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Life's Inevitable's and How to Deal With Them

Updated on July 22, 2016

We've all heard the saying, "Two things in life that are inevitable are death and taxes." I'll have to argue the tax statement, but for now...moving right along...As kids, most of us can remember having such a free spirit and no worries besides what Santa was bringing us for Christmas. As we grow older we become less and less innocent to the facts of life. We slowly learn about the things that happen to us and others around us that we have absolutely no control over. Some are better at dealing with the inevitable's than others are. Life is 10% of what happens to you and 90% of how you react to it. The best thing you can do is let whatever will be...just be.

You WILL Have Your Heart Broken

Everyone, from the time we hit puberty, will at some point or another have their heart ripped out, smashed on the floor, and stomped on. Plain and simple, folks. But trust me, it's not the end of the world. You ever heard people say only time will heal a broken heart? Well it's true. Don't go looking for another mate to mend the broken heart, because it will just cause chaos. We, as human as we are, create expectations for every relationship we are involved in. We swear that "this is the one". Don't consider every single boy/girl friend you have your future husband or wife. Sometimes we know this isn't our soul mate but we hold on to it for far too long hoping your gut instincts are wrong. Some people even end up marrying and then divorcing not too long after. My point is, yes...hearts will be broken, and it is inevitable. But give yourself time and maybe in the next relationship you will be able to lower your expectations. Oh, and by the way...a broken heart never gets easier to deal with. Just sayin!

Is It Just Me or?...

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Your Money Will Be Spent on Things That Suck!

Yes, it will indeed. Let's put it this way. My last paycheck was spent on rent, bills, minimal groceries, and cleaning supplies. ::sighs:: And don't be surprised if one day you wake up and your car won't start. Time for repairs on that car, which still by the way you are making payments for. Oh and let's not forget taxes (which I'm still going to argue - life in the wilderness is definitely doable...just not realistic haha.) Ahh...life's inevitable's. The best way to deal with this situation? Well...just grin and bare. No paid rent, no house to live in. No grocery bill, no food to eat. Catch my drift? Regardless if you make $100k a year or $25k a year, these debts will still be there and you will still have to pay them whether you like it not.

Things Can and Will Go Completely Wrong

The word of the day is "in-ev-it-a-ble". And this is one of those things. Life isn't perfect nor should you expect it to be. You might wake up to the upstairs neighbors toilet leaking onto your face. Maybe a raccoon raided your trash during the night. Maybe you get laid off of work along with 20 other people because the company can't afford to pay for so many employees anymore. The list goes on. But one thing is for sure you will get through it. Stay calm, call the landlord, pick up the trash, find another job. Positive thoughts cause positive actions which produce positive results!

People Will Make You Mad

Oh if this isn't the truth! You will be disrespected and it will make you mad. But don't go swinging or going back at them with vial words. The world would be such a nicer place if people would just calm the heck down! Just turn around and walk away. I know, I know. Easier said than done. If someone cuts you off on the road then proceeds to give YOU the finger and you're all like, "WTF?? YOU cut ME off! I should be giving YOU the finger!" Please, don't go chasing them down like speed racer trying to catch up to give them a taste of their own medicine. For one, it's dangerous, and two, karma is a hell of a lady! Be good to yourself. Getting mad causes stress. Look the other way and move on with your own life. Hate in your heart will consume you!

You May Have to "Cut People Out"...

Sometimes people can be poisonous to our own well being. They cause more drama than happiness in your life. The #1 person you should worry about in this life is YOU. After all, you cannot take care of the world if you cannot care for yourself. Sometimes the humble ones realize the pain they caused you and may give them a second glance at themselves. Forgiveness is totally an option at this point. But don't let negativity linger.

Death

The #1 most inevitable thing that we have absolutely no control over what-so-ever. It will happen. Some sooner than others. A lot of people consider themselves having "Thantophobia" or having the fear of death or dying. The fact is, we are ALL scared. We are all scared of the unknown. No one REALLY knows what happens after we die. This can make anyone uncomfortable. Don't hide inside the house because you're scared you might get hit by a car. Go ahead and sky dive! Don't deny yourself of the exhilaration you will feel when it's over and your safe on the ground. Everything happens for a reason and unfortunately when it is your time, it is your time. The best we can do is live our lives to the fullest, be good people, love and laugh as much as possible, and accept the things we cannot change. By doing these things, we may be able to see death as a fulfillment!

Chris T. Atkinson

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      Cocky Mommy 3 years ago from New Jersey

      Thanks for your comments guys! @dashingscorpio, as usual, you have some great feedback. I appreciate your opinions! @Camille Harris things will always go wrong but things will also go right. Good luck on your journey!

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      Camille Harris 3 years ago from SF Bay Area

      I love this one: "Things Can and Will Go Completely Wrong"

      I'm just now learning to be a proper Buddhist and not attach to feelings - whether positive or negative. When I'm feeling "up," I always have a nagging feeling that the other shoe will drop and things will go wrong. Guess what? Something bad always happens. But good things happen, too. The trick is in - as you've stated - how you react.

      Thanks for spreading the word :) Hubs like this are a great reminder of our shared human struggle.

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      dashingscorpio 3 years ago

      Voted up and useful!

      Although I will say that each of us gets to (choose) our own friends, lovers, and spouse. Therefore those who hurt us are those we (chose) to be vulnerable with, invest our time and emotion with.

      Most of us (fail our way to success) when it comes to love and relationships. If this were not so we'd all be married to our high school sweethearts! The truth is early on we enter into relationships before we figure out who we are, what we want, or need in a mate. We allow "happenstance" and "impulsive connections" to dictate our relationship choices. :)

      As you stated we'll all waste money on things which gain no value. However we do have control over whether we spend or save.

      Life is about learning. :)