ArtsAutosBooksBusinessEducationEntertainmentFamilyFashionFoodGamesGenderHealthHolidaysHomeHubPagesPersonal FinancePetsPoliticsReligionSportsTechnologyTravel

I am a woman with Asperger's Syndrome - Sensitivities

Updated on June 1, 2014

Take this quick poll

Do you hate socks?

See results


For as long as I can remember I have had a problem with clothes. I have always tried to fit in, so growing up in the 80's where everyone was wearing skinny, tight jeans wasn't very easy for me. I did it though, to try to fit in.

People of all ages on the spectrum have major sensitivities to numerous things. Clothes are just one of them. Certain fabrics are usually avoided, they can't be too tight, sometimes even special socks are needed, or no socks at all!

For me, I need to be able to breath in my clothes, and to move around freely. I can't "do" tight, but I do wear jeans, they just need to be extremely stretchy or loose. I, as well as many others on the spectrum, find something that they are very comfortable in and don't feel the need to change, for quite a while! For me it's scary thinking about changing into something else, because that something else isn't going to be as comfortable as what I am currently wearing. Transitioning into a new outfit is hard.

Also I like to stick to the same colors, no major patterns or polka dots/stripes! Dark colors usually. And the same "style" if I even have a style.... I like to look the same I guess, day after day.

Socks can be a big issue, if you cannot line up that toe seam just perfectly. Sometimes it is just easier to avoid socks at all costs!

And then of course tags.. I don't know anyone on the spectrum who is not bothered by tags. Mine are all cut off as much as possible without putting a hole into my piece of clothing. Any tag or piece of fabric that is scraping against me, even just the slightest, will drive me insane.


I have different reactions to heat and cold. Honestly I'd rather be freezing I guess. Too much heat, like jumping into a shower that is too hot, will make me physically ill, and FAST! Too much cold and I will be angry, my mood just goes downhill. I will also have a very hard time trying to warm back up.

I cannot take baths because of the moving water around me, I can barely take a swim anymore either. I get nauseous very quickly. If I am in a bath and the water is too hot I will be sick to my stomach. I mainly have to take lukewarm showers, and quick ones at that.

I know of many people that have issues with heat and cold on the spectrum. It is like our bodies just cannot regulate properly. It is easy for us to overheat, and/or freeze!


This is also something that most people on the spectrum have to deal with. We cannot seem to be able to take the required dose of medications. We get side effects more so than the average person.

For me, if I need to take something new, I will refuse capsules because I need something I can break down so I can take it piece by piece. I will always start with a small piece and wait a bit to see what kind of reaction I will have!


No body likes too much noise! But for people on the spectrum too much noise could lead to a meltdown. Perhaps falling down in tears covering your ears, or maybe having a fit of rage! Covering your ears of course.

Too much noise is over stimulating. We cannot concentrate, or think. We can easily become overwhelmed. What happens to me is I will start to feel a lot of pressure in my head, like it may explode, my eye's might even shake a bit, and my mood will start to go downhill.

We just need to escape for a bit and find a quiet place to go, with absolutely no interruptions to be able to de-stress. It's really the only way I will be able to calm down. I think all aspie's benefit from a good "time out" here and there!

Oh that bright sun....!

A lot of people on the spectrum have an issue with that big bright light in the sky!! And also certain types of indoor lighting.

My eyes are quite sensitive outside when it is sunny, my forehead will hurt and it takes my eyes a while to adjust. Also going out in the winter when the sun is shining on the snow is a killer!

Some people are sensitive to some indoor lights. My eyesight seems fine with bright lights, but it's the noise or "hum" that some lights give off that gets to me!

Overly emotional

Saying overly emotional just doesn't quite seem to say what I am trying to say. Our emotions are like a ticking time bomb. If someone says one wrong thing to us it could feel like the end of the world. Or maybe if we were expecting something to happen and it doesn't, it's ALL over!

My family would say to me they had to "walk on eggshells" around me when I was growing up. One false move and I would explode.

Trying to separate our thoughts from our emotions is very difficult for us. And sometimes trying to turn off a certain emotion can feel impossible. We feel emotions stronger and for longer periods of time.


We also have the capability of turning off our emotions completely in extremely stressful situations. Sometimes we just don't know how to feel! We are confused. We freeze up.

Sometimes we come off as not even having emotions, which is crazy to think about because we feel so much inside, it just can't find it's way out properly..or at all.

We feel, OH we feel! Too much sometimes, and we don't know how to handle it. Too many strong emotions usually leads to a meltdown, and for me it's selective mutism. If there is too much going on within me I have to shut myself down. I will not talk, I will retreat to my bedroom, I just need silence and to try and figure out what is going on inside of me.

If we could think logically when we are overly emotional we could probably solve the problem at hand a lot quicker. But I do not think we are able to think logically when we are in that sort of state, our emotions take over and it is not possible to think logically.

A good time out, and maybe talking with a really close friend/family member helps this situation a lot!


Does touching really hurt? It CAN! For someone on the spectrum that is! We don't always want to be touched, and usually need to know when it is coming, and in what form. A hug? A hand shake? A slight touch on the arm? We would really like to prepare for it, but we all know that is not possible all the time..

I avoid touching, it just feels strange to me. Being on a crowded bus sitting between two people squishing you, and then there's people standing in front of you so you can't get up to escape, is pretty much the worst thing ever. I get mixed emotions. I get angry for one. I am angry that these people are invading my space, how dare they! I get upset and scared, I need to escape I must find a way to escape! And I get disgusted. How dare these people who I don't even know touch me and squish into me like this!? I will actually feel sick.

No I don't like a lot of touching, but like other people on the spectrum I "DO" want to be touched by people I am physically attracted to. There needs to be balance however, not too much or I will get overloaded and probably have a meltdown. If I am in love with someone I will want to touch them constantly, it is very tiring though and I will need lots of breaks.

I do have children and do not feel odd touching them. I like to feel close to them.

But hugging family members I may not have seen for a year feels awkward to me, and these are my family members. It's a very strange thing...

I think if you expose yourself to hugs a lot you can try and get use to them. Maybe? :p

I've probably missed a bunch...

There is no way I can mention everything here, but these are the worst things for me.

Please share your comments, and also the ways you cope when you're in the middle of a sensory overload!

Thanks for reading.


I tend to eat the same thing for months, maybe years, without getting bored. Just like my clothes, I don't change what I eat very often either!

Some people on the spectrum like very bland foods, while I am the complete opposite. I need as many different flavors as possible, all at once. If I am having dinner and there are many different things on my plate I mix it all into one huge mountain of food. People think I am disgusting, but for me it's the most pleasurable way to eat food!

I know others don't even allow their different foods to touch on their plate, but not me!


This website uses cookies

As a user in the EEA, your approval is needed on a few things. To provide a better website experience, uses cookies (and other similar technologies) and may collect, process, and share personal data. Please choose which areas of our service you consent to our doing so.

For more information on managing or withdrawing consents and how we handle data, visit our Privacy Policy at:

Show Details
HubPages Device IDThis is used to identify particular browsers or devices when the access the service, and is used for security reasons.
LoginThis is necessary to sign in to the HubPages Service.
Google RecaptchaThis is used to prevent bots and spam. (Privacy Policy)
AkismetThis is used to detect comment spam. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide data on traffic to our website, all personally identifyable data is anonymized. (Privacy Policy)
HubPages Traffic PixelThis is used to collect data on traffic to articles and other pages on our site. Unless you are signed in to a HubPages account, all personally identifiable information is anonymized.
Amazon Web ServicesThis is a cloud services platform that we used to host our service. (Privacy Policy)
CloudflareThis is a cloud CDN service that we use to efficiently deliver files required for our service to operate such as javascript, cascading style sheets, images, and videos. (Privacy Policy)
Google Hosted LibrariesJavascript software libraries such as jQuery are loaded at endpoints on the or domains, for performance and efficiency reasons. (Privacy Policy)
Google Custom SearchThis is feature allows you to search the site. (Privacy Policy)
Google MapsSome articles have Google Maps embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
Google ChartsThis is used to display charts and graphs on articles and the author center. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSense Host APIThis service allows you to sign up for or associate a Google AdSense account with HubPages, so that you can earn money from ads on your articles. No data is shared unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Google YouTubeSome articles have YouTube videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
VimeoSome articles have Vimeo videos embedded in them. (Privacy Policy)
PaypalThis is used for a registered author who enrolls in the HubPages Earnings program and requests to be paid via PayPal. No data is shared with Paypal unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook LoginYou can use this to streamline signing up for, or signing in to your Hubpages account. No data is shared with Facebook unless you engage with this feature. (Privacy Policy)
MavenThis supports the Maven widget and search functionality. (Privacy Policy)
Google AdSenseThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Google DoubleClickGoogle provides ad serving technology and runs an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Index ExchangeThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
SovrnThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Facebook AdsThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Unified Ad MarketplaceThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
AppNexusThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
OpenxThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Rubicon ProjectThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
TripleLiftThis is an ad network. (Privacy Policy)
Say MediaWe partner with Say Media to deliver ad campaigns on our sites. (Privacy Policy)
Remarketing PixelsWe may use remarketing pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to advertise the HubPages Service to people that have visited our sites.
Conversion Tracking PixelsWe may use conversion tracking pixels from advertising networks such as Google AdWords, Bing Ads, and Facebook in order to identify when an advertisement has successfully resulted in the desired action, such as signing up for the HubPages Service or publishing an article on the HubPages Service.
Author Google AnalyticsThis is used to provide traffic data and reports to the authors of articles on the HubPages Service. (Privacy Policy)
ComscoreComScore is a media measurement and analytics company providing marketing data and analytics to enterprises, media and advertising agencies, and publishers. Non-consent will result in ComScore only processing obfuscated personal data. (Privacy Policy)
Amazon Tracking PixelSome articles display amazon products as part of the Amazon Affiliate program, this pixel provides traffic statistics for those products (Privacy Policy)
ClickscoThis is a data management platform studying reader behavior (Privacy Policy)