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Let Go of Self-Centeredness: Achieve a Life of Friendship and Joy

Updated on June 29, 2017

Nothing is greater than a family or team that operates together in harmony. Everyone has each other back and lends maximum support in times of challenge and difficulty. However, self-centeredness can threaten the unity of any cohesive-minded group.

A person entangled in self-centeredness only cares about what benefits him. Although he wants you to listen to him, he doesn’t want to listen to you. He constantly puts his needs and wants before anybody else’s and complains when things don’t go his way.

A family or team falls apart when everyone isn’t on one accord. Bitterness, accusation, and isolation are always at the herm.

Taking Control

Are you that self-centered person? Do you find it hard to care about the needs and wants of those who are closest to you or the people you work with? Don’t feel bad. Everybody has struggled with self-centeredness at one point or another. The most important thing is to not allow it to take control of you and destroy the unity of the people who around you.

Failing to change will continue to damage your personal reputation with others and eventually back fire when you need help. There comes a time when you might need help form the very people whose needs you ignored constantly.

You don’t want this to happen to you, although you might not consider it important at the time. But when the moment of truth comes, you will experience shame and embarrassment.

Developing a Reputation for Kindness

Kindness is the key. But expressing kindness want be easy after all those years of embracing a self-centered lifestyle. Instead of ignoring, you will acknowledge. Instead of complaining, you will forgive and forget. Instead of bragging about yourself, you will praise another.

Considering Personal Change

Are You Ready to Let Go of Your Old Ways?

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Although your attempt to change will most likely be an emotionally, episodic battle you will become fully empowered to send kindness to those in your surroundings.

Your purpose is to develop emotional wholeness through the activities of kindness. Here are some things you can do:

  • Smile more
  • Compliment someone
  • Buy a co-worker’s lunch
  • Pay for someone’s coffee
  • Acknowledge the people in the elevator

  • Give someone else the ticket to the ballgame that you bought for yourself.

Kindness is powerful due to its potential to create unity and trust among family, friends, neighbors, and co-workers.

Acts of kindness will give you a sense of fulfillment that you are making a difference in the lives and affairs of others.

People are Hungry for Kindness

The truth is the people are hungry for love and you are the key. Learn to give love lavishly. The more you give to others the more it comes racing back to you. Reciprocal love overwhelms those who keep their heart open toward others.

Once you have established a heart of kindness, you will look back over your life and wonder why you wasted a portion of your life acting selfishly toward others. Now you understand that a mentality of kindness is far more superior than the state of selfishness.

The benefits of being kind are that you learn to trust others, thereby becoming a team player and letting others shine.

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The most important thing is that you will inspire those who always knew you as a self-centered individual. Many times, people with similar attitudes chang because you chang.

The transition from selfishness to kindness is well worth the effort. Not only do you change your life, you build character as well as change the lives of others. Instead of emotional destroying someone’s day via selfish-centeredness you inspire their day with good words of kindness.

Are You Ready to Escape Self-Centeredness and Experience the Joy of Life through Kindness?


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    • MsDora profile image

      Dora Weithers 

      16 months ago from The Caribbean

      Great article. Timely message. Well-presented. Thanks!

    • suraj punjabi profile image

      suraj punjabi 

      16 months ago from jakarta

      What a beautiful article! I can really identify with this as I do tend to be self centered. Which is not very good, especially when we go on vacation. It just ruins the mood. I do try to become aware when I am being selfish and self centered. If I don't my wife will make sure I do become. LOL!


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