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Illusions of The Past

Updated on October 15, 2014

Looking way back into our past.

If it is filled with sweetness then good. If filled with regret then time to rethink keeping those memories. And good to remember those triumphs.
If it is filled with sweetness then good. If filled with regret then time to rethink keeping those memories. And good to remember those triumphs. | Source

Illusions of the past need to be forgotten.

We are not perfect but living in past mistakes is a sure road to the illusion that we are not worthy of success. Illusions of how bad we were keep us from being better. If we get stuck in the past then we live in illusions. Our vision of the past is faulty in most circumstances. We need to live in the now. Good judgement usually comes from bad judgement. Solutions are found in looking forward not backward.

If we look back and see the bad judgement that we exercised only then we are bound to repeat them. If we look back and see what the solutions were at that time then we are bound to live them in the now.

Just forget those feelings if they drag you down. Move on.

Let go of the images of the past.

No we do not mean all the images what we mean are negative images. You do not need to go see a psychiatrist and we are not talking about the ever so popular notion of repressed memories. We are not talking about warm fuzzy feelings we had nestled in our mother's bosom. We are talking about the images that we have that are condemning us to view ourselves as less than perfect.

How can a person who was the youngest of four move forward in the world if she still views life as everyone bigger, stronger and smarter than she. She must somehow treasure the feelings of security and yet rid herself of the image of being a youngest and smallest and needy. And certainly the oldest child must rid themselves of the feelings of being better than the rest. The comparative thoughts we develop as children must be treated as illusions. We grew up with the illusion of comparing ourselves to others and must "grow out of it".


Now here is an illusion to hang onto. We are all superheroes and should not forget such wonderful feelings from childhood.

A four year old my ask repeatedly: What is the best creature in all the world. Soon to find out they are all the best at what they are today.
A four year old my ask repeatedly: What is the best creature in all the world. Soon to find out they are all the best at what they are today. | Source

Illusion of perfection

Today many fall prey to a drive to become more perfect. Just think of plastic surgery. Wow what a concept. (we do not mean that which is necessary for health or repair) "If only my nose was smaller and by boobs were bigger". Just think of big cars that are unnecessary. Why does the computer programmer need a monster truck in his driveway? Everyone does not need to be a supervisor at work yet we all strive to be one. Why does an amateur writer on the net need more page views?

Shoot, there are even preacher men on tv that would have you believe that if you accept their version of God that you will have more in life. Kind of misses the point doesn't it? There are some who even claim that if you give more to their charity you will be a better person. And just watch or read beauty ads or articles, if you use their product or technique walla you will be more beautiful. And men take this pill and your wife will love you more.

We live in an illusion of "if I have or do this I will be more perfect". How sad is that?

All I need is a few things and a night on the town in some fine clothes.

You can remember the struggle or you can remember the summit!

There are no pretenses when you hike the long hard hike. You either finish or you do not. Although my pack was the heaviest ;-)
There are no pretenses when you hike the long hard hike. You either finish or you do not. Although my pack was the heaviest ;-) | Source

Are you satisfied in the now?

Is right now good enough or do you live in the future and the past.

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Satisfied with the now and striving for a better future are not mutually exclusive.

You can live in the moment and still shoot for the moon in striving for a more abundant life. There is a time and place and space and season for all things. Why not go to school in your fifties, believe me when I tell you there is more to learn out there. Why not make plans to accomplish goals. This is not a problem. The problem is in the illusion that it will make your life better.

We are not recommending to throw away your dreams we are simply suggesting that you dream more fruitfully. Do not dream of the past trials and tribulations and do not dream of the future as fulfilling what others think. Stop with the relativity of wealth and good looks and power you are the perfect you. And yes that you includes your hopes and aspirations and goals and dreams.

Here is a mantra that you can focus on. Please let me be me and a more happy me at that.

There was a man who was most giving of himself. Others saw this in him and loved him for it. But as he was helping the homeless and the needy he was always thinking that he was not good enough. You see, in his empathy toward others he envisioned himself the same and did not realize the treasure that he was. He was so full of self loathing that one day after helping to feed 100 people he went home and declared to his wife that he was worthless because he did not buy his wife a new car so she could be proud. He declared that he would stop spending so much time helping others and spend more time working to provide more money for his wife. She wiped away her own tears and reminded him that she loved him for who he was and his good and kind giving spirit. We all have a bit of this man in us. We become blind to what makes us special. And we sometimes succumb to the notions of the world and what would make us proud in their eyes. We need good people like spouses to remind us.

Perhaps many of us need to look at ourselves and what we offer and be satisfied with that. Oh and that man went on to build and operate one of the largest homeless shelters in California. Because while satisfied he still strives to help even more needy folk.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you friend

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      ahorseback 2 years ago

      How cool is that ! I'm proud of you and him Eric !

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Ed, it is a tough balance with our heads in the clouds as writers to stay in the here and now. My Son is his Vietnamese given name. My means America.

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      ahorseback 2 years ago

      Awesome message Eric , The here and now -The little super hero is one of perfection my friend ! ......Ed

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you so much for your support and great addition to this hub. You are so uplifting. Yes I am stuck here having way too much fun running and jumping and coloring.

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      Faith Reaper 2 years ago from southern USA

      Beautiful truths you have shared here, dear Eric! We can learn from the past, but today is the day to live in and enjoy each and every moment of this present time, for tomorrow is gone and tomorrow may never be ... Today is the day to live!

      Your photos are always so precious, especially of your darling son. You are blessed.

      I know you are living this day to the fullest. I am about to go and celebrate my grandson's two year old birthday.

      Life is good.

      Voted up +++ tweeting, pinning, G+ and sharing

      Hugs and love to you and yours

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      bigj1969, Thank you for the read and comment. I think you make an excellent point and fear is a huge factor.

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Don't dwell move on to a positive life I know what that felt like for me.

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      John Marshall 2 years ago from glasgow

      True words Ericdierker,a lot of people tend to live in the past,I personally think they are maybe afraid to move forward,maybe afraid of what the future may bring.its understandable,I did live in the past many years ago,but in reality I had to move on or it would drag me down.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Jaime, I think you are very right in summing it up in such a fashion. Thank you for that.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Denise I think that, as usual, one of the reasons I wrote this was to remind myself. Like you say easier said than done!

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      Denise W Anderson 2 years ago from Bismarck, North Dakota

      I tend to live in the future because I cannot accept the imperfection of the present! I know it is not good, and it tends to get me in trouble if I am not careful. Accepting my present means that I accept my own imperfections and weaknesses, as well as those of others. I know that doing so would increase my happiness and help me not worry so much, but it is easier said than done!

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      Jamie Lee Hamann 2 years ago from Reno NV

      It truly is a matter of perspective, our lives. Thank you for this great hub. Jamie

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Harishprasad you always add so much to a hub by your thought filled comments. I thank you.

      I have a business card that reads instead of "jack of all trades" -- "ace of all trades", most folks get a good chuckle out of it, as do I.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Thank you Maria of such a lovely comment. I live and hike here in the desert and a cool glass of drinkable water is often the highlight of the day. You hit the nail on the head with that experience.

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      Harish Mamgain 2 years ago from India

      This is such a good life lesson that we all should ponder. Every one is very strong in certain aspects and very weak in others. So, in a way, we are a mixture of a few perfections and also imperfections. Once I watched on TV one of the most accomplished actors feeling low over his inability to play a guitar ! How interesting ! He can act very fine but can't play an instrument ! We all have our weaknesses and shortcomings but we are not alone, everyone is like that. Eric, thanks for reminding us of living our life in the vibrating and very lively now instead of brooding over our past mistakes and getting entangled in the lethal web of misplaced notions of the world. Voted up and shared.

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Bill I would not even have that energy to quiver. If good judgment came only from experience from bad judgment I would have the best judgment around.

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      Maria Antonia 2 years ago from North Carolina

      Eric thank you for writing this thought provoking and timely piece. So many people are caught up in their stories. Stories of the past and dreams of a better future. I have begun a practice of gratitude where I not only acknowledge the things that I'm grateful for but I allow myself to FEEL the moment, person, or thing that I am grateful for. Two days ago I went for a bicycle ride and forgot my water bottle and it was 82 degrees outside. The glass of cold, purified water that I drank when I got home was like heaven. The next day during prayer and meditation after speaking gratefulness for that glass of water I allowed myself to re-experience the cool, refreshing gift of clean water to drink. You can't get much more in the moment than that.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      If I lived in my past mistakes I would be a quivering mass of goo and never get up in the morning. True words my friend.