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Jealous of Other People's Success

Updated on April 6, 2017
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Devika enjoys sharing her work with a friendly community. Writing is a big part of her life. Online work has improved her lifestyle.

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Jealousy and Hatred

Are you jealous of other people's success?

People are jealous in every part of this world.

Jealousy is bad and hurts good people.

Being threatened by other people's success affects you a lot more when living in a small community as I.

Life changed and everything went in its own direction as I went in mine.

I see how others feel about me having something of my own.

They too want to do something of their own but, are trying to make me look bad in this process.

There are mixed emotions about life.

I am working hard for something I need to for myself and those people are just trying to destroy what I have with their selfish minds.

Competition is good and can go the wrong way if one behaves in such a manner.

My opened mind allows for a different approach.

If they are half or anything at all like me this would be handled in a most respectful way.

They are trying to make me feel bad in their spiteful and jealous acts.

When together it is difficult to speak to them or start a conversation.

These people look at me as if I am the one doing wrong, and are jealous of them to go ahead with the opening of their business.

Success is good when it comes to you with your own hard work!

Insecure and inferior as they are, and have always been toward me, this has shown me their true beings.

Jealousy is evil and I am just so disappointed in the way they chose to react on such times.

Their fake smiles and conversations came by surprise.

I find that hard to accept from people with whom I often had laughs and good meals together.

Since I am reaching out to my goals freely their feelings are hate and anger toward my success.

People who were once close to me and made me think they are the good ones, have pretended to be nice and are opening up their true feelings.

I honestly see their behaviors and spitefulness towards me with a clearer mind.

I am trying to see this as another experience and not to see everything in a negative way.

Greedy, selfish and the need to have for themselves and for others to have none is what I have discovered from many individuals.

Comparison and competition is what I am faced with, and chose to ignore what I know won't affect me.

I learned a lot and live in this small community in the way that makes me happy, and won't let that make me unhappy.

I enjoy and celebrate the good that happens in other people's lives, if only they could be as I am?

The jealous behaviors from these people have triggered my thoughts about how people can be around me. Especially those who I had spent time with and who had tried to impress me.

My life, my ideas, and my everything is good to me and for me.

The poor relationships recently developed with such people have opened my eyes to true, and interesting behaviors.

When something goes well for me a few will celebrate, and others don't want to hear of it.

I feel grateful to have the positive people close to me.

On the one side of a coin one will feel inferior to others and on the other side one will feel on top.

At the end of the day the winner takes it all.

I am the winner because I have love, happiness, laughter and true smiles all the way.

Wherever I go, and whoever is present there, it is I, who brings out the attention and spark in that crowd.

My personality is bright and cheerful for all to see.

My success has nothing to do with anyone, and I don't measure up to anyone.

Others feel they have a need to measure up to me.

It is normal to be jealous of someone else.

I don't take everything to heart.

People are often jealous and feel they need to be better than others.

Feeling jealous of others is not a good emotion.

Being jealous is part of human experience. It feels worse when you experience jealousy with those close to you.

People who are threaten by the success of others should look deep into their souls and get out of that experience.

Stay focused on the positive outlook on life.

In my case, these people are jealous of my success and choose to have something similar to my business because they know I am doing well.

This is gone to their heads and feel threatened by my achievements.

To begin with, you should feel happy for the other person's success, and not feel envy or angry for what that person has.

People need friends to find each other.

Anyone can be successful.

Life is special and people make their own lives.

Competing with others is just foolish and a waste of life to have to be part of such experiences.

Success is to be admired not despised.

Whatever you do with yourself or for yourself, it is your choice.

Other people shouldn't be part of what is not welcome in their lives.

First, they should try to be successful on their own to avoid being jealous on others.

That pot of gold is not for everyone.

Why are you getting jealous or feeling threatened by the success of others?

Focus on yourself and leave others alone.

Ignore that person feeling jealous and threatened by your success.

Instead of feeling that way do something to improve yourself.

People do well when they want to do well or when they choose to do well.

Others don't see it that way.

The problem in my case, these people are wealthy but want to compete to show me they too can achieve something from tourism.

A problem that affects many people but, I feel it disappointing to see this behavior.

They made me feel welcome and together and close. To have to experience their jealousy is rather strange.

I trusted they will always be nice but lately have changed towards me.

It shows on their faces and that has surprised me.

Now, I have become the bad person in the eyes of others.

In my heart, I know I am not bad and don't see them as bad.

The moments we shared and this experience don't go together.

What does jealousy of other people's success do to you?

Jealousy of other people's success causes hate, anger, you feel you are on a lower level, a lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, and the feeling of undeserved.

People who feel they haven't achieved enough for themselves are threatened by the success of others.

The negative thoughts fill the minds of jealous people.

Fear or failure affects such types of individuals.

You can begin with failure and everyone fails but you must never stop trying to succeed.

Don't let fear stop you from making a choice or from becoming successful.

In different cultures people see different ways of coping with negative thoughts and of jealousy.

Jealousy is in every culture and tribe.

Note:

Jealousy, hatred, anger, competition, less achieved, negative thoughts and selfishness are part of unhappy lifestyles. Fear, inferiority, lack of self-esteem, self-confidence, and poor communication, understanding of one another can ruin friendships.

No matter how good of a friendship you think you have with someone, there is often that jealous feeling that would come in between your friendship.

This happens when you don't have a true friendship and in most cases you eventually see the true side of this person.

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      Devika Primić 11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Paul Kuehn thank you for stopping by at my hubs. I appreciate you sharing my work. Best wishes to you.

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      Devika Primić 11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Fiddleman thank you for commenting. A topic that is common among us and sometimes difficult to deny how one feels about jealousy.

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      Devika Primić 11 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi peachpurple it has been a while since read something new from you. Thank you for sharing your opinion here.

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      peachy 11 months ago from Home Sweet Home

      that is the problem with us humans, alway jealous of the more successful people, not willing to work hard, when will we change?

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      Robert Elias Ballard 12 months ago from Zirconia, North Carolina

      Jealousy is one of those unseen emotions that only torment the one who is jealous. In our family we have one who is constantly seeking recognition and toots his own horn on a regular basis. He comes from a family of 14 siblings and each one has issues each time his picture and name appears in the local rag. Lies!! They say. For whatever reasons jealousy is the culprit. Sadly they are right and no I'm not jealous.

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      Paul Richard Kuehn 12 months ago from Udorn City, Thailand

      Hello Devika! It is human nature for people to be jealous and envious of others, especially when they are young. I think it is caused by competition and thinking that the person who won out over you is not really the most qualified. The older I get, the less jealousy and envy I have for other people. Thanks for sharing this hub. I am sharing this with HP followers.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      aviannovice thank you for comments. I appreciate your kind efforts in visiting my hubs. I so agree with you!

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      Deb Hirt 14 months ago from Stillwater, OK

      When people do well and have success, it pleases me to know that I have winners in my life. It also helps me to be able to work harder, so that I too will do well. After all, if we have good role models in our lives, it spurs us on to never give up and strive to do a good job.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Shyron E Shenko thank you for that have a great weekend my friend!!!

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      Shyron E Shenko 14 months ago from Texas

      Devika, no I am not jealous of someone's success. I believe in the old saying: "Envy is the sorrow of fools".

      Valuable information here.

      Blessings my friend.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      AliciaC thank you for sharing that. Jealousy is definitely a negative consequences and I am glad you understand my point of view here thank you.

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      Linda Crampton 14 months ago from British Columbia, Canada

      I'm sorry that you have experienced jealousy in your community, Devika. Jealousy can have all kinds of negative consequences. It's a very destructive emotion. As usual, you've raised some good points in your article.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Mel Carriere Great words from you thank you for that. I so agree with you I appreciate you stopping by at my hubs.

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      Mel Carriere 14 months ago from San Diego California

      It is hard not to be a little envious of other people's success. That being said, the right thing to do is just accept it graciously and quietly, and keep our feelings to ourselves. Wise words.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      fpherj48 Thank you for commenting. Jealousy is definitely not part of my life. I sometimes fail to understand human behavior over other people's success. As always your comments give more to think of in my life. You too have a good one!

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hello MsDora thank you kindly for sharing that my life has challenges that I can surely cope with a smile.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Hi Michael-Milec thank you for a valuable comment always a pleasure to read what is on your mind.

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      Paula 14 months ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Devika....As always, you have given your readers a great read. Jealousy, the nasty Green Monster. He's one to avoid at all costs. If I think way, way back, I may have experienced a sort of jealousy as a child. Refraining from jealousy requires maturity and life experiences.

      Once we reach a point in life where we realize we achieve the goals we invest in, it's rather foolish to get into comparing ourselves to others.

      I find it easy to be happy for others because in the majority of cases, it's obvious people put forth effort and work hard to get to a position or to have the finer things in life. It's a normal feeling I think to also want these things, but begrudging someone else is not the way to get there!..........Have a good evening, Devika. Paula

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      Michael Milec 14 months ago

      MsDora, - your words are message of wisdom.YY.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 14 months ago from The Caribbean

      Yes, Ma'am. You certainly have it going on. and when one is as satisfied with his or herself as much as you are, it is senseless to covet. We all have successes in different ares of live and it helps to appreciate what we have and admire what other people also worked had to achieve.

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      Michael-Milec 14 months ago

      Learning from your sum up Devika, jealousy is evil, wrong and harmful destroying a persons soul as well as relationships. On the other hand, to loving people jealousy is strange, rather as in my case I rejoice of any succes of people who sincerely work hard and are known by their positive contribuition to society, being happy by nature which produces healthy environment.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      suzettenaples Thank you for sharing that. I appreciate all comments.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      word55 Thank you for stopping by. I try to keep the writing going daily but with my summer job I find it a difficult task to keep up to.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      always exploring, Definitely a fact about jealousy. Thank you.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Ericdierker, Jealousy is a negative trait. Thank you for stopping by always a pleasure to read comments.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      billybuc, That is true! Thank you very much for stopping by I appreciate your efforts.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Kylyssa Jealousy is bad and can affect people in many ways. Thank you very much for commenting so glad to read your comment.

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      Devika Primić 14 months ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Thank you for commenting will check that link.

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      Treathyl FOX 14 months ago from Austin, Texas

      Philippians 2:3 - Do nothing from selfish ambition or conceit, but in humility count others more significant than yourselves.

      Read more at http://www.christianpost.com/buzzvine/7-important-...

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      Kylyssa Shay 14 months ago from Overlooking a meadow near Grand Rapids, Michigan, USA

      Jealousy can be very harmful to those who indulge in feeding it in themselves. Most feelings that come from insecurity and self-hatred combined with fear are self-destructive and self-defeating if given reign over our behavior.

      Seeing others achieve success just makes me say inside myself, oh, look sometimes hopes and dreams do work out!

      I haven't really ever understood why parents and society teach people that jealousy is good and positive. It's not like other people have to not succeed so I can. Success in life means so many different things to people that there's plenty of it for everyone.

      The thing is, if we are supportive of other people we are more likely to succeed ourselves. Success breeds more success so long as you don't step on other people to succeed.

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      Bill Holland 14 months ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm wondering if there is a person alive who has never been jealous. I think it's one of the most natural character traits there is....and it can be one of the most destructive as well if left unchecked. As always an interesting reflection.

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      Eric Dierker 14 months ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Good job. It is always good to read your work Devika. Boy O Boyo I do not want what my neighbor has I have plenty of my own issues.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 14 months ago from Southern Illinois

      Jealously is a wasted emotion. It hurts the person who is jealous more than the other person.

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      Word 14 months ago from Chicago

      Hi Devika, I see you're still writing strongly. Glad I'm not a jealous person. It's a stressful emotion to have. No room for it. I'm happy to see you writing like you do. Keep up the good work.

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      suzettenaples 14 months ago

      I can honestly say I am not a jealous person. I am happy for others successes even those that have more than I do. I have been on the receiving end of jealousy and it is not fun. You have written a good analysis of jealousy in this world.