Learn How To Control Your Thoughts And Emotions By Practicing Awareness
Awareness
People that are observant are more aware of what is going on around them. They notice things. When you make an effort to notice things you are making an effort to obtain knowledge. With practice you can make it a habit. You can be more aware of the external world around you, your body and your thoughts. If you are thinking about the past or the future your are less aware of the present. Fantasizing also reduces your awareness.
When you are in the present moment there is only what is going on around you and within you. You are not distracted by things that are not there. So you notice more things. It is a good way to improve your intuition and luck. Not only are you more likely to notice the things around you but you are more likely to notice your body and your thoughts.
Breath Control
The way you feel is influenced by the way you breath. So if your breathing does not match the way you want to feel then you should change it. It is really easy to change the way you breath. When you think about your breathing you have total control. Practice being aware of your breathing. If you stop paying attention it can have some control over you.
Try taking control of your breathing now. You can slow it down, speed it up or stop it. If you want to breath like a happy relaxed person switch to deep slow belly breathing. At first it requires some effort but if you practice it can become your normal way of breathing. When that happens you do not need to think about your breathing as often.
Thought Control
People have lots of thoughts going through their mind. Some of these thoughts can make you feel good and others can make you feel bad. If you want to change the way you feel then change your thoughts. Lets say someone did something you did not like and you spend most of the day being angry. The incident is in the past. The only reason you remain angry is because you are thinking about it. If you are aware that you are making yourself angry then you can stop it by thinking of something else.
When you catch yourself having thoughts that lead to feelings you do not want then think about something that makes you feel the way you want to.
Emotions
Being more aware of your breathing and your thoughts allows you to have more control of your emotions. You can experience the emotion you want more frequently. It is also important to be aware of what you have been doing lately. Thinking happy thoughts and breathing like a happy person does not always work. Your actions are also important.
You can figure out why you feel the way you do by being more aware of what you have been doing and how it has made you feel in the past. I sometimes feel bored. To figure out why I feel bored I just need to compare what I have been doing with the previous times I have been bored. I am often bored while sitting on the couch. So if I am sitting on the couch and I feel bored the simple answer is to get off the couch.
I noticed regular exercise causes me to feel happier and more energetic. A lack of exercise makes me feel unmotivated and my happiness is reduced. So if I feel unmotivated and a little depressed I can ask myself if I have been exercising enough lately. If you are aware of how your actions make you feel you can do things that lead to the emotions you want to experience.
When you are aware of how your breathing, thoughts and actions effect your emotion state you can gain more control of your emotions.