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How to Keep Calm and Move On After Losing a Job

Updated on August 30, 2014

Keep Calm and Move On

Keep Calm and Move On
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The Impact of Losing a Job

Losing a job can result from layoffs, downsizing, career changes, company restructuring or dissolving, retirement, health issues or life choices.

Whether being downsized, being fired from a job ending or a company dissolving is understandably going to have a major impact both personally and professionally on a person and all of his or her dependents.

Layoffs and company different than leaving a job. When leaving a job the employee makes the choice.

With a the loss of a job the choice is made by an employer, manager or company; this type of loss is generally out of the employee's control.

People are often surprised to discover that losing a job or becoming unemployed can result in feeling grief, the same feeling experienced following any other sudden unexpected loss or death.

Understanding the normal response to grief, learning several healthy coping strategies and using some positive, encouraging statements can help in keeping calm and moving on after being let go from a job.

Upsetting Your Career and Life

"It’s completely normal to feel panic after a job loss.

In fact, it may feel like the rug has been pulled out from under your career—and your life."

Lynn Joseph, Ph.D., The Job-Loss Recovery Guide

Normal Responses to Loss

Grief is the normal response to losing something or someone that is important. Different people will have different reactions to a job loss, but there are some core common feelings that are experiences by those grieving a loss.

Common responses to the loss include: anger, betrayal, hostility, mistrust, numbness, anxiety, depression, embarrassment, fear, guilt, self-blame and an additional loss of control and loss of confidence.

In addition of the emotional responses a grieving person can also develop physical symptoms. Common physical responses to a loss include headaches, abdominal pain, digestive (or gastrointestinal) symptoms like diarrhea or constipation, muscle aches, difficulty concentrating, absentmindedness, insomnia and fatigue. Someone who has lost a job may increase alcohol or other substances to try and numb the pain.

Understandably, these symptoms and emotions can impact a person’s ability to think clearly and to continue to participate in normal functions of daily living.

These responses can vary widely depending on how the supervisors and company delivered the news about the loss or downsizing.

Dyer KA. 2002. How to Cope with Loss, Grief, Death & Dying - Professionally and Personally. Presentation for The California Maritime Academy.

Jobs Provide Structure, Purpose and Meaning

Being Productive at Work
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Jobs Provide Meaning

Our jobs are much more than just the way we make a living.

They influence how we see ourselves, as well as the way others see us.

Our jobs give us structure, purpose, and meaning.

Melinda Smith, M.A., and Robert Segal, M.A., Helpguide.org

Secondary Losses Experienced with the Loss of a Job

When someone loses a job, there are additional or secondary losses that accompany the job loss. Some of the secondary, other losses that may result in addition to the job loss include:

  • Loss of income
  • Loss of security
  • Loss of professional identity
  • Loss of purpose or meaning
  • Loss of self-esteem
  • Loss of confidence
  • Loss of routine
  • Loss of work social network
  • Loss of social status
  • Loss of benefits

These secondary losses may be even more difficult to manage and harder to cope with than the initial job loss.

Keeping Your Head After Losing Your Job - Radio Interview

Common Normal Responses to Job Loss

Personal Responses
Professional Responses
Numbness
Anger at how the job loss was handled by managers or company
Depression
Distrust of employers
Anxiety
Jealous of others who have not lost a job or been downsized
Loss of Control
Distrust of company
Anger and Hostility
Distrust of management
Loss of Confidence, Self-blame
 
Feeling like a failure
 
Embarassment
 
Fear, guilt
 
Adapted from Wilken C. Learning to Live Through Loss: When Job Loss Triggers Grief.

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If you liked Dr. Robert Leahy's radio interview consider getting his book where you can learn how to recover after losing a job, improve self-confidence and restore well-being.

 

Coping with Job Loss - Dr.Dr. Frank Doberman

Healthy Ways of Coping with Loss

When coping with a loss it is important to focus on the basics making sure to eat health foods, exercise, manage expectations and stress.

  • Take it one day or even just one hour at a time.
  • Maintain a normal routine.
  • Make health food choices.
  • Find a healthy way of managing stress. Breathe, meditate, exercise.
  • Regular exercise can relieve tension and boost mood.
  • Don't take the job loss too personally.
  • Try to maintain a sense of humor.
  • Reach out to those who can support and encourage you.

This short list of healthy coping strategies are ones I have been recommending to patients, friends and family.

Tips for Coping with Job Loss - Dr. Sudeepta Varma

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Use Positive Statements

What you think, the soundtrack of the mind, can impact how you feel and change the reality.

The greatest discovery of all time is that a person can change his future by merely changing his attitude.

Oprah Winfrey

Finding a favorite positive quote to repeat as a motivational mantra whenever feelings of fear, doubt or self-blame can help in shifting the internal soundtrack from negative to positive statements.

"Keep Calm and Move On," "Trust the Journey" and "Breathe, Just Breath" are simple, positive quotes that can create a shift.

Keeping positive quotes so you can see them (e.g. posters, mugs, jewelry etc.) can provide a visual cue to get you thinking of being positive any time the quote is seen.

Keep Calm and Carry On

Canvas Expressions Art Board - Keep Calm and Carry On
Canvas Expressions Art Board - Keep Calm and Carry On

The Classic, Keep Calm and Carry On, but in a more soothing shade of mint green, may be a calming way to cope with loss.

 

Blessings in Disguise

What seems to us as bitter trials

are often blessings in disguise.

Oscar Wilde

Look for Open Doors

When one door closes,

another one opens;

but it is torture in the hallway.

An Unknown Wise Person


Turn a Failure into Success

There are many, many examples of famous people who lost jobs or had significant failures before they experienced success.

Einstein, Oprah Winfrey and Michael Jordan are just three of the highly successful people who found a better path and turned a failure into a success.

Use these examples as inspiration and motivation the good outcomes can happen to help in making it through the challenging initial days following a job loss.

Motivation from Famous Failures

10 Tips for Moving On After a Job Loss

  1. Acknowledge the loss, but look to the future.
  2. Focus on the things you can control or change, instead of what cannot be changed.
  3. Take Care of Yourself (Eat, Exercise, Sleep Manage Stress)
  4. Keep a positive attitude.
  5. Maintain a sense of humor.
  6. Remind yourself that your job does not define you.
  7. Write out a list of positive traits and job skills.
  8. Regard finding a job as the new job.
  9. Be open to new ideas and new opportunities.
  10. Contact positive, supportive friends, family and social networks.*.

* Being in touch with family, friends and social network may help in brainstorming, open doors and lead to unexpected, unanticipated opportunities.

Maintaining a Sense of Humor Can Help

Whether dealing with the loss of a job or another major loss, humor can help make it easier to cope with loss.

Therapeutic humor specialist and author of The Healing Power of Humor, Allen Klein stresses the importance of humor with unbearable losses:

Humor can help you cope with the unbearable so that you can stay on the bright side of things until the bright side actually comes along.

Being able to maintain a sense of humor can be key in coping with a major loss.

Silly expressions, like Yoda's version of the "Keep Calm and Carry On" "Calm You Shall Keep and Carry On You Must" are an easy way of using humor as a positive humorous statement.

Let the Force Be with You

Funny Guy Mugs Calm You Shall Keep And Carry On You Must Ceramic Coffee Mug, Green, 11-Ounce
Funny Guy Mugs Calm You Shall Keep And Carry On You Must Ceramic Coffee Mug, Green, 11-Ounce

Yoda's humorous expression twist mug will remind you to of the wisdom to "Carry on you must." Hmmmm

 

Find a Positive Humorous Expression to Repeat

Humorous and silly expressions, like "Keep Calm and Move On" or Yoda's version of the "Keep Calm and Carry On" "Calm You Shall Keep and Carry On You Must" are an easy way to use humor as a positive statement that you can read and repeat to yourself to keep focusing on something funny instead of thinking of the losses.

Yoda's mug with the classic expression "Calm You Shall Keep and Carry On You Must" is a fun way to keep smiling and keep the force with you as you face everyday challenges.

© 2014 Kirsti A. Dyer

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    Kirsti A. Dyer 2 years ago from Northern California

    Thanks for the encouragement Elise. New Zealand is one of those places definitely on my bucket list to travel. Sounds like healthy living working on the farm. Hope you share pictures in your hubs.

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    Elsie Hagley 2 years ago from New Zealand

    Great hub with lot's of helpful advice. Over the 30 years of being in the rag trade and factories closing down and going off-shore. I just kept moving on to the next job until in 2002 the last factory in Taranaki NZ closed down. I then semi retired with my husband on to a beef and sheep farm at the age of 62 and we are still working on the farm together in out seventies. Enjoy life. Have many internet friends and writing helps me to keep alert and my mind healthy.

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    Kirsti A. Dyer 2 years ago from Northern California

    Ironically, I teach grief, loss and bereavement graduate courses, so you'd think it would be easier. It is still challenging. The best advice I can give to myself is to not take it so personally. Sometimes, a lot of times, it's just business.

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    Jim 2 years ago from Kansas

    The sudden changes are the worst. I got kicked to the curb by the same company several times over a 20 year period. It can be pretty rough. Good advice here.

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    Kirsti A. Dyer 2 years ago from Northern California

    Thank you Dr. Bill. I am hoping that the advice might be helpful for many of us who are making the unexpected, sudden transition from Squidoo to Hubpages.

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    William Leverne Smith 2 years ago from Hollister, MO

    Great set of advice. Thanks for sharing! ;-)