pet. Having fun is the natural way of lowering the body's stress hormones. Stress tenses, play loosens.
  7. Get active. Exercise brings out the body's endorphins, natural pain-killers and pleasure-producing substances produced inside every one of us.
  8. Eat well and avoid stimulants. A healthy diet makes the body strong and increases a sense of well-being. Watch those double-lattes. Caffeine and nicotine put more stress on our musculature and nervous system.
  9. Talk to others. Sharing life's difficulties and problems with another person, whether a co-worker, friend, spouse, lover, or counselor, allows one to shed the weight of burdens shouldered alone.
  10. Face your difficulties. Problems have a tendency to mount quickly, until there can seem so many as to be overwhelming. Tackle them one at a time. Set achievable goals. Your day will seem appreciably lighter after even one dreaded task is tackled.

    Plus. . .
  11. Allow yourself to mourn. Changes, even good changes, can bring a sense of loss for how things used to be. You have the right to grieve this loss. In fact, everyone needs that time. . . to adjust, to reminisce, to care, to process.

If you suffer from excessive stress, anxiety, or panic attacks, you may wish to consult with a psychologist or other mental health professional.

Helpful Hotlines and websites

National Suicide Prevention LifeLine

Are you in crisis? Please call 1-800-273-TALK

Are you feeling desperate, alone or hopeless? Call the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 1-800-273-TALK (8255), a free, 24-hour hotline available to anyone in suicidal crisis or emotional distress. Your call will be routed to the nearest crisis center to you.

  • Call for yourself or someone you care about
  • Free and confidential
  • A network of more than 140 crisis centers nationwide
  • Available 24/7

(Other lines to call -in New England is Samaritins: This website has numbers for UK as well. And you can become a volunteer! It's a great way to give back.)(Also, if you need, there are Warmlines- these are local mental health lines run by peers instead of calling an emergency line--If you just need to talk. This website lists several states with warmline numbersAnd you can ask your therapist or psychiatrist for more info on Warmlines.

Please note this hub was written by ME...with help (provided links) from other sources.

~May God Bless You Today, and Always~

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    • schoolgirlforreal profile image

      schoolgirlforreal 6 years ago from USA


      Hi! Thanks for stopping in. Good point...though some are so upset emotionally all they can do is vent or talk...depends on the person. Recently a friend talked to me...I would hate to have someone I know do it, so yeah that makes sense. Some people have support groups for people who have loved ones who passed ..anyways thankyou very much for the compliment :)

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      Lori Colbo 6 years ago from Pacific Northwest

      Outstanding hub schoolgirl. Very good advice and information. It is also a good idea to let the suicidal person know that the statistics for loved ones committing suicide after you commit suicide are very high. By doing yourself in, you are putting your family members at risk as well. Thank you SGFR. Good job.

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA


      thank you again, for gracing the page with your comment:)

      I agree with you to be calm and confident as much as possible so that you "keep the other person's attention and they trust your help" I think the Samaritans are trained to be this way, I think they are a very helpful organization. Sometimes I've found that people just need to be listened to, and to feel someone CARES. This alone SOMETIMES really helps.

      I believe you are the type of person who would reach out to someone if you felt they were in need.

      I'm sorry you have lost many to this unpleasant demise.

      In our busy world I think, today especially, people may be tempted to give up but when they realize they may be hurting their loved ones, or how much they really care...they may decide not to be hasty.

      Thankyou very much for commenting on this subject.

      Your friend, Schoolgirlforreal

      Ps anyone reading this who in is need, please call 911 or your hotline. Take care. and God bless always.

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      Mike Lickteig 7 years ago from Lawrence KS USA

      Your suggestions are very sound and I hope that they can be of help to someone who reads these words because they (or someone they know) are in need. I would suggest that as you listen to someone who is feeling suicidal, the most important thing you can do is listen well. Show your support and caring in a relaxed and confident manner. This is often very difficult to do because the situation is literally life or death, but if you seem worried or scared, the suicidal person may shut down. They need your love but not your fear.

      I have lost several close friends to suicide who took their lives without giving me or anyone else a chance to help them. It is such a tragedy and it should remind us to reach out to others before things get desperate--if we wait too long, we might be too late.

      Thanks for sharing this, the information is extremely important.


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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA


      Yes I am sure God forgives people, we know he does. Sometimes we can say we're sorry as we are dying, and sometimes we are too mentally sick to understand fully what we're doing. Sorry Dave. It must be hard. Living w/ such terrible torment is awful..sometimes I wonder how I'm going to continue, but I keep on. We must leave everything in God's hands. God bless you Dave, you are such a good person. TTYS


      the most important thing about "preventing suicide" which is not in your case at all, is to inform the public of this country that we will offer help, that we are there for them, what the warning signs are, and that they don't have to 'end things' over a 'temperory problem'. I hope that gets accross to people and not to feel embarrassed to ask for help. People care. They really do. Unfortunately in our country we have now so much STRESS.

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      Dave Mathews 7 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      Schoolgirlforreal: My sister's death was not natural, sadly she fell off from her sixteenth floor balcony, as for it being suicide or a sin is between God and Her.

      I strongly believe, maybe because I want to believe that when medicine has failed, and can do no more, especially when medicine is actually attacking the body rather than mending and healing it, that God knows, He knows that there is no other answer, so maybe he assists by letting the ill know that He will forgive, under such circumstances. I need to believe this is the case for Brenda.

      Brother Dave.

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA

      Dave, my friend, thankyou for stoping in ! :)

      "Suicide is a permanent solution for a 'temporary' problem"!! Yes! I have heard this many time being said, it does make sense, doesn't it? :)

      Wow--I have heard that physical illness can cause mental illness......this is a very interesting concept. I heard that oral health-teeth and gums- is essential too to overall body health. It's like (it is) all of our body parts work together and if one if 'off' the others can be too.

      Wow, her medicines caused the failure? I know that psych meds, some cause high cholesterol, diabetes, and weight gain, not to mention dry mouth (affects teeth) and many other symptoms. Doctors have even told me and friends "If you want to save your mind, you have to sacrifice your body too" Is this not outrageous??!

      Brother Dave, I hope your sister died naturally (if she did pass) and didn't commit suicide for her sake. You and I both know that suicide is a sin.

      Wishing you blessing today Dave, in memory of your sister..God bless you.

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      Dave Mathews 7 years ago from NORTH YORK,ONTARIO,CANADA

      Schoolgirl: I love the line you wrote here,"Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem." In most cases, true.

      Having dealt personally with my sister through crisis after crisis over the past couple of years, I also learned that using reverse phsycology sometimes is a strong deterant though temporary. My sister's depression was caused because one by one her internal organs were deteriorating and failing, until finally she reached the point where medicine could do nothing more for her, because her medications, were the cause of the failure. It was a catch 22 situation till finally she reached the point where nothing in medicine worked anymore. Medicine or the failure of medecine failed her.

      Brother Dave.

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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA


      I'm glad things are going good for you with the 60d2 I hope! And thank you so much for stopping by, your comment is very special. :)

      I'm so glad you had a chance to stop by

      Love SG

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      India Arnold 7 years ago from Northern, California

      Hey Hub buddy! Sorry I haven't been around lately, the 60d2 has taken so much time, but I always try to come by here to read your work. This is a very brave hub SG. I am always amazed at just how strong you can be, and your advice here and information you share is without a doubt going to help someone who is in great emotional pain. You are special and gifted in your compassion as your own difficulties wrestle with your daily happiness. This to me, is a real heroic hub my friend!

      Big Friendly Hub-Hug just for you Hbff!

      ~always choose love~


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      schoolgirlforreal 7 years ago from USA


      Thankyou so much for visiting and reading my article. SGFR

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      jasper420 7 years ago

      great hub great advice very usefull