- Men's Health & Wellness
Impotency: A Woman's Point of View
Can Sexless Marriages Survive?
Impotency attacks many men, in addition to marital relationships. Many males experience anguish, anxiety, and anger when their sexual libido and performance declines or disappears. Often times, the marriage becomes stressful and sexual dysfunction becomes an undertow and winds up in divorce.
Suddenly, sexual intimacy becomes unimportant and a distant memory. Many couples tend to avoid any contact whatsoever, because they know it will only let them dissatisfied or frustrated. So, they choose to 'pretend' sex doesn't matter and 'believe' the marital bond will remain strong and understanding when sex can no longer can be enjoyed.
Some women might be okay without human contact, tantalizing touches, and passionate interludes. But, for other women, sexual desires do not disappear because their partner can no longer perform.
Oh, just get over it, you say. There are other ways to achieve sexual satisfaction without orgasm. Yes, there are, and many appease sexual desires with vibrators and other man-made equipment. While, still others might suggest a faithful partner, material comforts and companionship are all that is needed to fulfill the void caused by impotency.
Getting used to life without sex, not only robs sensuality and self-esteem, but can wreak havoc in a relationship. Females who enjoy sex may find it difficult to accept a life without intimacy and sexual fulfillments. They may feel living with a partner who cannot perform is beyond their capabilities and becomes less desirable.
A woman may begin to view her partner who is similar to any other person on the street, someone to converse with and execute the appearance of marital bliss. The attractiveness about this person might vanish, and disagreements, fault-finding, and undesirable traits may become evident. The loving relationship may be replaced with cold empty feelings. Many times impotency becomes the target of a man's frustration, and he expresses low self-esteem with degrading remarks when referring to his wife. Anger and depression can, not only eliminate his ability to have sex, but stifles desirability for him.
Should women get 'used' to a sexless marriage, 'pretend' to enjoy man-made sexual apparatus', or 'make believe' sex is not important and allow their need to die? And, die they will, right along with the woman and her wonderful sensuous personality.
Basically, a woman has three choices when living in a sexless marriage: 1) Improve the situation (if she can); 2) Accept a life with no hopes of sexual fulfillment; or 3) Leave the marriage. Male enhancement supplements might improve the situation, and acceptance might only be a temporary fix, and problems may compound within the marriage. Needless to say, ending a marriage is a drastic step, but many women feel a celibate and unhappy relationship is not worth the anxieties and frustrations within themselves.
Impotency is not only about men, but society seems to focus solely on what they lost. He is not alone in feelings of low self-esteem when the love light dies. No amounts of conversation, material assets, or sex toys can replace the 'real' thing. Some suggest a woman should accept her lot in the relationship, and accept the sexless marriage. But, women are not the only ones that have lost something!
Unfortunately, when a woman chooses to leave her long time partner to find sexual satisfaction in the arms of another, she may be made to feel degraded or ashamed. But, does she deserve to be ridiculed? Should she deny natural desires, and accept a relationship without sexual expectation or fulfillment? No! If she's given the marital union adequate opportunities to improve, or supplements did not change the situation, from a woman's point of view, she must be true to herself and do what is right.
However, denying natural desires and choosing to remain in a sexless relationship may not be the best choice. Marriages should include wonderful experiences and healthy sex. The decision must come from within each of us, including responsibility acceptance the decisions we make.