Let Go of Self-fishiness: Achieve a Life of Friendship and Joy

Nothing is greater than creating harmonious relationships with others, especially when it comes to friends and family members. In good relationships, people love each other and provide maximum support in challenging times. However, the dark quality of self-fishiness can threaten the unity of any cohesive-minded relationship.

A person entangled in self-fishness only cares about what benefits him. Although he wants you to listen to him, he doesn’t want to listen to you. He constantly puts his needs and wants before anybody else’s and complains when things don’t go his way.

However, a relationship can fall apart when you are not in accord with others. Bitterness, accusation, and isolation can enter the picture.

Taking Control

Are you that self-fish person? Do you find it hard to care about the needs and wants of those who are closest to you or the people you work with? Don’t feel bad. Everybody has struggled with self-fish at one point or another. The most important thing is to not allow it to take control of you and destroy the unity of the people who around you.

Failing to change will continue to damage your personal reputation with others and eventually back fire when you need help. There comes a time when you might need help form the very people whose needs you ignored constantly.

You don’t want this to happen to you, although you might not consider it important at the time. But when the moment of truth comes, you will experience shame and embarrassment.

Developing a Reputation for Kindness

Kindness is the key to overcoming self-fishness. But expressing kindness want be easy after years of embracing a self-centered lifestyle. Instead of ignoring others, you will have to acknowledge them. Instead of complaining about what others have done for you, you will have to forgive and forget the offense. Instead of bragging about yourself all the time, you will have to give praise to another.

Although your attempt to change will most likely be an emotionally episodic battle, you will become fully empowered to send kindness to those in your surroundings.

Your purpose is to develop emotional wholeness through the activities of kindness. Here are some things you can do:

• Smile more
• Compliment someone
• Buy a co-worker’s lunch
• Pay for someone’s coffee
• Acknowledge the people in the elevator
• Give someone else the ticket to the ballgame that you bought for yourself.

Kindness is powerful due to its potential to create unity and trust among family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers.

Acts of kindness will give you a sense of fulfillment that you are making a difference in the lives and affairs of others.

People are Hungry for Kindness

The truth is the people are hungry for love and you are the key. Learn to give love lavishly. The more you give to others the more it comes racing back to you. Reciprocal love overwhelms those who keep their heart open toward others.

Once you have established a heart of kindness, you will look back over your life and wonder why you wasted a portion of your life acting selfishly toward others. Now you understand that a mentality of kindness is far more superior than the state of selfishness.

The benefits of being kind are that you learn to trust others, thereby becoming a team player and letting others shine.

The most important thing is that you will inspire those who always knew you as a self-fish individual. Many times, people with similar attitudes change because you change.

The transition from selfishness to kindness is well worth the effort. Not only do you change your life, you build character as well as change the lives of others. Instead of emotional destroying someone’s day via selfishness you inspire their day with good words of kindness.

Are You Ready to Escape Selfishness and Experience the Joy of Life through Kindness?